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Tuesday Ryan-Hart
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Tuesday Ryan-Hart

Equity and Relationships at the Center of Systems Change

September 19, 2020

Tuesday Ryan-Hart leads large-scale systems change with a deep understanding and practice of how equity, when put at the center of new movements, frees the path to better ideas that work. She is a co-founder and partner of The Outside, an organization supporting efforts at making systemic change that centers equity into design and delivery to fuel the movement and big change beyond the way things always go. Tuesday believes that the impetus for social, organizational and systems change often starts with a ... Read full bio

Five Questions with Tuesday

What makes you come alive?
The light after the darkness. Being a survivor of significant childhood trauma, I know the darkness well.  And I’ve been diving into those dark places - sadness, loneliness, and pain - and then coming out the other side. Finding my own strength, knowing my own light, aware that this hard work of moving through the darkness is the RIGHT work for me.  And the truth of being in the darkness, being with the darkness, means that I’m not sure where it will lead me. I’m right on my edge, with the only clarity being my own compass.  
 
Like all of us, I don’t like to feel pain or distress or sadness, but like all of us, I have always carried it. But a truth with a capital “T” is that my light has always been bigger. I am able to carry the reality of abuse and oppression and devastation right alongside my aliveness and goodness.  I am not afraid to look at the darkness because it illuminates the light:  the truth of who I am. The ability to withstand, witness, and bear the truth of my really tough childhood experiences is part of my light.  
 
After the darkness there is always light. There just is.  And IN the darkness there is always light. There just is.   So my own seeking to be self-luminous is where I come alive. Finding that light inside me that is not, and cannot be, overtaken by the dark.
 
And, of course, that’s why I like working with impossible groups in impossible situations. Because I can see - even when we’re in the dark together - that we can find the light.  That it’s there. That there is a luminosity available to us, if we have the fortitude to stay together. 
A pivotal turning point in your life?
Oh, so many! I want to share a recent one.  Two years ago, I separated from and then divorced my partner of 20 years.  And I share this because my marriage was a good marriage. It was solid and worked in many ways, and my husband was a good man.  But - and this is why it was so pivotal - as good as my marriage was, there was no room for certain parts of me that were growing and calling for growth. Those parts just couldn’t fit in to the primary relationship I was in. I simply couldn’t grow in the ways I needed to grow in that context.  
 
And I chose growth. And choosing growth meant I had to leave. Even though it was a decision that, in many ways, made no sense from the outside.  It was an excruciating decision to make. And even though I knew it was best for me. Would eventually be best for my children and even their father, it was a hard leap to make. 
 
And it changed everything. I believe that there is something we are here to do. That we must go after ourselves courageously.  I believe that our own growth and expansion, our luminosity, is our responsibility to our work, the world, and to God.  
 
And I needed to be a person who did that.  
An act of kindness you'll never forget?
When my son was young, I went away to a short conference and had a nice time there meeting people from around the world and learning new tools for collaboration and dialogue.  And at the end of the conference, I said to the organizers something like, “I like the picture you are painting here, but I can’t find myself in it.” And they kindly invited me to sit in on a few more sessions and meet a few more people. At the end of that day, one particular man - who would later become a mentor and business partner - leaned over to me and said simply, “I hear we have some work to do together.”
 
The next week, I joined him in a large, 300 person gathering around healthcare and then a conversation on racial justice in a neighboring city. We worked together for 7 more years before he retired.  
 
And he really, really didn’t have to do that.  He was established. He was busy. He was doing meaningful work.  But, somehow, he just offered - just that simply and just that kindly - to bring me along with him.  And that’s how I started the work I do to this day. 
One thing on your bucket list?
I want to take a pilgrimage, but I’m not sure to where yet!  But there is something moving in me and my experience of the divine Feminine that wants to be met. I can feel my body wanting to move through space, to journey physically to a place, where I will commune with Her and deepen my understanding of the sacred.  It’s not formed but it’s on the list!
One-line message for the world?
Strong back, open heart.
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