This is the eastern way and we can gain a lot from this advice...we learn much more from our troubles than we do from our pleasures. The knee-jerk reaction is to be negative in one way or another when something goes wrong or someone offends you. It takes good soul qualities to turn a negative reaction around and exude light instead. When you think about it, it's only natural to be grateful for your best teachers. If you don't understand the entire teaching behind the Dalai Lama's sage advice, it might seem odd. There are many places to learn about it.