A packed room in Paris gathers not to reach consensus, but to practice something rare in today's world: disagreeing well. At the Night of Controversies, over 600 people engage in structured debates on divisive topics like border abolition and environmental authoritarianism, where participants speak in timed turns and the audience shifts their positions not through coercion but through listening. The Institute of Desirable Futures, which organizes these sessions, offers a third path beyond withdrawal or domination -- "listening to opposing opinions can enrich us," they propose, treating diverse perspectives as raw material for building a shared future. By the end of one debate on borders, nearly everyone's position had shifted in some direction, not because minds were changed by force but because understanding deepened. In an age when seventy-two percent of Republicans and sixty-three percent of Democrats view the opposing party as "more immoral" than other Americans, the event suggests that disagreement itself isn't the crisis -- our inability to navigate it is.