This article originally appeared in the Harvard Business Review and is reprinted here with permission. Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners, Inc., a global management consulting firm which advises CEOs and their leadership teams. He speaks, writes, and consults about how to lead and how to live. Peter has authored several books, most recently the award-winning 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done. More thought-provoking articles from him: When Nothing Works and Visualize Failure. Peter can be reached through his website
Lets remember dreams don't just fall into our laps we must open our hearts and reach for the stars. It's good to be lonely as we then appreciate good company. And last but least we are never
alone as God is "always" right beside us. Never allow anyone to break your heart though we are all to fractures of the heart. Defuse those angry or insulting comments by simply saying nothing.
Lend your smile to a stranger ... he may only need it for a brief moment. And remember to say something nice, or by doing a kind gesture for someone everyday and then we know we are doing our bit, in making this world in a better place than we found. Treat yourself well all the drop the bar for no-one ... as God will deliver you exactly what you deserve and need when He see;s it the perfect time to do so .. listen carefully prior to falling asleep, after your chat or prayers as this is when God's messengers (the Angels) deliver HIS message of LOVE HOPE & FAITH in the quietist hour ...
Well, I'm not the type of person, who easily gives up, but lately I'm coming to the point where all my responses to deal with all the appearing difficulties doesn't work and every thing is becoming just too much. For example: Trying to get a team together to live an alternative life style with people who are willing and ready to question themselves and their surrounding. Well, I tried now for 38 years and it didn't work, there is still no one who is ready to go beyond ones established mindset and do something in 'togetherness'. Now I am left nearly alone with a big mess, that has accumulated. Three broken vans, three broken fork trucks, a lot of material that needs to be sorted out - pretty overwhelming, but I do my best every day. Then the daily things: Computer doesn't work and does crazy things, Internet only works some times, the same with the telephone and so on... I have been working working every day for 12 hours for years, without any vacation...
Now when I read this article about doing 'nothing', then something was doing *click* and I see the truth in this and that there is a way to *let things happen* then probably my 'assistance' will not disturb!
Thank you for this inspiring article, that for sure can be applied not only in healing of ones disease, but also in other life conditions, that in a broader way are part of ones *healing*.
It sort of goes along with "first do no harm" (after all, even ibuprofen has its drawbacks). Good post. Thank you.
And I'd like to thank Daily Good for changing the way it does the quotes... no longer do I have to strain through the bright yellow enlarged quotes that used to serve as background for some of the most wonderful bits of wisdom. This new method is MUCH better for my tired old eyes. Thank you.
Well, It is great you shared your story. Sometimes if one tires, it is better to stop sometime and think other methods. But I think it is always prestige to know if the ways used were best depending how much knowledge one has about who they intended. I would say best way for conflicts is direct approach. It worked for because my face is read when it is face to face. I have another stupid behavior that when one wrongs me and I want to tell they are wrong I tell epic stories and I don't make concise statements about realm. But that doesn't work and it is not good as the person can have a lot of feelings/ideas. E.G dailygood did my example I thought of very different things I couldn't know which one is a joke or which one is true. You know, people like to get attention like me I say a lot of things esp socializing is to be somehow meaningful. That is why dailygood had been delivering messages. I tell you dad, am not against. am supportive, intelligent,caring and respectful even when people see me as a person they don't understand me. Most people say this guy is stalking, defiant and scaring. Reality is opposite because someone you didn't chat,live or personally talked to, is one you can't know very well. I always see people charging me simply I was quiet and others praising me because they believe am good. So best thing is to see one another and discuss major topics formally. If I know someone knows me in a crowd I do all I can to respect but if am not known I do silly things to entertain people around so that next time they at least smile on sight. But I can assure you son is your side have me this 100% grantee please. And tell me next thing so that I prepare for it. Am talking to you closely, dad and you still would like to be miles away.
A son said "trust me." to a mason father who read '6billion people and am single' this a well-known and loved book, written german Novelist. I liked this book 2006 but didn't complete yet it was been with me 2years. Thank you