This article originally appeared in the Harvard Business Review and is reprinted here with permission. Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners, Inc., a global management consulting firm which advises CEOs and their leadership teams. He speaks, writes, and consults about how to lead and how to live. Peter has authored several books, most recently the award-winning 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done. More thought-provoking articles from him: When Nothing Works and Visualize Failure. Peter can be reached through his website.
I've been angry at my ex-wife for 14 years. I've always known that most of that anger is anger with myself for allowing her to treat me the way she did. I've been trying to get over it, to stop being angry at her and at myself, but it's difficult. At least I recognize that anger for what it is. I suppose that's a healthy step.
Great article. I notice I've been angry at my wife of 39 years even though she could not be more loving and accepting of me. What gives? I'm going to consider who I'm really mad at. Thank you.
Thank you. I have noticed this in myself but have felt fairly powerless to do much other than regret it afterward. The advice to slow down and observe the crazy in my own brain before speaking is spot on.
In PSI Seminars they call those programs. I've started to write a book. I'm not telling you this because I want you to buy my book. After all I'm not selling it. There will only ever be one copy and anyone who wants to read it can, but it's really for me. It's called the Programming guide to Marc Roth. I recognized a program thanks to this post. It's called Impress your mother. Thank you for sharing.
This would have been more inspiring except for the fact that halfway through he points to his mother for his inability to learn intrapersonal communication as an independent adult...if that were valid i would have been in rough shape at a very early age. Although he does admit HE failed to outgrow the pleaser mode. Self-realization does come to some sooner than others...and more emphasis on the fact that the choices we make as adult thinking individuals is our own.
I had the pleasure of hearing Peter speak at TEDx MillRiver in April on the freedom that comes with admitting "I don't know" http://www.youtube.com/watc...
It was a wonderful TEDx event on the theme Revolutionary Innovation. My dyslexic husband shared the stage with Peter speaking on compensating for his disabilities with creativity. http://www.youtube.com/watc...
much of the misbehavior of children adults, celebrities ,leaders are high lighted in the media. glorification of trivialities should change. the media should have self restraint in its depiction.