The Decision To Change
Feb 13, 2024

4 minute read


All the external parts of your life are like a dream. The Talmud says if you really want to live, then die before you die. Let go of the shell you're in while you’re alive so you can get out of the cage that holds you. Then, share the message with everybody else.

Not long before I made the decision to leave the rock band, I invited a friend of mine over for Friday night dinner. We called it for 7 p.m., but as I continued to glance at the clock, it quickly went from 7:15 to 7:45. I looked at the food on the counter and realized he wasn’t showing up. My table faced the door, and I had left it wide open so I could hear him if he was lost and looking for it, but what happened instead changed my life. My neighbor Alex, who I had been cordial with but never really spoke to, saw me sitting there waiting, and said, “Hey, come on over and join us.”

Alex and his partner, their roommate, and I sat around the dinner table for about an hour and a half, talking about the band, touring, and all the great things we had accomplished.

Then, Alex looked at me and said, “Moshe, it looks like you have something weighing on you. What’s on your mind?”

I realized then he had a keen sense with people because we had just met, and there he was, absolutely right. I told him I was having second thoughts about the band.

“Well, do you have a picture of what you would like your life to look like in ten years?”

I hadn’t thought about it until he asked me, but I closed my eyes and could see a vision of who I wanted to be. It was so clear. I started describing the vision of a young man who was married with children, walking his kids to school, being involved in community work, and helping and assisting others with their spiritual pursuits. When I finished describing the vision I had seen, I looked at Alex, and his eyes were filled with tears.

“Alex, I know I paint a pretty picture, but why on earth are you so emotional about it?”

He looked me in the eyes and said, “I had that kind of clarity once. I chose to listen to others about what I should do and how I should live my life. I didn’t want to go to law school, but I did because of my parents, my scholarship, and a lot of external pressure. It’s been ten years, and I am just figuring that out now. Every day that goes by that you don’t take a step in the direction of your vision, you are adding a black and white pixel onto the screen of your life. Soon, the vision will be gone, the inspiration will fade, and you will have had your life chosen for you instead of choosing your life for yourself. Make a decision and start today.”  

After he said those words, I was changed. It was a moment of grace, a moment where I was given another chance and an opportunity to start again and live a life I wanted to live. They say people who are successful make decisions fast and change their minds slowly. People who aren’t successful make decisions slowly and change their minds fast. If you know, then you know. You can take a step or an entire leap. It’s up to you.

... My [invitation] to you is to make a change today and not care about the conditions of others, but rather the Three Conditions of your soul. These are the conditions that make you human, keep you alive, and open you up to a world of infinite possibilities and the fulfillment of knowing what you are here to do and be. I wish you so much blessing, success, love, and guidance in everything you are going to experience in your life. Shine like the sun and be a light for everyone in your life. Only you have the power to create the better you. Use your gifts and live your most joyous life. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Do something today to show your commitment to living that life you once considered a myth. If you’re happy, you’re helping. Let intention, joy, and certainty lead you to living a miraculous life. I love you.


Join a special live Awakin Call conversation on Sunday, February 18th with Moshe Gersht: No Mistakes in the Universe -- Creating A Roadmap for Personal Transformation. Details and RSVP info here.


Excerpted from The Three Conditions: How Intention, Joy, and Certainty Will Supercharge Your Life, Sounds True, 2023.

Rabbi Moshe Gersht "made it" as a pop-punk rockstar by the age of 20. He found himself wondering what living a successful life actually entails. This question led him to Jerusalem, where he experienced a spiritual awakening. He went on to spend two decades in Israel immersed in Torah study, prayer, and meditation as well as the mystical teachings of Kabbalah and Chasidus. Today, he is an international speaker, author, a meditation guide, and spiritual teacher helping people find fulfillment through self-discovery.

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