This article has been published with permission. Karen Horneffer Ginter is co-founder of the Center for Psychotherapy and Wellness and the author of 'Full Cup, Thirsty Spirit: Nourishing the Soul When Life’s Just Too Much'.
I love this article. It spoke volumes to me.
After I read bedtime stories to my 3-year old and before prayers, she always wants to go to the bathroom (even when she doesn't need to). It is probably a good thing but by that time of day, I am so ready for some alone time with my husband, that I tend to be a little impatient. Lately I've been doing my cat-cow breathing exercises (from yoga) while I wait for her. When she comes back, I'm doing downward dog and she crawls under my "tunnel", saying it's just like a carwash (we go to the drive-through kind). It makes me laugh every night and now it is something I look forward to instead of something that irritates me. Plus I think it makes her hurry, because she knows she has something to look forward to too. :)
In creating my new garden I am setting up small areas where I can sit down and take a break - enjoy gazing at the view or appreciating the work I have completed
Your post is timely for me today ... a Saturday in which I need to clean house, get the shopping done, and catch up on things leftover from my work week ... when what I really want to do is lay out on a lounge chair in this Indian summer sun, soak up the rays, maybe read some good fiction, maybe doze for a few minutes. Ah, but why don't I let myself do just that?
We are inculturated (I'm sure that's a made-up word, but it says it what I mean) with the idea that taking a break is "lazy," "unproductive," or "selfish." Or maybe we think it's a luxury we "can't afford." So we push ourselves to get more and more and more done within our waking hours. Looking at the sky? Well, that's just pure wastefulness! Or perhaps we'll suffer for it later by rushing to catch up.
You've reminded me that life is about more than producing. So today, I'm going to take a break, look at the sky, and sigh. Reconnect with the outdoors. Thanks.
I once worked with a team who agreed to have FAB breaks instead of 'fag' breaks. They recognised the camaraderie of people who went to have a ciggie together but felt it was unfair that there was no equivalent for people who didn't have the smoking habit. They agreed a Fresh Air Break would work for them.
And maybe nowadays that's become a FB break (for social networking)?