This fellow has a point, I think, in certain instances, but to write as if it's a broader answer and tact is an error. He writes:
"In other words, chances are, the reason you can’t stand that person in the first place, is that they remind you of what you can’t stand about yourself.Suddenly, working with people you don’t like becomes a lot more interesting. Because getting to know them better, and accepting the parts of them you don’t like, is actually getting to know yourself better and accepting the parts of yourself you don’t like."
This is so simplistic: If somebody is obnoxious, arrogant, and disrespectful, that means so am I ???? ..if I look deeply enough? I have a downside but it's not meanness of being unfair.
I imagine this is true for some, but not, by a long stretch, for many. It is possible for a person to be a selfish aggressor and mean spirited also (that being their primal agenda). Put that person in a 'one uP' hierarchy' and do it with a decent, civilized, well grounded person and you may have the same thing killers do their killed: Become king, because they can and will make the ultimate aggression.
O.K. enough of me and my shadow, I think the writer has a point but a very limited one.
My recommendation: consider the 'primal emotions' that many of these impossible situations elicit in even the most well adjusted person: protect yourself or perish.
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This fellow has a point, I think, in certain instances, but to write as if it's a broader answer and tact is an error.
He writes:
"In other words, chances are, the reason you can’t stand that person in the first place, is that they remind you of what you can’t stand about yourself.Suddenly, working with people you don’t like becomes a lot more interesting. Because getting to know them better, and accepting the parts of them you don’t like, is actually getting to know yourself better and accepting the parts of yourself you don’t like."
This is so simplistic: If somebody is obnoxious, arrogant, and disrespectful, that means so am
I ???? ..if I look deeply enough? I have a downside but it's not meanness of being unfair.
I imagine this is true for some, but not, by a long stretch, for many. It is possible for a person to be a selfish aggressor and mean spirited also (that being their primal agenda). Put that person in a 'one uP' hierarchy' and do it with a decent, civilized, well grounded person and you may have the same thing killers do their killed: Become king, because they can and will make the ultimate aggression.
O.K. enough of me and my shadow, I think the writer has a point but a very limited one.
My recommendation: consider the 'primal emotions' that many of these impossible situations elicit in even the most well adjusted person: protect yourself or perish.
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