Adam Grant is a management professor at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School and author of the new book Give and Take. His research focuses on work motivation, job design, prosocial helping and giving behaviors, proactivity, and leadership.
INSPIRING ARTICLE. After my graduation I had gone through a career guidance programme with the psychology dept of the University and the Prof had expressed concern stating that while everything was fine, there was one major issue that of a total lack of drive and ambition. To a question whether it was in the context of success and money, he replied in the affirmative. When asked whether life was not about making it interesting, living life fully and loving the life which you want to live and whether success and money were not incidental to what you do in life, he smiled and said that , as long as you have no issue about it, it is perfectly OK. Over the past 45 years I have led a very interesting life and have done whatever you can imagine. Most of the life we (incl my wife) have been more in the service space than in the commercial space, encouraging and supporting DOING. WHILE WE HAVE NEVER DRIVEN, NOR BEEN DRIVEN, WE HAVE ALWAYS MOVED AND BEEN MOVED BY LOVE, and the approach has always been to make a difference to whomsoever and whatever we have touched in our life. We have never had a shortage of money ever, and have been recepients of abundance in the form of generosity from people from all walks of life. We have led a SMART (SIMPLE, MORAL, ACCOUNTABLE, RESPONSIVE AND TRANSPARENT LIFE) LIFE and considers ourself blessed. We have learnt to or should I say trained ourselves to, accept life on an AS IS, WHEREIS, WHATEVER IS BASIS and consider the whole world as one large joint family.
I HAVE FOR MOST OF MY LIFE, PROFESSED THAT I AM " A SERVANT OF THE HEART!" I SPREAD COMPASSION, GENEROSITY, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, NON-JUDGMENTAL ACCEPTANCE, WARMEST OF HUGS, TOLERANCE, SMILES AND OFFER OF FRIENDSHIP! I AM BLESSED WITH MANY CARING AND LOVING FRIENDS! ALSO MY SONS, ESPECIALLY MY OLDEST SON JOE WHO IS MY FULL TIME CAREGIVER! WHEN WE CAN GIVE SOMEONE THE TIME THEY NEED, WE GIVE IT IF ABLE! WE GIVE OF OUR MATERIAL ITEMS GENEROUSLY !
( FOR THEY ARE JUST THINGS) THINGS CAN BE REPLACED, PEOPLE CAN NOT! AND IF A LOST ITEM CAN NOT BE REPLACED, IT STILL WAS A "THING", THANK GOD NOT A PERSON!
I HAVE MADE CERTAIN THROUGHOUT BOTH OF MY SON'S LIFE, THEY UNDERSTOOD THE VALUE OF ITEMS/THINGS, COMPARED TO THE VALUE OF A LIFE! THERE WAS A TIME I COULD BE MORE HELPFUL AND MORE GENEROUS, IN MANY WAYS! BACK THEN I WAS NOT POORER LIKE NOW AND I WAS HEALTHY THEN! MY FAMILY TEASED ME ABOUT HOW DETERMINED I WAS BACK THEN, TO HUG THE WORLD AND SERVE THE HEARTS, THAT NEEDED SERVED! NOW, I GIVE WHAT I AM ABLE AND DO NOT SPEAK OF SOME HELP, I GIVE TO OTHERS! I KNOW IF I AM GONE FROM LIFE RIGHT NOW! I CAN SMILE AS I GO! I HAVE DONE THE BEST I COULD FOR BELOVED FAMILY, BELOVED FRIENDS AND BELOVED STRANGERS! ( FOR, I LOVE STRANGERS ALSO) THIS IS PART OF MY LIFE'S STORY, MY PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS, IS IN HELPING OTHERS TO BE HAPPY TOO! SO MUCH LOVE AND HUGE WARMEST HUGS, barbie XXOO <3 :)
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You can't be good to others if you are not good to yourself.
Helpful, well-written article. It's always the both-and that trips us up: that we're not either a giver or receiver, but both.Thank you for your work.