Patricia's comment: When babies and children don't receive the love they deserve, they grow up with a big, black hole inside them. Not knowing how to fill it, they start wanting "things" in ever increasing amounts, which results in the plundering of the earth to try to fill up a void that can never be filled. Babies with traumatic births, and children raised with harsh punishments, grow up into angry, aggressive adults, looking for an excuse to fight some other person (or nation). It doesn't have to be this way. Consciously conceiving children, and raising them with respect, love and compassion would create a generation of gentle people who would care of the earth and all the other "earthlings" who live here. There is hope, even for those of us who were abused as children, because we can get help to heal and transform ourselves. And when we have transformed ourselves, we can start to transform the planet. - - - - - - Bei Yin: You are absolutely right Patricia! That's what I'm trying to point out in all my writings: To change the conditions of our world, we must start with ourselves! Each of us with *OneSelf*. Yes, babies should be raised with love fulfilling their most profound need. But an advice for a certain attitude doesn't help, even though the parents have the best intention to follow hints. As long parents have not cleared up themselves in their personal learning, growing and healing process, they will act and react out of their established structure. Only if they have transformed themselves, then their behavior will be the result that they can live and from there manifest in their daily life with all and every thing that shows up and so also with their children. For sure these children would raise up already with a certain sovereignty within themselves and will not so easily fall into the traps of substitutes... You are also right, when you tel about the 'big black hole' people carry with them due to the damage they have received in their childhood. But there is a view from a different angle: People are all structured by all the influences they have received in their life. One must not see them because of this as 'victims'. We should have the attitude, coming out of *trust* that whatever condition or happenings one encounters, that this is exactly what we need as a challenge, being able to learn and to grow through the process of relating and responding to this. With this attitude we can stay open and must not defend ourselves because we don't like what shows up. What means that it doesn't confirm our expectations... So then we miss the chance, trying to survive with our old, probably worn out, self image and erroneous mindset. So... might there show up a question?