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sont pas des étoiles, elles sont les témoins et les symboles de tous ces actes de courage qui se sont produits plus tôt dans la journée.</p><p> Eh bien, avons-nous remis le contexte dans son contexte, Sonesh ?</p><p> <b>Sonesh :</b> C’était incroyable. On a commencé par parler de contexte, mais on s’est rendu compte que c’est intimement lié à la compréhension de ce qui se passe en nous et autour de nous. Identifier les manques et faire des choix, comment les combler. Et beaucoup de ces choix concernent des moments profonds où il faut parfois se demander : est-ce le bon moment pour lâcher prise avec douceur, ou est-ce le moment d’agir ? C’est un laboratoire très riche où l’on expérimente comment donner le meilleur de soi-même. C’est ce que je retiens de notre conversation : accueillir cette approche.</p><p> <b>Pat :</b> Et je vous prive du plaisir de partager ces moments avec votre famille, du contexte même de vos recherches. Vous voulez être le père qui comprend vraiment, et vous voulez être présent. Et ce petit être vous dit : « D'accord, papa, c'est super, mais je veux me débrouiller seul. » Quelle joie dans votre réponse ! Je pourrais y penser toute la journée. Vraiment.</p><p> ***</p><p> <em><b>Rejoignez un cercle restreint ce mercredi pour une conversation avec Pat Benincasa sur le thème « L'art de vivre en transition ». 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Context surely changes everything. The meaning we give to actions of others and things expressed changes so much, based on context, and this Covid 19 context seems to have forever changed us. It is fasinating.</p> </div> <div class="comment-actions"> <a href="https://www.dailygood.org/story/2697/-iframe-allow-autoplay-frameborder-no-height-300-scrolling-no-src-https-w-soundcloud-com-player-url-https-3a-api-soundcloud-com-tracks-996373486-and-color-23ff5500-and-auto-play-false-and-hide-related-false-and-show-comments-true-and-show-us-pat-benincasa-sonesh-surana/?t=showComment&cid=9164#addcomment" class="reply-link" data-cmt-id="9164" data-cmt-author="Gloria Wright"><i class="bi bi-reply"></i> Reply</a> <span class="btn-light post_btn small"></span> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="comment-item" id="cmt_9149"> <div class="comment-container"> <div class="comment-avatar"> <img src="https://pod.servicespace.org/pics/mem/blank.jpg" alt="User avatar"> </div> <div class="comment-content-wrapper"> <div class="comment-meta"> <span class="comment-author">Kristin Pedemonti</span> <span class="comment-date">Mar 16, 2021</span> <a href="https://www.dailygood.org/story/2697/-iframe-allow-autoplay-frameborder-no-height-300-scrolling-no-src-https-w-soundcloud-com-player-url-https-3a-api-soundcloud-com-tracks-996373486-and-color-23ff5500-and-auto-play-false-and-hide-related-false-and-show-comments-true-and-show-us-pat-benincasa-sonesh-surana/?t=showComment&cid=9149" class="ms-auto link-icon text-muted"><i class='fa fa-link'></i></a> </div> <div class="comment-content"> <p>Thank you, here's to honoring context, seeking to allow surrender while also taking actions seemingly small to remain connected and kind. ♡</p> </div> <div class="comment-actions"> <a href="https://www.dailygood.org/story/2697/-iframe-allow-autoplay-frameborder-no-height-300-scrolling-no-src-https-w-soundcloud-com-player-url-https-3a-api-soundcloud-com-tracks-996373486-and-color-23ff5500-and-auto-play-false-and-hide-related-false-and-show-comments-true-and-show-us-pat-benincasa-sonesh-surana/?t=showComment&cid=9149#addcomment" class="reply-link" data-cmt-id="9149" data-cmt-author="Kristin Pedemonti"><i class="bi bi-reply"></i> Reply</a> <span class="btn-light post_btn small"></span> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="comment-item" id="cmt_9147"> <div class="comment-container"> <div class="comment-avatar"> <img src="https://pod.servicespace.org/pics/mem/blank.jpg" alt="User avatar"> </div> <div class="comment-content-wrapper"> <div class="comment-meta"> <span class="comment-author">Vinod Eshwer</span> <span class="comment-date">Mar 16, 2021</span> <a href="https://www.dailygood.org/story/2697/-iframe-allow-autoplay-frameborder-no-height-300-scrolling-no-src-https-w-soundcloud-com-player-url-https-3a-api-soundcloud-com-tracks-996373486-and-color-23ff5500-and-auto-play-false-and-hide-related-false-and-show-comments-true-and-show-us-pat-benincasa-sonesh-surana/?t=showComment&cid=9147" class="ms-auto link-icon text-muted"><i class='fa fa-link'></i></a> </div> <div class="comment-content"> <p>As is the nature of the universe, we get what we need, just when we need it. This conversation is just what I needed at this moment. My wife an I were trying to come to terms with the changes in our twelve years old son and his “online” behaviour.</p><p>Surrender: The point where our ego with its finite understanding steps back and the universe takes over with its infinite wisdom.</p><p>Thank you!</p> </div> <div class="comment-actions"> <a href="https://www.dailygood.org/story/2697/-iframe-allow-autoplay-frameborder-no-height-300-scrolling-no-src-https-w-soundcloud-com-player-url-https-3a-api-soundcloud-com-tracks-996373486-and-color-23ff5500-and-auto-play-false-and-hide-related-false-and-show-comments-true-and-show-us-pat-benincasa-sonesh-surana/?t=showComment&cid=9147#addcomment" class="reply-link" data-cmt-id="9147" data-cmt-author="Vinod Eshwer"><i class="bi bi-reply"></i> Reply</a> <span class="btn-light post_btn small"></span> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <script> $(document).ready(function() { // Toggle between short and full comments $('.see_full_cmt').on('click', function(e) { e.preventDefault(); var cid = $(this).attr('cid'); $('.short_cmt' + cid).hide(); $('.long_cmt' + cid).show(); }); $('.see_short_cmt').on('click', function(e) { e.preventDefault(); var cid = $(this).attr('cid'); $('.long_cmt' + cid).hide(); $('.short_cmt' + cid).show(); }); }); </script> </div>   </div> </div> </div> </div> </section> <script src="js/story.js?1aud"></script>  <footer class="footer"> <div class="container"> <div class="row"> <div class="col-md-5 mb-4 mb-md-0"> <h5 class="footer-title">About DailyGood</h5> <p class="footer-about-text"> For over 29 years, DailyGood has been a volunteer-led movement to share uplifting stories that connect hearts and inspire action — all without ads, agendas, or asks. 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