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محبت کا کیا مطلب ہے؟ دیکھیں کہ 4-8 سال کے بچے محبت کو کیسے بیان کرتے ہیں۔

پیشہ ور افراد کے ایک گروپ نے یہ سوال 4 سے 8 سال کی عمر کے بچوں کے سامنے کیا: "محبت کا مطلب کیا ہے؟"

انہیں جو جوابات ملے وہ اس سے کہیں زیادہ وسیع اور گہرے تھے جس کا کوئی تصور بھی نہیں کر سکتا تھا۔ دیکھیں آپ کیا سوچتے ہیں...

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"جب میری دادی کو جوڑوں کا درد ہوا تو وہ مزید جھک کر اپنے ناخنوں کو پینٹ نہیں کر سکتی تھیں۔ اس لیے میرے دادا ہر وقت ان کے لیے یہ کام کرتے ہیں، یہاں تک کہ جب ان کے ہاتھ کو بھی گٹھیا ہوا تھا۔ یہی محبت ہے۔"

ربیکا - عمر 8

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"جب کوئی آپ سے پیار کرتا ہے تو وہ آپ کا نام کہنے کا طریقہ مختلف ہوتا ہے۔ آپ کو صرف اتنا معلوم ہوتا ہے کہ آپ کا نام ان کے منہ میں محفوظ ہے۔"

بلی - عمر 4

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"محبت وہ ہے جو آپ کو تھک جانے پر مسکرا دیتی ہے۔"

ٹیری - عمر 4

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"محبت تب ہوتی ہے جب میری ماں میرے ڈیڈی کے لیے کافی بناتی ہے اور وہ اسے دینے سے پہلے ایک گھونٹ لیتی ہے، اس بات کو یقینی بنانے کے لیے کہ ذائقہ ٹھیک ہے۔"

ڈینی - عمر 7

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"محبت تب ہوتی ہے جب آپ ہر وقت بوسہ لیتے ہو۔ پھر جب آپ بوسہ لے کر تھک جاتے ہیں، تب بھی آپ ایک ساتھ رہنا چاہتے ہیں اور آپ زیادہ بات کرتے ہیں۔ میری ممی اور ڈیڈی ایسے ہی ہیں۔ جب وہ چومتے ہیں تو وہ بدصورت نظر آتے ہیں۔"

ایملی - عمر 8

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"محبت وہ ہے جو کرسمس پر آپ کے ساتھ کمرے میں ہے اگر آپ تحائف کھولنا بند کر دیں اور سنیں۔"

بوبی - عمر 7 (واہ!)

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"اگر آپ بہتر محبت کرنا سیکھنا چاہتے ہیں، تو آپ کو اس دوست سے شروعات کرنی چاہیے جس سے آپ نفرت کرتے ہیں۔"

نیکا - عمر 6 (ہمیں اس سیارے پر مزید چند ملین نکا کی ضرورت ہے)

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"محبت اس وقت ہوتی ہے جب آپ کسی لڑکے کو بتائیں کہ آپ کو اس کی قمیض پسند ہے، پھر وہ اسے ہر روز پہنتا ہے۔"

نویل - عمر 7

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"محبت ایک چھوٹی بوڑھی عورت اور ایک بوڑھے آدمی کی طرح ہے جو ایک دوسرے کو اچھی طرح سے جاننے کے بعد بھی دوست ہیں۔"

ٹومی - عمر 6

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"میری پیانو کی تلاوت کے دوران، میں ایک اسٹیج پر تھا اور میں خوفزدہ تھا۔ میں نے تمام لوگوں کی طرف دیکھا جو مجھے دیکھ رہے تھے اور اپنے والد کو لہراتے اور مسکراتے ہوئے دیکھا۔

وہ اکیلا ہی ایسا کر رہا تھا۔ مجھے اب ڈر نہیں لگا۔"

سنڈی - عمر 8

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"محبت تب ہوتی ہے جب ماں ڈیڈی کو چکن کا بہترین ٹکڑا دیتی ہے۔"

ایلین - عمر 5

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"محبت تب ہوتی ہے جب ماں ڈیڈی کو بدبودار اور پسینے سے شرابور دیکھتی ہے اور پھر بھی کہتی ہے کہ وہ رابرٹ ریڈفورڈ سے زیادہ خوبصورت ہیں۔"

کرس - عمر 7

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"محبت وہ ہوتی ہے جب آپ کا کتے کا بچہ آپ کے چہرے کو چاٹتا ہے یہاں تک کہ آپ نے اسے سارا دن اکیلا چھوڑ دیا ہے۔"

مریم این - عمر 4

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"میں جانتا ہوں کہ میری بڑی بہن مجھ سے پیار کرتی ہے کیونکہ وہ مجھے اپنے تمام پرانے کپڑے دیتی ہے اور اسے باہر جا کر نئے کپڑے خریدنے پڑتے ہیں۔" (اب یہ محبت ہے!)

لارین - عمر 4

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"جب آپ کسی سے محبت کرتے ہیں تو آپ کی پلکیں اوپر نیچے ہوتی ہیں اور آپ سے چھوٹے ستارے نکلتے ہیں۔" (کیا تصویر ہے!)

کیرن - عمر 7

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"محبت تب ہوتی ہے جب ماں ڈیڈی کو بیت الخلا میں دیکھتی ہے اور وہ نہیں سوچتی کہ یہ بے ہودہ ہے۔"

مارک - عمر 6

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"آپ کو واقعی 'میں آپ سے پیار کرتا ہوں' نہیں کہنا چاہئے جب تک کہ آپ اس کا مطلب نہ کریں۔ لیکن اگر آپ کا مطلب ہے تو آپ کو اسے بہت کچھ کہنا چاہئے۔ لوگ بھول جاتے ہیں۔"

جیسکا - عمر 8

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اور آخری...

مصنف اور لیکچرر لیو بسکاگلیا نے ایک بار ایک مقابلے کے بارے میں بات کی جس کا فیصلہ کرنے کو کہا گیا تھا۔ مقابلے کا مقصد سب سے زیادہ خیال رکھنے والے بچے کو تلاش کرنا تھا۔

فاتح ایک چار سال کا بچہ تھا جس کے اگلے دروازے کا پڑوسی ایک بزرگ شریف آدمی تھا جس نے حال ہی میں اپنی بیوی کو کھو دیا تھا۔

آدمی کو روتا دیکھ کر، چھوٹا لڑکا بوڑھے شریف آدمی کے صحن میں گیا، اس کی گود میں چڑھ گیا، اور وہیں بیٹھ گیا۔

جب اس کی ماں نے پوچھا کہ اس نے پڑوسی سے کیا کہا ہے تو چھوٹے بچے نے کہا۔

"کچھ نہیں۔ نمایاں مضامین ، میں نے صرف اس کے رونے میں مدد کی۔"

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Renee Apr 27, 2026
"How do you spell live?"
" You don't SPELL love, silly,
You FEEL It"
Pooh bear to piglet
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Vbl Apr 4, 2026
Lauren I’m sorry but it’s just a hand down
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Marina Jul 17, 2025
So beautiful, and so incredibly insightful. I loved all of the children's responses, but there was one that broke my heart: Billy, the 4 year old boy. His answer was, "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." This is a child who understands the distinction because he knows what "not safe" means; has something to compare it to.
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Korina - age 12 Jun 27, 2025
Love is when you go to school even if you are sick or if you are not feeling well just to see that one person that makes you smile and makes your days better.
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Jonah goldsmith Feb 5, 2025
Love is when your with someone you are in a relationship with, someone you talk to the most, someone you want to marry.
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Maddie brown Feb 5, 2025
Love is when my dad kisses my stepmom on the toilet
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Savannah Feb 5, 2025
Awww! We need more people like this in the world ♡
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Hamlett Dec 15, 2024
I needed that. Thanks
Need a printout of it. Printout
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Dedorah Oct 29, 2024
Love these. Adults should listen and learn.
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Yvonne Watkins Sep 14, 2024
From the mouths of babes. It doesn't get more honest. Their views on love speak from their hearts..
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Carl Brotman Aug 7, 2024
I thought all of these were terrific , and this one got to me the most because it lights up love as an experience .
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
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Dawn Feather Feb 19, 2024
This made me laugh and cry so sweet.
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Oshee Dec 27, 2023
What is the source of this?
Who were the "group of professional people"?
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Louise Oct 18, 2023
Love is wanting to be loved .
When you know your not.
It means your not worthy of being in someone's arms, and feeling at "home" forever!
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Renee Apr 27, 2026
That is so sad, isn't that the description of not being loved?
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Aston Baker Bagarukayo Sep 15, 2023
This is very good research . I am writing a book on parenting and have included a chapter on children understanding of parental love. Therefore am asking permission to quote some of these insights. I will recognize the source.
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sgdscbn Jun 30, 2023
i think love is shared moments with family; irrespective of if said family is chosen or blood, whether it be in hardship or joy
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Corinne Holcomb May 13, 2023
I think love is when you cannot stop looking at them and think about them all, THE TIME. I am there right now.
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Grandma Apr 8, 2023
Love is when a young mom or dad has a healthy baby but baby doesn’t want to sleep. They keep crying for no reason and the mom or dad keeps picking them up to calm them with love and kisses when mom or dad has had only an hour of sleep all night. Now that is love.
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Tamika Johnson Sep 26, 2021

But no kids said any of that this whole thing is made up. Give me a break.

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Renee Apr 27, 2026
I bet they did. I have heard kids say things as profound and simple at the same time quite often .
It's shocking how well they understand the important things in life. As we get older I believe society and it's rules and trying to do and say what's socially popular messes us all up.
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Gabrielle Oct 9, 2020

Love is seeing someone at their worst and still thinking, "Damn. I get to be apart of this person's life, what a blessing."

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Mathilde Oct 8, 2020

Hi,
Who is the original author?

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khfxfddhn Jul 26, 2019

love is when you help someone wether they need it or not by the way im 9

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hi Jun 4, 2017

Im 11 love is when you get in a fight but you forgive each other and resolve the problem together

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Jean Horner Mar 19, 2017

Lucy, age 9
Love is when Mommy cleans up our messes.

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Anna Jan 10, 2016

And Love is beautiful onece you
get used to it! Like everybody loves
each other. We're all like one big family
that Christ created together! I love love! :)

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Anna Jan 10, 2016

Nice, but disturbing!
How does Bobby know so much?!

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Jamie Dec 14, 2024
Because he listens
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twilight Bonnie Oct 14, 2015

well this was disturbing and fun to look at at the same time.i have to say these kids really understand it.not the toilet talk though.on second thought, i really like it

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Anjana Aug 21, 2012

So beautiful! Truly made my day and I am inspired to spread more love around. When I asked the same question to my eight year old, her answer was, when one person gives happiness to another, it is love. Cheers! Anjana

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Christina Stickler Aug 9, 2012

Children know love before they are born, I think... from there, they are nurtured (hopefully) and they love as they have observed "love". Parents are vital in this role. People in their lives who have substance and good character will rub off on little kids and they will run with that and grow! Sometimes, it is under tragic circumstances that a child must learn LOVE on their own, and it's tricky because environment and resources (or lack thereof) can mean the difference between an opportunity to shine, or to fall to a bad way of life. Either way, I firmly believe that angels are always around to guide them...

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Marie_velazco Aug 8, 2012

Love was feeling a thrill every night when my husband walked in the house when he came home from work.

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Psalmist Charlotte Wagner Aug 7, 2012

Love is a holy God who became sin for me. Who loved me even though he knew I'd deny Him. 
http://youtu.be/zi1siwA5EO8

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RWCT67 Aug 6, 2012

Suffer the little children to come unto me. EXCEPT you become like one of these, you shall not see the Kingdom of Heaven.
Amen
Maranatha

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Unsupervised Southerner Aug 6, 2012

It's a many splendored thing...  And amazing.  Love this...

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Dale Hogue Aug 5, 2012

Love is when you're going to the grocery store for milk and orange juice and you ask if there is something else you want me to get.

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Jerry McNett Aug 5, 2012

The absolute best article I have read in a long time.
At the end of the final one I burst onto laughing tears of joy.

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vanguard7 Aug 5, 2012

Love is being able to see through a person's faults and still accepting them unconditionally for the goodness in them.

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John Aug 5, 2012

Love: When the happiness and well being of another is more important than your own.

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barbiecakes Aug 5, 2012

I thought love was never having to say you're sorry. 

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psklm Aug 5, 2012

Love is Christ. Then, and only then, love can be 'felt'. Little ones love because they are
inanely beloved of Christ...come to me as little children...trusting, forgiving, hopeful,
We all need to hear what God does and hear what little children hear and see. I am
as an old woman still learning. Are we ever to old (or harmed) to learn  from the babes?
No!

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Sophia Romero Jun 20, 2012

love is when you feel somthing special for somebody or when theirs a special place in your heart for him/her
 

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Jimreevesmd Jun 19, 2012

When I was a young teenager, my best friend's father took his own life.  When I asked my mother what I should do, she said "Just go sit with him."  I did.  No words were necessary.

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Barbara Hurry Jun 13, 2012

Such wisdom, beauty and courage!

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TClark May 27, 2012

Love is Evol backwards. Love is to evolve. Love will bring change in a person's heart.

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Picardow May 27, 2012

Out of the mouth of babes......

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Romantic Quotes May 26, 2012

Wow, that's great. Thanks for sharing about “What Does Love
Mean? See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love”. I enjoyed reading your post
and I like your take on the issue. Thanks.

 
 

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ragunathan m Apr 24, 2012

love begin from the smile  we see around  who is she / he  ? , that i believe are we friends when ever its a  smile  bring loves  between us.

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joyce wambui Apr 20, 2012

love isbeing there for a person,loving without limit and accepting the weaknesses

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Sarah_berry20 Apr 19, 2012

for me, love is when i stand up behind the window waiting you, every day at 5 pm.

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Sharmishtha Apr 18, 2012

Love this! I occasionally work with children in my congregation and every single time I am amazed with their responses. I feel that love "means" nothing,  it is a feeling beyond description. It puts the soul at real peace. The outcome, of course is harmony and joy!

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Cheannryl Mar 31, 2012

when you're so  happy and contented while helping others,that's love..

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Gem Feb 26, 2012

Everyday is a happy day. SMILING to everybody; strangers or not strangers. This is love means to me - Contagious.

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Zion Tolulope Feb 7, 2012

this is great and powerful. Love is everything. it's a good thing to love

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Rockyvenky 1999 Feb 5, 2012

love is a word which as magic of changing the word starting with the same letter that is life

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Sathya Jan 9, 2012

Love is when my teacher told me after class that I got the best grade, just to make me smile.

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ThePrincess Jan 6, 2012

To me Love is when you would give your Life for someone,knowing that He or She would do the same for you.

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Drabbasraza Oct 25, 2011

Caring with special style with all the emotions focused therein at that moment is really a true feeling of love

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lisofby Apr 27, 2022

it's only innocence when you come full circle and empty out all the guilt through understanding and love :) O otherwise it's just ignorance isnt it? x

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Homa Oct 17, 2011

Giving unconditional love without expecting anything whatsoever in return

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Chloe Andrew Oct 1, 2011

Does anyone know what love is? if we did, why do we cry when we see the person we love with us, and when they're not?

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Belina Sep 12, 2011

Love is seeing past a person's mistakes or misgiving and only being aware of their innocence.

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Dorcassakwa Aug 6, 2011

LOVE MEANS CONSIDERING OTHER AS  YOU CONSIDER YOUR SELF

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coolwindsmile Jan 13, 2011

Love is when you leave something but keeps on going back over again whatever it takes

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Younice Jan 1, 2011

For me, Love is when you love yourself, and pass the love to others the kind of love you have.

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Aqilahreesha Dec 31, 2010

LOVE MEANS TO ME NOT BEING JUGDMENTAL OF ANYONE, BEING ABLE TO ACCEPT ON FOR WHO THEY ARE AND LEARNING HOW TO ACCEPT THEM. NO ONE WAS CREATED TO BE PERFECT. LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY

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T K Omana Dec 30, 2010

caring and sharing,