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活着的意义

几周前,我来到了我最喜欢的城市之一:华盛顿州的西雅图。抵达派克市场几分钟后,我就强烈地感觉到,我和我的两个孩子注定要出现在这里,在那一刻。

当我们漫步在色彩缤纷、热闹非凡的市场中时,我见证了六次邂逅,在接下来的文章中,我将称它们为“光点”。这些瞬间,后来汇集成一个非凡的故事集,照亮了用开放的双眼、开放的双手和开放的心灵去体验生活的美好与重要性。

这是我的故事……

我们刚到派克市场边缘,我就突然意识到,这次旅行的节奏和景点不会由我来决定,而是由我的孩子们来决定。

仿佛被一股神秘力量牵引着,两人径直跑向市场外的一位摊主。摊位上醒目地展示着一块写着“玻璃融合”的招牌,招牌下方悬挂着一串色彩鲜艳的玻璃珠,用皮绳系着。

那位衣着考究的年轻小贩亲切地和我的女儿们交谈,并告诉她们“小个子”可以享受5美元的折扣,“不得不忍受小个子的人”也可以享受5美元的折扣。我立刻就喜欢上了他这种巧妙的营销策略。

我看着他向我五岁的女儿演示,当把那枚奖章放在不同的衣物上时,它会发出耀眼的光芒。接下来的十分钟里,她把所有够得着的、闪闪发光的椭圆形奖章都捡起来,贴到自己的外套上。

“妈妈,你看这颗多闪啊!”她一边惊叹,一边将自己挑选的每一颗宝石捧在小手里,宝石都散发出各自独特的色彩。

我当时怎么也没想到,一盏玻璃吊灯闪烁的光芒竟会预示着即将发生的非凡事件。

光点 #1

在仔细查看了“玻璃融合”店里所有可供选择的奖章之后,我的女儿决定在最终购买之前,最好先看看市场上提供的所有产品。

她非常认真地对待这项任务,我们逛遍了市场里的每一家摊位,让她仔细查看那些独特的商品。她对用黏土捏成的小花、手绘发夹、手工皂、精美串珠手链、丝巾和微型油画赞叹不已。艺术家们也十分耐心,乐于讲解,花时间向我的孩子详细解释了他们的作品是如何创作出来的。

我必须承认,我和她一样全神贯注于挑选的过程,但并非因为那些精美绝伦的艺术品,而是因为孩子和艺术家们互动时的表情。我亲眼目睹了一种真切的联结,一个人的热情与另一个人的兴趣和欣赏交融在一起。

一个小时后,我告诉女儿该去世界闻名的鱼市和家人会合了。我们穿过熙熙攘攘、轻松愉快的人群时,我注意到她脸上露出了忧虑的神色。我猜她正在犹豫要买什么。

果然,她伤心地说:“我不知道该买什么。”

“哦,我敢肯定。这真是个艰难的选择,因为有太多好东西了,”我同意道。

“不,妈妈,”她纠正道,“我不知道该买什么,因为我不想伤害任何艺术家的感情;所有这些东西都是他们亲手制作的。”

如果你不能注意到并赞赏那些为追逐梦想而努力的人,那么活着还有什么意义呢?

光点 #2

看到身穿白色围裙和黄色橡胶靴的鱼贩们抛来抛去的大块新鲜鲑鱼,我们欣喜不已,然后便前往市场边缘的街道。

就在这时,我们全家人都循着从附近角落飘来的迷人声音望去。令我们惊讶的是,我们看到一位音乐家正一边弹着吉他一边唱歌,腰间还巧妙地套着一个呼啦圈。

我的女儿们跑过去,一会儿露出敬畏的表情,一会儿又不停地按快门——她们迫不及待地想在旅行回来后把这壮观的景象展示给爸爸看。

这位音乐人以时髦的、类似Spin Doctor的风格,激情演唱了一首名为《我爱我的妈妈》的朗朗上口的歌曲。他逗乐了周围聚集的大批观众,让人忍不住大笑或驻足观看。

突然,一位女士走过来对我们说:“打扰一下。我忍不住注意到这两个小女孩。”

她微笑着看着我的女儿们,她们目不转睛地盯着她们一生中见过的最精彩的现场表演。

“我非常喜欢他们欣赏这位音乐家的样子,他们显然也很享受其中。这真是一幅美好的景象。”

如果不再享受生活中简单的快乐——比如孩子脸上流露出的惊奇和兴奋,或者拥挤街角传来的悦耳的现场音乐——那么活着还有什么意义呢?

光点 #3

我们又走了几分钟,发现了一群才华横溢的音乐家,他们的技艺令人叹为观止,让人忍不住驻足观看。我五岁的女儿会弹尤克里里,也喜欢唱歌,她被巨大的立式贝斯、跳踢踏舞的主唱和手指飞快的班卓琴演奏者深深吸引住了。

我专注地看了五分钟,发现女儿一时半会儿没有要离开的打算,便示意妹妹带着大女儿先走。然后我蹲在人行道上。五岁的女儿以为这是个休息的信号,便依偎在我腿上,用她所有的感官去感受周围的声音。

但过了一会儿,她不停地敲着地板的脚突然停了下来。她转过身,在我耳边轻声说道:“我不想忘记这件事。”

如果你不将人生中最有意义的时刻铭记于心,那么活着的意义又是什么呢?

光点 #4

我们追上了妹妹和大女儿,然后朝着那天冒险开始的地方走去。路上,我们遇到一个坐在破旧轮椅上的流浪汉。他的右腿被截肢了,左手缠着绷带,原本是亮粉色的,现在却被一层暗淡的灰色薄膜覆盖着。虽然他脸上表情空洞,但眼神却明亮而警觉。

走了几步后,我8岁的女儿突然停了下来。她看着我的脸,眼神中既有矛盾又有决心,然后开口说话了。

“我觉得我应该给他一些钱。”

她一边翻找着粉红色的钱包,一边脱口而出。我那向来循规蹈矩的长女,生平第一次没有征求我的同意就做了如此大胆的事。这意味着我必须退后一步,让她去做她想做的事。

我很快注意到,与我们之前遇到的其他流浪汉不同,这位男士手里既没有钱杯,椅子旁边也没有放零钱的容器。我不禁担心女儿会如何应对这种情况。

她毫不犹豫地走上前去,直接从钱包里掏出皱巴巴的钞票递给了那个男人。我惊叹地看着我的孩子直视着他的眼睛,热情地回应着他的存在,让他知道自己被看见了,不再像对很多人那样对他视而不见。

我看着他无声地说着“上帝保佑你,可爱的孩子”,他脸上的绝望神情短暂地消散了。

如果你对身处困境的兄弟姐妹没有丝毫怜悯之心,并且无视自己内心的呼唤,那么活着还有什么意义呢?

光点 #5

当我们快到最终会合地点时,我看到父母在远处等着。我们几乎就要走到他们跟前时,一位体弱的老人,在他的成年儿子的陪同下,停在人行道中央,向我的小女儿打招呼。

“你好!”他热情地向她喊道,就像在和街对面的老邻居打招呼一样。

他微微睁开布满皱纹的眼皮,打量着我女儿的草莓金色卷发、满是雀斑的脸庞和清澈的蓝眼睛。她直视着他的脸,露出了她那“像打了兴奋剂的向日葵”般灿烂的笑容,他轻声说道:“你真漂亮。”

我的孩子站在他身下,沉浸在他的爱慕之中,眼中噙满了泪水。我知道,孩子的表情唤起了他的一段回忆,或许将他带回了过去,或是让他想起了某个他曾经熟识且深爱的人。

我拼命控制着即将失声的情绪,在她耳边轻声说道:“我觉得你让他想起了某个人。”

然后,仿佛本能地知道他需要什么,她伸出她那纤细如瓷的手递给他。他颤抖的手,布满凸起的青筋和老年斑,紧紧握住她的手,一滴泪水无声地滑过他饱经风霜的脸庞。

如果你不向年轻人、体弱者、弱势群体和迷途者伸出援手,那么活着还有什么意义呢?

光点汇聚

几步之遥就是一切开始的地方。

“玻璃的融合。”

我的小女儿跑到那位熟悉的商人面前,兴奋地宣布:“我回来了!”仿佛他一直在焦急地等待她的归来。

我们向这位好心的男士保证,我们已经把派克市场里所有能买到的东西都看了一遍,才意识到这件东西让她心动不已……这件东西是她想要永远珍藏的。

我女儿拿起之前就看中的那枚吊坠,举起来表示要买。那人教她如何调整可调节的带子,然后温柔地将吊坠戴在她脖子上。

那枚吊坠挂在她心脏右侧,闪闪发光!它像两颗灵魂在熙熙攘攘的街道上交汇的光芒……它像两颗灵魂在忙碌的生活中交汇的光芒。

人与人之间联结的光芒……

当艺术家的作品受到赞赏时,她的笑容便是最好的证明。

当人们驻足聆听、轻拍脚尖、沉浸于音乐家的天赋时,音乐家的内心便会得到升华。

当孩子们被倾听和被爱时,他们的脸上和言语中就会流露出这种感觉。

只有在迷失的、破碎的、绝望的人心中,当有人注视着他们的眼睛,把他们当作人来看待时,才能真正感受到人性的温暖。

它体现在老年人深深的面部皱纹里,体现在他们珍贵的记忆里,体现在他们受到尊重和善待时眼中闪烁的光芒里。

人与人之间联结的光芒——它就在我们指尖,就在我们视线之内,却常常被各种干扰所掩盖,无人触及,无人看见。

在匆忙之下,

在过度刺激之下,

在科技、待办事项清单和徒劳追求完美的努力之下。

但是光明就在那里,当我们允许自己的灵魂与另一个灵魂融合时,它就唾手可得。

如果看不到光明,活着还有什么意义?

今天就来看看吧。

在孩子身上就能看到。

在爱人身上看到这一点。

在朋友甚至陌生人身上都能看到这种现象。

一旦你看到了它,就让那美妙的光芒洒满你的心房,让你清晰地看到真正重要的东西。

请相信我,人与人之间情感的光芒如此强大,它能让你驻足——即使是在拥挤的街角——并让你感激自己还活着。

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AgentNo Mar 22, 2013

Thank you for sharing this story. I have had difficulty with anxiety and depression throughout my life, and often have a great deal of difficulty appreciating my surroundings and connecting with those around me. My parents had a lot of very bad things happen to them when they were young, and were very mistrustful of the world and the motives of others. I don't blame them, but I do wish they could have seen more of the beauty in the world and in other people. Your children are very lucky to have you in their lives.

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Lhady Swagger Mar 16, 2013

nice its inspire me ♥♥♥

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Patrick Castro Rebutazo Mar 9, 2013

thank you for that inspirational story of yours..

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Shoshana Wheeler Feb 7, 2013

Thank you Rachel for this beautiful story. Tears were streaming down my face while I was reading. As a Compassionate Parenting educator one piece really touched me. I loved how you deeply listened to what your younger daughter needed, staying to hear the three musicians, and letting your other daughter move on as she was inclined to do. What a wonderful gift for both to follow their hearts. How fortunate you were to have your sister with you. It truly does take a village to meet everyone's needs.

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jmf3210 Feb 4, 2013

Ah yes, and 'the slower we go the more we see.'

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Laura Hegfield Jan 29, 2013

what a beautiful story!

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Kathy - Canada Nov 23, 2012

Thank you...thank you....thank you....What a tremendous heart & soul you have - & what a wise & loving child!

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aflor Nov 22, 2012

Very beautiful! Very powerful!

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Cc Oct 17, 2012

Love it! Powerful!

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Adriana Ortega Oct 16, 2012

Thank you so much ! I am a Mexican English teacher and I love to read stories like this to my students. It is such a beautiful story ... I really enjoyed it very much ... God bless you ! Addy

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Amber Oct 9, 2012

Such a moving article, Rachel. Thank you for taking the time to share your insight with everyone.

As a fellow teacher, I love the way you have captured the striking innocence and acceptance of children all over the world so well. As adults, we are usually so busy getting from point A to point B, we often fail to appreciate the simple, most influential sights along the way.

You have clearly raised two beautiful daughters, full of sincere appreciation and kindness for the people and events that surround them. You should be very proud.

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JD Egner Oct 8, 2012

I happened across this beautiful essay because a friend had posted a link in Facebook. My father in law just lost his dear wife and late-life partner to Parkinson's over the weekend. I was moved to send him a copy, as she would surely have loved it and I kinda think he needed some of your spark. Thank you for your well-written story. And, yes, Pike Place Market rocks!

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Clare C Oct 8, 2012

What a beautiful story! Thank you so much for 'lighting' up my day. :-)

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Chris Oct 8, 2012

Beautiful article ... I couldn't help myself from deeply feeling the light you write about.

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Maya Oct 8, 2012

Thank you. This touches me deeply. Thank you.

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Laura Oct 8, 2012

Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful story!

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Peter Oct 8, 2012

Power Filled Read // Creation .... You have a SPECIAL GIFT of Expressing the Wonder of Human when it stops a moment to be ... Human ... Connected. Thank You ... Namaste.

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Kristin Pedemonti Oct 8, 2012
Thank you! BEAUTIFUL illustration our interconnectedness. Yes, the light of human connection is Powerful! I've witnessed it more times than I can begin to express. I share FREE HUGS wherever I travel. It is a beautiful way to connect one to another. There are so many powerful moments shared. One that touched my heart deeply was the homeless woman splayed out on the sidewalk in NYC, her shopping car with her possessions next to her. I held out my FREE HUGS sign and smiled at her asking if she would like a HUG. She looked at me with skepticism, "you'd hug me?" "Yes," I responded, "if you want one." Her skepticism changed to a smile and she opened her arms. I leaned down hugging her. "thank you, honey. I haven't been touched in nearly 20 years" What do you say to that? I hugged her closer and when she was ready to let go, we broke the embrace. I apologized I had no money to share, as a Storyteller, sometimes I am a little short on cash :). "Sweetie, that hug was worth more than any mone... [View Full Comment]
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Sethi Oct 8, 2012

Thank you Rachel . It was inspirational .and beautiful.

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Bodhi G. Oct 8, 2012

Thank you Rachel, for sharing this beautiful and inspiring story.
In gratitude,
Bodhi G.
Eugene OR