Hier ist eine Liste von 15 Dingen, die, wenn Sie sie aufgeben, Ihr Leben zu einem
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viel einfacher und viel, viel glücklicher. Wir halten an so vielen Dingen fest, die uns viel Schmerz, Stress und Leid bereiten – und anstatt sie alle loszulassen, anstatt uns zu erlauben, stressfrei und glücklich zu sein, klammern wir uns an sie. Damit ist jetzt Schluss. Ab heute geben wir all das auf, was uns nicht mehr dient, und wir werden uns der Veränderung öffnen. Bereit? Los geht’s:
1. Gib dein Bedürfnis auf, immer Recht zu haben. Viele von uns können es nicht ertragen, Unrecht zu haben – sie wollen immer Recht haben – selbst auf die Gefahr hin, gute Beziehungen zu zerstören oder uns und anderen viel Stress und Schmerz zuzufügen. Es lohnt sich einfach nicht. Wenn du das dringende Bedürfnis verspürst, dich in einen Streit darüber zu stürzen, wer Recht hat und wer Unrecht, stelle dir diese Frage: „Möchte ich lieber Recht haben oder lieber freundlich sein?“ Wayne Dyer. Was macht das schon? Ist dein Ego wirklich so groß?
2. Gib dein Kontrollbedürfnis auf. Gib dein Bedürfnis auf, ständig alles zu kontrollieren, was dir und um dich herum passiert – Situationen, Ereignisse, Menschen usw. Ob es sich um geliebte Menschen, Kollegen oder einfach nur Fremde handelt, die du auf der Straße triffst – lass sie einfach sein. Lass alles und jeden so sein, wie er ist, und du wirst sehen, wie viel besser es dir dann geht.
„Wenn man loslässt, wird alles erledigt. Die Welt wird von denen gewonnen, die loslassen. Aber wenn man es immer wieder versucht, ist die Welt nicht mehr zu gewinnen.“ Lao Tzu
3. Hören Sie auf, anderen die Schuld zu geben. Geben Sie es auf, anderen die Schuld dafür zu geben, was Sie haben oder nicht haben, was Sie fühlen oder nicht fühlen. Geben Sie Ihre Kräfte nicht länger ab und übernehmen Sie Verantwortung für Ihr Leben.
4. Hör auf, dir selbst zu widersprechen. Oh je. Wie viele Menschen schaden sich selbst mit ihrer negativen, vergifteten und sich ständig wiederholenden, selbstzerstörerischen Denkweise? Glaub nicht alles, was dein Verstand dir sagt – besonders nicht, wenn es negativ und selbstzerstörerisch ist. Du bist besser als das.
„Der Verstand ist ein großartiges Instrument, wenn er richtig eingesetzt wird. Falsch eingesetzt kann er jedoch sehr zerstörerisch wirken.“ Eckhart Tolle
5. Gib deine einschränkenden Überzeugungen darüber auf, was du kannst oder nicht, was möglich oder unmöglich ist. Von nun an wirst du nicht mehr zulassen, dass dich deine einschränkenden Überzeugungen am falschen Ort festhalten. Breite deine Flügel aus und fliege!
„Ein Glaube ist keine Idee, die der Verstand hat, sondern eine Idee, die den Verstand beherrscht.“ Elly Roselle
6. Hören Sie auf, sich zu beschweren. Hören Sie auf, sich ständig über all die vielen Dinge zu beschweren – Menschen, Situationen, Ereignisse, die Sie unglücklich, traurig und deprimiert machen. Niemand kann Sie unglücklich machen, keine Situation kann Sie traurig oder unglücklich machen, es sei denn, Sie lassen es zu. Nicht die Situation löst diese Gefühle in Ihnen aus, sondern Ihre Sichtweise. Unterschätzen Sie niemals die Kraft des positiven Denkens.
7. Verzichten Sie auf den Luxus der Kritik. Verzichten Sie auf Ihr Bedürfnis, Dinge, Ereignisse oder Menschen zu kritisieren, die anders sind als Sie. Wir sind alle verschieden, und doch sind wir alle gleich. Wir alle wollen glücklich sein, wir alle wollen lieben und geliebt werden, und wir alle wollen verstanden werden. Wir alle wollen etwas, und wir alle wünschen uns etwas.
8. Gib dein Bedürfnis auf, andere zu beeindrucken. Hör auf, so sehr zu versuchen, etwas zu sein, was du nicht bist, nur um von anderen gemocht zu werden. So funktioniert es nicht. Sobald du aufhörst, so sehr zu versuchen, etwas zu sein, was du nicht bist, sobald du alle Masken ablegst und dein wahres Ich akzeptierst und annimmst, wirst du feststellen, dass sich die Menschen mühelos zu dir hingezogen fühlen.
9. Gib deinen Widerstand gegen Veränderungen auf. Veränderung ist gut. Veränderung hilft dir, von A nach B zu gelangen. Veränderung hilft dir, dein Leben und das Leben deiner Mitmenschen zu verbessern. Folge deinem Glück, nimm die Veränderung an – wehre dich nicht dagegen.
„Folge deinem Glück und das Universum wird dir Türen öffnen, wo vorher nur Wände waren.“ Joseph Campbell
10. Verzichte auf Etiketten. Hör auf, Dinge, Menschen oder Ereignisse, die du nicht verstehst, als seltsam oder andersartig abzustempeln und versuche, deinen Geist Stück für Stück zu öffnen. Der Geist funktioniert nur, wenn er offen ist. „Die höchste Form der Ignoranz ist, etwas abzulehnen, von dem man nichts weiß.“ Wayne Dyer
11. Gib deine Ängste auf. Angst ist nur eine Illusion, sie existiert nicht – du hast sie erschaffen. Sie ist nur in deinem Kopf. Korrigiere dein Inneres, und das Äußere wird sich fügen.
„Das Einzige, was wir zu fürchten haben, ist die Furcht selbst.“ Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Schluss mit den Ausreden. Schicken Sie sie weg und sagen Sie ihnen, sie sind gefeuert. Sie brauchen sie nicht mehr. Oft schränken wir uns selbst durch die vielen Ausreden ein, die wir benutzen. Anstatt zu wachsen und an uns und unserem Leben zu arbeiten, bleiben wir stecken, belügen uns selbst und benutzen alle möglichen Ausreden – Ausreden, die in 99,9 % der Fälle nicht einmal wahr sind.
13. Lass die Vergangenheit hinter dir. Ich weiß, ich weiß. Es ist schwer. Besonders, wenn die Vergangenheit so viel besser aussieht als die Gegenwart und die Zukunft so beängstigend. Aber du musst bedenken, dass der gegenwärtige Moment alles ist, was du hast und je haben wirst. Die Vergangenheit, nach der du dich jetzt sehnst – die Vergangenheit, von der du jetzt träumst – hast du ignoriert, als sie noch da war. Hör auf, dir etwas vorzumachen. Sei präsent in allem, was du tust und genieße das Leben. Schließlich ist das Leben eine Reise, kein Ziel. Habe eine klare Vision für die Zukunft, bereite dich vor, aber bleib immer im Hier und Jetzt.
14. Gib deine Anhaftung auf. Dieses Konzept ist für die meisten von uns schwer zu begreifen, und ich muss dir sagen, dass es mir auch so ging (und es immer noch ist), aber es ist nicht unmöglich. Mit der Zeit und Übung wirst du immer besser darin. Sobald du dich von allen Dingen löst (und das bedeutet nicht, dass du deine Liebe zu ihnen aufgibst – denn Liebe und Anhaftung haben nichts miteinander zu tun, Anhaftung entsteht aus Angst, während Liebe … nun ja, wahre Liebe ist rein, gütig und selbstlos, wo Liebe ist, kann keine Angst sein, und deshalb können Anhaftung und Liebe nicht koexistieren), wirst du so friedlich, so tolerant, so gütig und so gelassen. Du wirst an einen Punkt gelangen, an dem du alles verstehen kannst, ohne es überhaupt zu versuchen. Ein Zustand, der sich mit Worten nicht beschreiben lässt.
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15. Hör auf, dein Leben nach den Erwartungen anderer auszurichten. Viel zu viele Menschen leben ein Leben, das nicht ihres ist. Sie leben nach dem, was andere für das Beste für sie halten, nach dem, was ihre Eltern für das Beste für sie halten, nach dem, was ihre Freunde, ihre Feinde, ihre Lehrer, ihre Regierung und die Medien für das Beste für sie halten. Sie ignorieren ihre innere Stimme, ihren inneren Ruf. Sie sind so sehr damit beschäftigt, es allen recht zu machen und die Erwartungen anderer zu erfüllen, dass sie die Kontrolle über ihr Leben verlieren. Sie vergessen, was sie glücklich macht, was sie wollen, was sie brauchen … und schließlich vergessen sie sich selbst. Du hast nur ein Leben – dieses hier – du musst es leben, es dir zu eigen machen und dich vor allem nicht von den Meinungen anderer von deinem Weg abbringen lassen.
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How can I live my own life if somebody else depends on me 100%. I cannot feel fine giving upy life to live my mother's. I'm sorry
I'm ok with that.
Bullshit,
very effective.
This is working a 12 Step Program. Yes! It works. :)
thank you so much! Yes, life is full of conflicts. How much of the conflict is a product of one's own re-construction and how much of it is actual?
When we study it deeply, we realize that conflicts are products of our reaction to a situation. Quite like the way we don't see gulping down a chicken nugget or plucking an apple as a conflict zone although we don't see the pain or harm caused to them as a result of our cautions, similarly let's look at social or political violence as witnessed by the media from a certain distance. In short, happiness comes from our ability to provide help and ways to live one's lives with dignity and self-sustenance. Since we have seen traditional state-driven ways of welfare as autocratic and demeaning, we have strangely chosen to call these basic but fundamentally 'human' ways as 'alternative'.
An all round excellent article ...! We can do it; pick one and start!
Its not that complicated people . Take bits and pieces you agree with and put the rest on a shelf . Those critizing thats your mind moving beautiful now enjoy life.....if you want to.
thankyou so much for this wonderful article,but it is some hard to follow it oterwise it is excellent ways to find happiness.
great writing and really inspiring :)
Excellent article. These items are subtle and when you connect with them, you know. Although rational, they don't operate on a rational level, but on something very subtle, precious, powerful, and intuitive. I'm now looking at the doggie and the monkey picture, thinking, "Oh, no, it's that monkey again. Think positive thoughts. Yes, that's my nose. Think positive thoughts."
If this article doesn't make sense, you have taken the depth out of it.. it's perfectly written for those who are wiling to let go and let God.. being young and suffering death, trauma, and despair gives you the strength to pick up the pieces, put them back together, and live life everyday like it is your last... if you know when your last day is, good luck making it awesome.
I agree with all of these, but from my experience it has taken a lot of "work" with the help of a 12-step program and professional counseling to be able to not only mentally agree, but to have the resources to actually know "how" to give up these things. Without resources, no matter how much I might "want" to give these things up, I had no clue "how" to do it. So if you have an opportunity to work a 12-step program, I highly recommend it.
There are a lot of comments as to whether this advice is realistic and whether all or some of the advice is in fact good advice ... How about this - just pick ONE thing that you agree with, and where you kinda know you need to make a change in your life - and do that ... and see what happens.
This is excellent!
Great list.
This is a great article. It's a perfect reminder of being mindful.
Brilliant
Lol. I'm pretty sure the author doesn't care about these comments anyways....cause she is not looking for agreement or trying to impress the readers. :)
Wow ... just what I needed today. When someone close to you passed away, you know how true these words really are. Ask me. I know. Thank you for sharing it with us.
Agree with Jk - I do think that the basic ideas are sound, however presenting them from the perspective of what a person "Should Give Up" is certainly coming from an omniscient viewpoint and is not an especially effective sales technique for the process. Other items like "Giving up the past" might be more useful as "learn from the past", and "Giving up living your life to other people's expectations" - well perhaps there are some people in our lives whose expectations are legitimate. Sometimes I'd much RATHER go on a cruise with a 25 year old, muscular, wealthy stud than cook, clean, organize, work and listen to my family's problems, but that's part of the deal - GIVE and take. I think Jk said it better though - thanks JK!
I believe there are a lot of nay-sayers out there, just waiting to shoot down someone's ideas on how to find happiness!! There are a lot people in the world who go around depressed and sad, that's all they see, that' s all they live. If this article can help just one of those people find happiness then it is a success!!
That is true. It is that God words can bring some good. Please send me some links of text I have one but didn't open. Time is just running very fast already it is a morning.
I didn't complete some grass I was having and I didn't sleep well yesterday.
every problem has some solutions I believe but sometimes problems pile up. That is why am in this slum..just doing what I feel like and sclerosis is disturbing.
Thank you for the advice
You know life is simple but we all complicate it. Yes, God is watching us make some messes in our lives and He is watching us do some good. That is why we are gifted among His creations with a brain that has an ego living in it. When we listen too hard to our ego and not enough to our God, that is when we mess up.
He is always there, to hear, and to watch our lives unfolding. He gave us the control button to find His Wisdom and use it for better. Gosh, let us all hope we can be humble enough to read God's words, hear God's words, and act out God's message. It is all He can hope for. He hopes we at least try, but sometimes
we won't try. There is that ego, telling you you aren't good enough. Yes you are. God said so. I once went through a depressed era in my life and I was searching to hear God's words of Wisdom. My boss, handed me a small flyer that said "God Does Not Make Junk". God spoke to me that day and lifted me out of the dark place I thought I was in. We put ourselves in places just like little children and then get scared trying to find our way out.
15 Ways (what to give up to be happy, or the 10 Commandments of God. Either way, He set the rules for making our lives moving toward perfection. If only we would read them carefully and live that way. The moral of His story for us, is to always look into yourself and see who you are, and do not spend one moment of your lifetime, judging others. That is God's job. Unless you want to fire Him.
[Hide Full Comment]Doing 15 things is not a must. and the dailymistrust you wrote today that goes as far as 2009 is taker more than serious. I really can't even remember what was written. I tell you take those things less than they may look. because I may not man and I should not get hurt what I didn't mean. also am finding very hard to live happy life naturally so please and please don't send me something aimed to cause fear.
I respect people and if you think I didn't respect you, you can ask where such thing happened and I explain or I apologize. There is nothing in 2009 that can bring me death. What you need to read are the two letters of the two groups. But if you don't get all and you just come for my damned pleasure it can be bad.
That is that and I don't like what causes me fear and unpleasant stories.
Thank you.
I'm unable to NOT do something (think about it), so I've written this response, point-by-point: Do 15 Things to Make Your Life Better. (please go to DeborahMagid at Wordpress dot com to see "Do 15 Things to Make Your Life Better")
# 16: using the word "should". It's proven to meet resistance...lol
Joanne, they everyday admit craps because they too are craps. that is why they regret after sometime is like driving left.
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life is finding happiness and happiness is in common places e.g. workplace, schools, libraries and even in stores. it is how one enjoys environs.
Yes, pleasure like me pleasure comes after helping people and sometimes hurting if they ask me and tell me they want to be hurt. In other words I get pleasure when I do what people want. 89% are my innate abilities and only technology is only 8% overall. And my customers come to beat me when I sleep. There is no week, I am left unbeaten.
I remember when a family accused me of burying two humans. I denied.
Because my father lost 4 of his sons to graves and another son to mentality.
Only me he's got now and am sane because of dr's sperms and tools.
My father requested compensation of only one son and promised to forgive the rest.
No one paid him as little as one camel and he forgave but I can't till I meet my brothers in the graves or I fully revenge. So far, an amount equivalent 10 camels was collected. Leave alone average boss to solve this internal even 150 Countries around the world completely failed to understand the easiest fuck of how terrorists are getting funds.
anyone who thinks will be thanked for disabling the store is boneheaded because debtors don't thank average bosses. Contributors drag and humiliate sons who are my be brothers of other peoples'. It is better to accept the respect of the creditor and leave traumas and conflict cultures alone. The average boss was may be a teen when these problems took off. Britishian writer said "consult the wise and honor the old"
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This is so American. Load of utter 'positive people makes positive lives' fake christian bullshit.
Put it this way, take 2 for example:Give up complaining. This to me just reads like 'become a walk over'. If we all gave up complaining, nothing great would get done or crap would be accepted. Go into a hairdressers, get a shit haircut for $100. Don't complain because you are a happy, pissed-off with your shit haircut, person who's just been taken for a ride. Give up the luxury of criticism. For a start it's not a luxury. You can be critical if you want. I believe it is a trait that I enjoy. Why? Many people are idiots. It's the truth. If you are in a job and you don't criticise people who do crap work then you'll have an office/workplace full of people who can't do their job.These are basic personality traits of intelligent people. But I guess retards are happier than all of us.
Okay..but is life all about finding happiness? You say life is a route not a destination..seems to me the aim here is to be stuck in a "happy here and now" realm and let the time pass without your participation in its flow...of course some things are true, but no-one can claim all is truth and wisdom. Also, some tips include a certain level of egoism..what about happiness from making others happy - ignored here..giving up the past ok..but shouldn't we learn from past also? Giving up living life to other people expectations - sound ok to a degree..but what is you live your life in a way that hurt and harm others? Very few of us are intrinsically conflict-less with others..shouldn't we also look for compromise between expectations? There is no way we can live in a sterile one-person-bubble-world... everything we do influences others. Maybe finding the right way to co-exist instead of looking for your very own world of your own life would be better?
I didn't sleep yesterday night and yesterday itself. 30minutes before I closed my eyes a woman called me with strange number and told me same thing a man told me 3 days ago. Two of them came and beat me asleep I dreamed that. Today I took anti-tension and fear tablets so am ok.
So when David wrote short answers I thought there was problem with daily good. It is now am getting his message. Well, here it is not $100 it is cheaper and it is very interesting. I have seen it some places but I prefer formal because those say that are not healthy.
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@david, what we know is that what I write here is not sarcastic and if it seems is not meant to be. So Davis, What does it mean breathe in/out with 100$/
15things are not useless. When we come to changing entire life, it doesn't change one day or one week perhaps it is a process and it depends how one commits and what causes from Z to A or A to Z. I understand these 15 are very encouraging and real that one needs to live a good and meaningful life. Number 6, Dana, put it easy way where my stupid experience contradicts as it says "give attention to problems."
For attachments as basic human, it is right though I had been to that I only saw contentments, coolness, calmness and feelings that were never true or there. So should I stay contented while I am not. Your places may be is that but here things are very different and I have to do what I can and leave what I can't. Yes, the 15 are very great. it is self-awareness. thank you all
Q: are we there yet? A: There is no there- only here.
Q: What time is it? A; Now?
Q: Why do you give cryptic answers? A: Why do you ask questions? Breathe in, breathe out.
That will be $100 please.
Wow what a great Tips for Happiness.
These suggestions, while coming from a place of sincerity, I'm sure, are so glib as to be almost useless. Any person for whom these are true impediments to happiness is asked to do nothing short of change their entire personality. Maybe this is right, but 1300 words and 15 vague aphorisms that all say generally the same thing (If you want to be more happy, just be happy!) are not a serious tool for positive life changes.
@2b7bdc96f65d5ef2f5eaa7b4b78afb14:disqus It is a feeling that is there but it has got no good. Sometimes people stuck in it and can't get out of it. I hate it most. Like when last night a caller took my pleasure, I was in a different feeling 5 hours. trying to know what he talked and how real he could be and how long it can take. 5 hours I didn't know I was thinking one caller's plan. We have to be happy and effective and efficient in life
Thank you for sharing - I had a wow moment reading this - asked Father God about worshipping Him in unity - He gave me the answer as I was reading your writing. God bless you.
woooooooooooow...u just made my day..my life...u made a change in perception..thank you is not enough :))
Good Article.. Yes, we have to stop living to other people expectation. And giving up on attachment i shard for me to understand too..
Thanks for sharing...
After reading it twice, i feel like to read once more, it is so simple to be happy and if practices well happiness will be forever.excellent articles for those who are pain, just like me. thanks a lot.
15 wonderful points, all pointing in a really healthful direction! It seems like a lot of overwhelming, hard work but just having the willingness to give these up, to let go, is all that's needed :)
Self-awareness brings you back to the present moment - when I'm convinced I should be somewhere else or shouldn't be feeling how I'm feeling, it helps me to remember that I am exactly where I am meant to be...http://iaminthismoment.com/
Articulate oneself. It is very good. I lived this way 8 years ago. What I understood is that when one lives this way is when one has everything but when you need some people's help or support you can't. It can't be enough good to attend workstation with short trouser and a vest. I don't control people or I don't care who is that way or this way. Sometimes in towns I impress people by surprising them and I don't wait to see their judgments because they don't know me but neighbors I do a lot so that they respect me. People who know me call me a very moral person but am not very good because I sometimes tell someones 'I have scar in my ass.' They then feel am very rude not knowing am just playing with their feelings. I do a lot of things for fun but really am very polite. I feel myself when am alone or am with people I trust. This is because a number of people are harmful and if you trust they can hurt you badly.My mood changes every 4 hours depending on who am dealing. One caller can tell me he knows my accounts then knowing how hard I had been saving, can I remain cool? I have to think a way out because the account is may be very secret. So really, Life is how we live and it is better to please those that we love or care. if your daughter tells you to accompany to swimming pool as a request, and you are reading a novel. would you ignore? I try all I can to please people but I also take my time in my store and look a doorman.
Anyway, It is great to have these tips
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Much easier said than done:) It is okay to feel sad and not be happy too. This sometimes is part of the process of getting beyond your situation you just can not get stuck there.
Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. I am forwarding this to as many people as possible. These are truly the keys to happiness.!
Thank you so much for this beautiful article. It sounds so simple and yet we fail to practice it. Yes we all are in charge of our own happiness. I read the quote below long time ago during my teen years which has sat with me all these years and I often remind myself at times when I am frustrated or angry or whenever negative emotions take me over
"Happiest of the people don't have best of everything; they just make most of everything they have."
Really wonderful and useful message, but so hard to practice..... We know life is a journey, but what to do if past moves on leaving unforgettable memories into us......
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Very true and it is very very difficult to practice. Anyways, it is better to try and take the 1st step forward. Thanks for opening up. V