Narito ang isang listahan ng 15 bagay na, kung susuko ka sa mga ito, ay gagawing a
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mas madali at mas masaya. Pinanghahawakan natin ang napakaraming bagay na nagdudulot sa atin ng matinding sakit, stress at pagdurusa - at sa halip na pabayaan silang lahat, sa halip na hayaan ang ating sarili na maging malaya at masaya ang ating sarili - kumapit tayo sa kanila. Hindi na. Simula ngayon, susuko na tayo sa lahat ng bagay na hindi na nagsisilbi sa atin, at yayakapin natin ang pagbabago. handa na? Narito tayo:
1. Isuko ang iyong pangangailangan na laging tama. Napakarami sa atin ang hindi makayanan ang ideyang mali – gustong laging tama – kahit na nasa panganib na wakasan ang magagandang relasyon o magdulot ng matinding stress at sakit, para sa atin at sa iba. Ito ay hindi katumbas ng halaga. Sa tuwing nararamdaman mo ang 'kagyat' na pangangailangang makipag-away kung sino ang tama at kung sino ang mali, tanungin ang iyong sarili ng tanong na ito: "Mas pipiliin ko bang maging tama, o mas gugustuhin kong maging mabait?" Wayne Dyer. Ano ang pagkakaiba nito? Ganun ba talaga kalaki ang ego mo?
2. Isuko ang iyong pangangailangan para sa kontrol. Maging handang talikuran ang iyong pangangailangan na palaging kontrolin ang lahat ng nangyayari sa iyo at sa paligid mo – mga sitwasyon, kaganapan, tao, atbp. Kung sila ay mga mahal sa buhay, katrabaho, o mga estranghero lang na nakakasalamuha mo sa kalye – hayaan lang silang maging. Pahintulutan ang lahat at ang lahat na maging katulad nila at makikita mo kung gaano kagaganda ang mararamdaman mo.
"Sa pamamagitan ng pagpapaubaya nito ay tapos na ang lahat. Ang mundo ay napanalunan ng mga taong bumitaw dito. Ngunit kapag sinubukan mo at sinubukan. Ang mundo ay lampas sa pagkapanalo." Lao Tzu
3. Sumuko sa sisihin. Isuko ang iyong pangangailangan na sisihin ang iba sa kung ano ang mayroon ka o wala, para sa kung ano ang iyong nararamdaman o hindi nararamdaman. Itigil ang pagbibigay ng iyong kapangyarihan at simulan ang pagkuha ng responsibilidad para sa iyong buhay.
4. Isuko ang iyong self-defeating self-talk. Ay naku. Gaano karaming mga tao ang sinasaktan ang kanilang sarili dahil sa kanilang negatibo, marumi at paulit-ulit na pag-iisip sa sarili? Huwag paniwalaan ang lahat ng sinasabi sa iyo ng iyong isip – lalo na kung ito ay negatibo at nakakatalo sa sarili. Mas magaling ka dyan.
"Ang isip ay isang napakahusay na instrumento kung ginamit nang tama. Kung ginamit nang mali, gayunpaman, ito ay nagiging lubhang mapanira." Eckhart Tolle
5. Isuko ang iyong limitadong mga paniniwala tungkol sa kung ano ang maaari o hindi mo magagawa, tungkol sa kung ano ang posible o imposible. Mula ngayon, hindi mo na papayagan ang iyong mga nililimitahan na paniniwala na panatilihin kang maipit sa maling lugar. Ikalat ang iyong mga pakpak at lumipad!
"Ang isang paniniwala ay hindi isang ideya na hawak ng isip, ito ay isang ideya na humahawak sa isip" Elly Roselle
6. Iwanan ang pagrereklamo. Iwanan ang iyong patuloy na pangangailangan na magreklamo tungkol sa marami, marami, maaany bagay - mga tao, sitwasyon, mga kaganapan na nagpapasaya sa iyo, malungkot at nalulumbay. Walang makakapagpasaya sa iyo, walang sitwasyon na makakapagpalungkot o makapagpapalungkot sa iyo maliban kung papayagan mo ito. Hindi ang sitwasyon ang nag-trigger ng mga damdaming iyon sa iyo, ngunit kung paano mo pipiliin na tingnan ito. Huwag kailanman maliitin ang kapangyarihan ng positibong pag-iisip.
7. Isuko ang luho ng pamimintas. Ibigay ang iyong pangangailangan na punahin ang mga bagay, kaganapan o mga tao na naiiba sa iyo. Lahat tayo ay magkakaiba, ngunit lahat tayo ay pareho. Lahat tayo gustong maging masaya, lahat tayo gustong magmahal at mahalin at lahat tayo gustong intindihin. Lahat tayo may gusto, at may gusto tayong lahat.
8. Ibigay ang iyong pangangailangan upang mapabilib ang iba. Itigil ang pagsisikap na maging isang bagay na hindi mo lang para magustuhan ka ng iba. Hindi ito gumagana sa ganitong paraan. Sa sandaling huminto ka sa pagsusumikap na maging isang bagay na hindi ikaw, sa sandaling tanggalin mo ang lahat ng iyong mga maskara, sa sandaling tanggapin mo at yakapin ang tunay na ikaw, makikita mo ang mga tao na dadalhin sa iyo, nang walang kahirap-hirap.
9. Isuko ang iyong pagtutol sa pagbabago. Maganda ang pagbabago. Tutulungan ka ng pagbabago na lumipat mula A hanggang B. Tutulungan ka ng pagbabago na gumawa ng mga pagpapabuti sa iyong buhay at gayundin sa buhay ng mga nakapaligid sa iyo. Sundin ang iyong kaligayahan, yakapin ang pagbabago - huwag labanan ito.
"Sundin ang iyong kaligayahan at ang uniberso ay magbubukas ng mga pinto para sa iyo kung saan mayroon lamang mga pader" Joseph Campbell
10. Ibigay ang mga label. Itigil ang paglalagay ng label sa mga bagay, tao o kaganapan na hindi mo naiintindihan bilang kakaiba o kakaiba at subukang buksan ang iyong isip, unti-unti. Gumagana lamang ang isip kapag bukas. "Ang pinakamataas na anyo ng kamangmangan ay kapag tinanggihan mo ang isang bagay na hindi mo alam." Wayne Dyer
11. Isuko ang iyong mga takot. Ang takot ay isang ilusyon lamang, hindi ito umiiral – ikaw ang lumikha nito. Nasa isip mo lahat. Itama ang loob at ang labas ay mahuhulog sa lugar.
"Ang tanging bagay na dapat nating katakutan, ay ang takot mismo." Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Isuko ang iyong mga dahilan. Ipadala sa kanila ang pag-iimpake at sabihin sa kanila na sila ay tinanggal. Hindi mo na sila kailangan. Maraming beses na nililimitahan natin ang ating sarili dahil sa maraming dahilan na ating ginagamit. Sa halip na lumago at magtrabaho sa pagpapabuti ng ating sarili at sa ating buhay, tayo ay natigil, nagsisinungaling sa ating sarili, gamit ang lahat ng uri ng mga dahilan - mga dahilan na 99.9% ng oras ay hindi totoo.
13. Isuko ang nakaraan. Alam ko, alam ko. Ang hirap. Lalo na kapag ang nakaraan ay mukhang mas mahusay kaysa sa kasalukuyan at ang hinaharap ay mukhang nakakatakot, ngunit kailangan mong isaalang-alang ang katotohanan na ang kasalukuyang sandali ay ang lahat ng mayroon ka at ang lahat ay mayroon ka. Ang nakaraan na hinahanap-hanap mo ngayon – ang nakaraan na pinapangarap mo ngayon – ay hindi mo pinansin noong ito ay naroroon. Itigil ang panloloko sa iyong sarili. Maging naroroon sa lahat ng iyong ginagawa at magsaya sa buhay. Pagkatapos ng lahat, ang buhay ay isang paglalakbay hindi isang patutunguhan. Magkaroon ng isang malinaw na pananaw para sa hinaharap, ihanda ang iyong sarili, ngunit laging naroroon sa ngayon.
14. Isuko ang kalakip. Ito ay isang konsepto na, para sa karamihan sa atin ay napakahirap unawain at kailangan kong sabihin sa iyo na ito ay para sa akin din, (ito pa rin) ngunit ito ay hindi isang bagay na imposible. Mas lalo kang gumagaling sa oras at pagsasanay. Sa sandaling ihiwalay mo ang iyong sarili sa lahat ng bagay, (at hindi ibig sabihin na isuko mo ang iyong pagmamahal para sa kanila – dahil ang pag-ibig at attachment ay walang kinalaman sa isa't isa, ang attachment ay nagmumula sa isang lugar ng takot, habang ang pag-ibig... well, ang tunay na pag-ibig ay dalisay, mabait, at mas mababa sa sarili, kung saan may pag-ibig ay hindi maaaring magkaroon ng takot, at dahil doon, ang attachment at pag-ibig ay hindi maaaring magkakasamang mabuhay, kaya, mabait at mapagparaya, mapayapa, mabait) Makakarating ka sa isang lugar kung saan mauunawaan mo ang lahat ng bagay nang hindi mo sinusubukan. Isang estado na lampas sa mga salita.
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15. Isuko ang pamumuhay ayon sa inaasahan ng ibang tao. Napakaraming tao ang nabubuhay sa isang buhay na hindi para sa kanila. Namumuhay sila ayon sa iniisip ng iba na pinakamabuti para sa kanila, namumuhay sila ayon sa iniisip ng kanilang mga magulang na pinakamabuti para sa kanila, sa iniisip ng kanilang mga kaibigan, kanilang mga kaaway at kanilang mga guro, kanilang pamahalaan at media na pinakamabuti para sa kanila. Hindi nila pinapansin ang kanilang panloob na boses, ang panloob na pagtawag. Masyado silang abala sa pagpapasaya sa lahat, sa pamumuhay ayon sa inaasahan ng ibang tao, na nawalan sila ng kontrol sa kanilang buhay. Nakalimutan nila kung ano ang nagpapasaya sa kanila, kung ano ang gusto nila, kung ano ang kailangan nila….at kalaunan ay nakakalimutan nila ang kanilang sarili. Mayroon kang isang buhay – ito ngayon – dapat mong ipamuhay ito, pagmamay-ari ito, at lalo na huwag hayaan ang opinyon ng ibang tao na makagambala sa iyong landas.
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How can I live my own life if somebody else depends on me 100%. I cannot feel fine giving upy life to live my mother's. I'm sorry
I'm ok with that.
Bullshit,
very effective.
This is working a 12 Step Program. Yes! It works. :)
thank you so much! Yes, life is full of conflicts. How much of the conflict is a product of one's own re-construction and how much of it is actual?
When we study it deeply, we realize that conflicts are products of our reaction to a situation. Quite like the way we don't see gulping down a chicken nugget or plucking an apple as a conflict zone although we don't see the pain or harm caused to them as a result of our cautions, similarly let's look at social or political violence as witnessed by the media from a certain distance. In short, happiness comes from our ability to provide help and ways to live one's lives with dignity and self-sustenance. Since we have seen traditional state-driven ways of welfare as autocratic and demeaning, we have strangely chosen to call these basic but fundamentally 'human' ways as 'alternative'.
An all round excellent article ...! We can do it; pick one and start!
Its not that complicated people . Take bits and pieces you agree with and put the rest on a shelf . Those critizing thats your mind moving beautiful now enjoy life.....if you want to.
thankyou so much for this wonderful article,but it is some hard to follow it oterwise it is excellent ways to find happiness.
great writing and really inspiring :)
Excellent article. These items are subtle and when you connect with them, you know. Although rational, they don't operate on a rational level, but on something very subtle, precious, powerful, and intuitive. I'm now looking at the doggie and the monkey picture, thinking, "Oh, no, it's that monkey again. Think positive thoughts. Yes, that's my nose. Think positive thoughts."
If this article doesn't make sense, you have taken the depth out of it.. it's perfectly written for those who are wiling to let go and let God.. being young and suffering death, trauma, and despair gives you the strength to pick up the pieces, put them back together, and live life everyday like it is your last... if you know when your last day is, good luck making it awesome.
I agree with all of these, but from my experience it has taken a lot of "work" with the help of a 12-step program and professional counseling to be able to not only mentally agree, but to have the resources to actually know "how" to give up these things. Without resources, no matter how much I might "want" to give these things up, I had no clue "how" to do it. So if you have an opportunity to work a 12-step program, I highly recommend it.
There are a lot of comments as to whether this advice is realistic and whether all or some of the advice is in fact good advice ... How about this - just pick ONE thing that you agree with, and where you kinda know you need to make a change in your life - and do that ... and see what happens.
This is excellent!
Great list.
This is a great article. It's a perfect reminder of being mindful.
Brilliant
Lol. I'm pretty sure the author doesn't care about these comments anyways....cause she is not looking for agreement or trying to impress the readers. :)
Wow ... just what I needed today. When someone close to you passed away, you know how true these words really are. Ask me. I know. Thank you for sharing it with us.
Agree with Jk - I do think that the basic ideas are sound, however presenting them from the perspective of what a person "Should Give Up" is certainly coming from an omniscient viewpoint and is not an especially effective sales technique for the process. Other items like "Giving up the past" might be more useful as "learn from the past", and "Giving up living your life to other people's expectations" - well perhaps there are some people in our lives whose expectations are legitimate. Sometimes I'd much RATHER go on a cruise with a 25 year old, muscular, wealthy stud than cook, clean, organize, work and listen to my family's problems, but that's part of the deal - GIVE and take. I think Jk said it better though - thanks JK!
I believe there are a lot of nay-sayers out there, just waiting to shoot down someone's ideas on how to find happiness!! There are a lot people in the world who go around depressed and sad, that's all they see, that' s all they live. If this article can help just one of those people find happiness then it is a success!!
That is true. It is that God words can bring some good. Please send me some links of text I have one but didn't open. Time is just running very fast already it is a morning.
I didn't complete some grass I was having and I didn't sleep well yesterday.
every problem has some solutions I believe but sometimes problems pile up. That is why am in this slum..just doing what I feel like and sclerosis is disturbing.
Thank you for the advice
You know life is simple but we all complicate it. Yes, God is watching us make some messes in our lives and He is watching us do some good. That is why we are gifted among His creations with a brain that has an ego living in it. When we listen too hard to our ego and not enough to our God, that is when we mess up.
He is always there, to hear, and to watch our lives unfolding. He gave us the control button to find His Wisdom and use it for better. Gosh, let us all hope we can be humble enough to read God's words, hear God's words, and act out God's message. It is all He can hope for. He hopes we at least try, but sometimes
we won't try. There is that ego, telling you you aren't good enough. Yes you are. God said so. I once went through a depressed era in my life and I was searching to hear God's words of Wisdom. My boss, handed me a small flyer that said "God Does Not Make Junk". God spoke to me that day and lifted me out of the dark place I thought I was in. We put ourselves in places just like little children and then get scared trying to find our way out.
15 Ways (what to give up to be happy, or the 10 Commandments of God. Either way, He set the rules for making our lives moving toward perfection. If only we would read them carefully and live that way. The moral of His story for us, is to always look into yourself and see who you are, and do not spend one moment of your lifetime, judging others. That is God's job. Unless you want to fire Him.
[Hide Full Comment]Doing 15 things is not a must. and the dailymistrust you wrote today that goes as far as 2009 is taker more than serious. I really can't even remember what was written. I tell you take those things less than they may look. because I may not man and I should not get hurt what I didn't mean. also am finding very hard to live happy life naturally so please and please don't send me something aimed to cause fear.
I respect people and if you think I didn't respect you, you can ask where such thing happened and I explain or I apologize. There is nothing in 2009 that can bring me death. What you need to read are the two letters of the two groups. But if you don't get all and you just come for my damned pleasure it can be bad.
That is that and I don't like what causes me fear and unpleasant stories.
Thank you.
I'm unable to NOT do something (think about it), so I've written this response, point-by-point: Do 15 Things to Make Your Life Better. (please go to DeborahMagid at Wordpress dot com to see "Do 15 Things to Make Your Life Better")
# 16: using the word "should". It's proven to meet resistance...lol
Joanne, they everyday admit craps because they too are craps. that is why they regret after sometime is like driving left.
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life is finding happiness and happiness is in common places e.g. workplace, schools, libraries and even in stores. it is how one enjoys environs.
Yes, pleasure like me pleasure comes after helping people and sometimes hurting if they ask me and tell me they want to be hurt. In other words I get pleasure when I do what people want. 89% are my innate abilities and only technology is only 8% overall. And my customers come to beat me when I sleep. There is no week, I am left unbeaten.
I remember when a family accused me of burying two humans. I denied.
Because my father lost 4 of his sons to graves and another son to mentality.
Only me he's got now and am sane because of dr's sperms and tools.
My father requested compensation of only one son and promised to forgive the rest.
No one paid him as little as one camel and he forgave but I can't till I meet my brothers in the graves or I fully revenge. So far, an amount equivalent 10 camels was collected. Leave alone average boss to solve this internal even 150 Countries around the world completely failed to understand the easiest fuck of how terrorists are getting funds.
anyone who thinks will be thanked for disabling the store is boneheaded because debtors don't thank average bosses. Contributors drag and humiliate sons who are my be brothers of other peoples'. It is better to accept the respect of the creditor and leave traumas and conflict cultures alone. The average boss was may be a teen when these problems took off. Britishian writer said "consult the wise and honor the old"
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This is so American. Load of utter 'positive people makes positive lives' fake christian bullshit.
Put it this way, take 2 for example:Give up complaining. This to me just reads like 'become a walk over'. If we all gave up complaining, nothing great would get done or crap would be accepted. Go into a hairdressers, get a shit haircut for $100. Don't complain because you are a happy, pissed-off with your shit haircut, person who's just been taken for a ride. Give up the luxury of criticism. For a start it's not a luxury. You can be critical if you want. I believe it is a trait that I enjoy. Why? Many people are idiots. It's the truth. If you are in a job and you don't criticise people who do crap work then you'll have an office/workplace full of people who can't do their job.These are basic personality traits of intelligent people. But I guess retards are happier than all of us.
Okay..but is life all about finding happiness? You say life is a route not a destination..seems to me the aim here is to be stuck in a "happy here and now" realm and let the time pass without your participation in its flow...of course some things are true, but no-one can claim all is truth and wisdom. Also, some tips include a certain level of egoism..what about happiness from making others happy - ignored here..giving up the past ok..but shouldn't we learn from past also? Giving up living life to other people expectations - sound ok to a degree..but what is you live your life in a way that hurt and harm others? Very few of us are intrinsically conflict-less with others..shouldn't we also look for compromise between expectations? There is no way we can live in a sterile one-person-bubble-world... everything we do influences others. Maybe finding the right way to co-exist instead of looking for your very own world of your own life would be better?
I didn't sleep yesterday night and yesterday itself. 30minutes before I closed my eyes a woman called me with strange number and told me same thing a man told me 3 days ago. Two of them came and beat me asleep I dreamed that. Today I took anti-tension and fear tablets so am ok.
So when David wrote short answers I thought there was problem with daily good. It is now am getting his message. Well, here it is not $100 it is cheaper and it is very interesting. I have seen it some places but I prefer formal because those say that are not healthy.
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@david, what we know is that what I write here is not sarcastic and if it seems is not meant to be. So Davis, What does it mean breathe in/out with 100$/
15things are not useless. When we come to changing entire life, it doesn't change one day or one week perhaps it is a process and it depends how one commits and what causes from Z to A or A to Z. I understand these 15 are very encouraging and real that one needs to live a good and meaningful life. Number 6, Dana, put it easy way where my stupid experience contradicts as it says "give attention to problems."
For attachments as basic human, it is right though I had been to that I only saw contentments, coolness, calmness and feelings that were never true or there. So should I stay contented while I am not. Your places may be is that but here things are very different and I have to do what I can and leave what I can't. Yes, the 15 are very great. it is self-awareness. thank you all
Q: are we there yet? A: There is no there- only here.
Q: What time is it? A; Now?
Q: Why do you give cryptic answers? A: Why do you ask questions? Breathe in, breathe out.
That will be $100 please.
Wow what a great Tips for Happiness.
These suggestions, while coming from a place of sincerity, I'm sure, are so glib as to be almost useless. Any person for whom these are true impediments to happiness is asked to do nothing short of change their entire personality. Maybe this is right, but 1300 words and 15 vague aphorisms that all say generally the same thing (If you want to be more happy, just be happy!) are not a serious tool for positive life changes.
@2b7bdc96f65d5ef2f5eaa7b4b78afb14:disqus It is a feeling that is there but it has got no good. Sometimes people stuck in it and can't get out of it. I hate it most. Like when last night a caller took my pleasure, I was in a different feeling 5 hours. trying to know what he talked and how real he could be and how long it can take. 5 hours I didn't know I was thinking one caller's plan. We have to be happy and effective and efficient in life
Thank you for sharing - I had a wow moment reading this - asked Father God about worshipping Him in unity - He gave me the answer as I was reading your writing. God bless you.
woooooooooooow...u just made my day..my life...u made a change in perception..thank you is not enough :))
Good Article.. Yes, we have to stop living to other people expectation. And giving up on attachment i shard for me to understand too..
Thanks for sharing...
After reading it twice, i feel like to read once more, it is so simple to be happy and if practices well happiness will be forever.excellent articles for those who are pain, just like me. thanks a lot.
15 wonderful points, all pointing in a really healthful direction! It seems like a lot of overwhelming, hard work but just having the willingness to give these up, to let go, is all that's needed :)
Self-awareness brings you back to the present moment - when I'm convinced I should be somewhere else or shouldn't be feeling how I'm feeling, it helps me to remember that I am exactly where I am meant to be...http://iaminthismoment.com/
Articulate oneself. It is very good. I lived this way 8 years ago. What I understood is that when one lives this way is when one has everything but when you need some people's help or support you can't. It can't be enough good to attend workstation with short trouser and a vest. I don't control people or I don't care who is that way or this way. Sometimes in towns I impress people by surprising them and I don't wait to see their judgments because they don't know me but neighbors I do a lot so that they respect me. People who know me call me a very moral person but am not very good because I sometimes tell someones 'I have scar in my ass.' They then feel am very rude not knowing am just playing with their feelings. I do a lot of things for fun but really am very polite. I feel myself when am alone or am with people I trust. This is because a number of people are harmful and if you trust they can hurt you badly.My mood changes every 4 hours depending on who am dealing. One caller can tell me he knows my accounts then knowing how hard I had been saving, can I remain cool? I have to think a way out because the account is may be very secret. So really, Life is how we live and it is better to please those that we love or care. if your daughter tells you to accompany to swimming pool as a request, and you are reading a novel. would you ignore? I try all I can to please people but I also take my time in my store and look a doorman.
Anyway, It is great to have these tips
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Much easier said than done:) It is okay to feel sad and not be happy too. This sometimes is part of the process of getting beyond your situation you just can not get stuck there.
Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. I am forwarding this to as many people as possible. These are truly the keys to happiness.!
Thank you so much for this beautiful article. It sounds so simple and yet we fail to practice it. Yes we all are in charge of our own happiness. I read the quote below long time ago during my teen years which has sat with me all these years and I often remind myself at times when I am frustrated or angry or whenever negative emotions take me over
"Happiest of the people don't have best of everything; they just make most of everything they have."
Really wonderful and useful message, but so hard to practice..... We know life is a journey, but what to do if past moves on leaving unforgettable memories into us......
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Very true and it is very very difficult to practice. Anyways, it is better to try and take the 1st step forward. Thanks for opening up. V