一个我不想卖的故事
昨天,一位刚结束摩托车横跨美国之旅的朋友跟我们分享了很多故事。其中一个故事讲的是一对夫妇25年前在一个部落村落定居的故事。他们……
好吧,我不会把这个故事讲给你听。
如果我以几乎与别人告诉我的方式相同的方式——快节奏、信息量大,一两个妙语连珠,一分钟之内讲完——来讲述这个故事,那将是对故事主题、对我自己以及对你(读者/听众)的不负责任。
当我把这个想法告诉朋友时,他说他的第一个版本只是个引子(他以前是电台DJ)。他说,如果换一种叙述方式,就会变得很无聊。
没错,无聊。这才是我们内心深处的恐惧。无聊会导致观众流失。我们在工作中学到的,也算是人生的一课——讲故事只能用简洁精炼的语言。
听他讲述那对定居在部落村庄的夫妇的故事,我感觉就像在听伊莱亚拉贾的一首美妙的旋律快进播放,或者像在听帕维的诗歌由说唱歌手演唱,或者像在以每小时 90 英里的速度驾车飞驰时瞥见大峡谷……你明白我的意思。
每个人都在这么做:DJ、VJ、新闻播音员、记者、博主、公关代表、游客、邻居,还有你我。但我们却只责怪企业销售人员和政客——可悲的是,我们都变成了二手车推销员。
有人说,我们会变成我们彼此讲述的故事。这或许在我们成为销售人员之前是真理。但近几十年来,我们似乎对彼此讲述的故事变得麻木不仁。于是,故事变得简短精炼——短到一条推文的程度。我们如此执着于用简洁明了的方式讲述故事,最终却只剩下一个空洞的点。
专注于单一要点毫无意义。要点的意义源于在要点及其自然边界之间游走。正是在这片领域内,在某个地方,我的故事变成了你的故事。脱离了这片领域,要点就如同子弹一般(因此我们恰如其分地称之为要点)。我想,要点的发明是为了穿透所有相互干扰的吸引力,直击读者的心灵。或许,它进入之后,就像在脑海中烧出一个洞,然后又迅速消失。
过去三年里,我多次经历过这种情况。我们农场接待过几十位游客。为了不让游客失去兴趣,不遗漏任何信息,不让他们产生任何错误的假设,我过去常常用快节奏的推销员式叙述方式带他们参观农场。仿佛潜意识里,我希望他们在离开农场之前就能成为真正的农民,并养成可持续的生活方式。这种想法从我的讲解内容上是看不出来的,但只要你注意到我的语速和信息量,你就会明白。
所以,或许就像慢食运动一样,我们也需要一场慢故事运动,让更多的时间留给停顿,留给那些“无声的品尝”,让故事的纤维、味道、质地、轮廓、曲折、转折、细节和缝隙慢慢地被心灵吸收。你看,习惯很难改变,所以我忍不住创造了一个新词,试图涵盖很多含义。
不久之前,许多故事都以“很久很久以前……”开头,以此拓展听众的思维,让他们仿佛置身于广袤的时空之中,透过广角镜头去观察世界。之后,在经历漫长的平移之后,才能真正聚焦于故事本身。这使得听众能够从更广阔的视角去理解和感受故事。置身于这个更大的背景之中,听众便能意识到自己与故事的关联,感受到故事与自身的联系。此时,故事也成为了他自己的故事。他可以融入自己的精神和情感,重新讲述这个故事。我想,我们正是通过这种方式,成为了我们讲述给自己的故事。从石器时代到近代,我们点燃的篝火,一切都是值得的。
此刻,我非常想列出一些要点(当然是用项目符号),这些要点提出了发起“慢故事运动”的不同想法。但我感到有些不耐烦,也不相信你们会有时间仔细思考这篇文章,然后按照你们自己的节奏,以你们的方式加入到这场运动中来。这次,我不会让步。
如果你想分享这篇文章,我希望你不要急于发推文,而是想办法慢慢地、温和地分享,一边享用自制饼干和滴滤咖啡。
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I read for the journey so taking me along as fast as possible rather defeats the object. I rather like the idea of someone extolling the virtues of countrylife and sustainable living by talking at breakneck speed though. I can write fast or slow, depending what the needs of the story are. Mostly I write slow.
You will relive your childhood.Childhood is the time to enjoy stories.
“If stories come to you, care for them. And learn to give them away where they
are needed. Sometimes a person needs a story more than food to stay alive.”
–Barry Lopez
i was just reading the title but came to read on until i finished the whole thing, slowly of course! yes the fast pace in which we live our lives has definitely taken away the most important aspect of what living is, the savoring of new-found experiences in its minutest details! because of rush we lose the ability to feel. what is there to tell then? what makes one's experience different from the other except the individually felt details that go with it. and telling experiences/stories in its "bullet-type" form makes one's story a ho-humm. anyone listening there?
Thank you, Ragunath, for this reminder to slow down, listen and share.
And thank you to Kristin (in the comments) for sharing her TED talk audition, which truly links slow stories and human love and compassion. You truly illustrate in your life the art of listening, paying attention, loving and acknowledging the tellers; you are growing the most incredible story collection ever.
Thank you so much for the reminder to slow down, enjoy the coffee and cookies, look into the eyes of the listener, answer the questions that arise on both sides of the conversational story. If we can only keep to the one story without diverting ourselves with tangents of other stories told too fleetingly to take hold and make a difference in the weaving of our lives and stories as sentient beings on this planet. It is so important at this time in our history of human development that we ground ourselves with each other and our slow, meaning filled stories so we can weather the challenging transformations that are taking place all over the world. A 'slow story movement' would allow us time to breathe. NPR's "The Story" is one of the best examples of this: deep, appreciative listening and thoughtful questions to draw out more meaning. lovely.
My nieces love hearing stories from the past from my parents. This brings them closer together and my nieces learn about their ancestors and feel connected to a collective past. Sometimes I participate in the telling of the stories because I can learn something new or I can add to the story. This storytelling generates questions from my nieces and is a wonderful bedtime tradition.
While telling a story properly, it is the rich descriptive language and then the pause that captivates the listener and hooks them for the next turn in the story. My kids prefer the telling of a bedtime tale over reading one and I love to watch their eyes grow wide while I pause and they squirm with anticipation!
I found myself slowly reading your story. The title itself was an invitation to the readers to "slow down" and inhale the words, deeply. Sometimes I feel like everyone is talking, but no one is listening. I will promote the "slow story" idea by not only sharing my own stories, but "really" listening to others.
Slow Story. Slow Music.
Ben Mackenzie wrote an original song for ABC4All, "Lend a Heand"
The composer of the music that goes with the lyrics deliberately put in as many "healing signals" for the brain as anyone listens to this song as possible. Further, at the end, there are 20 seconds of silence during which it is possible to contemplate how you would like to lend a hand.
"Lend a Hand" http://abc4all.net/lah.htm
Video: http://www.youtube.com/watc...
Is this not a great story?
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As a Professional Storyteller who travels the world sharing Slow stories not sound bites, I see and feel the power of the "slow story" in villages, towns and cities. One of the stories I strive to share daily is connecting whether through my literacy volunteer project in Belize where I travel village to village collecting and sharing and teaching the teachers their own indigenous stories (many of which were banned from sharing in schools) or sharing Free Hugs with strangers. We are desperate to connect. People tell me the most intimate details of their lives in the moment of a FREE HUG, it is truly heart expanding. I was fortunate to be chosen by TED Talks in their current Worldwide Talent Search to share about this; here is the short 5 minute story which will hopefully be chosen to be a 20 minute Story, a Slow Story. :) http://talentsearch.ted.com...
[Hide Full Comment]Great observation! Thanks for sharing your experience with us all. And did you notice I used all the letters to make complete words as I type this? It takes longer, but you are worth the extra time. :-)