据估计，阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦的智商为 160，麦当娜的智商为 140，约翰·F·肯尼迪的智商仅为 119，但事实证明，在预测你的成功和职业成就方面，你的智商分数与你的情商、商数和行为商数相比就显得黯然失色了。
智商测试常被用来衡量逻辑推理能力和技术智能。如今，高智商往往是晋升商界高层的先决条件。它固然必要，但并不足以预测管理能力和企业成功。单凭高智商并不能保证你就能脱颖而出，凌驾于众人之上。
卡内基理工学院的研究表明，你85%的财务成功取决于“人际交往能力”，即你的个性和沟通、谈判及领导能力。令人惊讶的是，只有15%的成功归功于技术知识。此外，诺贝尔奖得主、以色列裔美国心理学家丹尼尔·卡尼曼发现，人们更愿意与自己喜欢和信任的人做生意，而不是与自己不喜欢的人做生意，即使后者提供的产品或服务质量较低，价格却更高。
鉴于此，与其仅仅关注传统的智商，不如投资提升情商（EQ）、道德智商（MQ）和身体智商（BQ）。这些概念或许难以捉摸，也难以衡量，但它们的重要性远超智商。
情商
情商是这三种能力中最广为人知的，简而言之，它指的是：意识到自己和他人的感受，调节自己和他人的这些感受，运用与情况相符的情绪，自我激励，以及建立人际关系。
提升秘诀：首先，要觉察自己的内心对话。记录一天中脑海中浮现的想法很有帮助。压力会严重损害情商，因此你还需要培养健康的应对技巧，以便在紧张情况下能够有效快速地缓解压力。
道德智慧
道德智慧（MQ）紧随情商（EQ）之后，因为它关乎你的正直、责任感、同情心和宽恕。你如何对待自己，别人就会如何对待你。信守承诺、保持正直和诚实守信对道德智慧至关重要。
提升建议：少找借口，勇于承担责任。避免说善意的谎言。对他人表示同情和尊重。学会接纳和包容他人的缺点。宽恕不仅关乎我们如何与他人相处，也关乎我们如何看待自己。
身体智慧
最后，还有你的身体智能（BQ），它反映了你对自身身体的了解程度、感受以及你如何呵护它。你的身体时刻都在向你传递信息；你是在倾听这些信号，还是置之不理？你每天摄入的是补充能量的食物，还是消耗能量的食物？你休息充足吗？你锻炼身体，好好照顾自己吗？这些问题看似与工作表现无关，但你的身体智能却会直接影响你的工作，因为它很大程度上决定了你的感受、想法、自信心、精神状态和精力水平。
提升秘诀：每天至少一次，倾听身体发出的健康信号。主动监测这些信号，而不是被动地接受。良好的营养、规律的运动和充足的休息都是拥有高脑力商数的关键。控制体重、适度饮酒以及确保有休息时间，都能显著改善大脑功能和工作表现。
你真正需要的成功要素
即使你没有在顶尖大学接受过最好的学术训练，也无关紧要。一个学历较低但情商、商数和行为商都发展良好的人，可能比一个学历显赫但其他方面有所欠缺的人更加成功。
没错，拥有高智商、理性思维固然是好事，这是一项重要的优势。但你必须明白，这还远远不够。智商固然对你个人有益，但情商、商数和行为商数也能让你的周围人受益。研究表明，如果你能掌握这些独特且常被低估的智能形式的复杂性，你将取得更大的成功，并被认为在专业上更胜任、更有能力。
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Intelligence isn't overrated. It's just wrongly defined.
Nice copy paste from my article!
Thank you very much for this reality check. I have found that taking an IQ test and scoring high allows intelligent people to be lazy, and not develop their brains to it's full potential. They often think that they have a high IQ and can use that as an excuse.
i remember within last 2 weeks, I checked my vocabularies and I surpassed all the marks of foreign learners.They said that the highest foreign English learners got between 3.000 to 9.000 marks while I got 11.900marks. To me it was unbelievable because I didn't know. I could pass all foreign learners. Who can learn 200 words everyday? I did it marvelously!
@4f801dec7b5b4bf294b64c2ed73befc7:disqus Let us not worry because mr writer said there are hopes for those who didn't graduated universities. am holding 2 years Diploma and 3 years experience. so what I need to do is to master the English. I had been reading books and notes past 6 hours which is there are hopes for those including me who believe they are disadvantaged because I saw job descriptions saying ' degree/bachelor.'
Thanks a lot
At 24, I wanted to join MENSA, so took an IQ test: 128. I've been depressed many years, wasn't able to finish my college education, couldn't hold on to jobs very long because I constantly got in trouble with people, my relationships were a never-ending drama - I just didn't know myself. I really got to know myself through bodywork and experience-based therapy putting great emphasis on emotional and body awareness - coaching for my EQ, MQ, BQ. I feel so much more alive and whole now, and the job/relationship/education construction sites are finally coming along nicely, too. AND I get to enjoy my intelligence, too.
Honoring my son's life today...he passed on this day in 2005, age 35, and he is lovingly remembered and loved and blessed! xxoo Forever, Mom
My son, Jeff, born in 1970, was a musical savant, IQ 158. He passed on this day, cinco de Mayo, in 2005, at 35 yrs. of age, from complications of paranoid schitzophrenia. I am recalling fondly, one comment he made to me when he was about 17: "Mom, you are the best mom and I love you ~ you are such a 'June Cleaver'....and, Mom, nobody cares about our 4.0s! I miss Jeff so much, but believe he is leading the band in the stars. The band he began in the 90's in LA, was BONEYARD.
It was a great article. In fact it was a truth. I have always been a person who was good in academics. I use to think that only studies are the most important thing. But now the phase I am facing in my life has shown that my EQ, MQ and BQ is very low and this has resulted in my IQ level too. Its very hard to bring all the things together but yes I think keeping track of my EQ, MQ and BQ will help me out and bring me back to my level again. thank you.
I can't believe someone would guess exactly myself. I am that way. I developed IQ and I only deal who I trust by just reading the face of the person because I have skills to know what type persons are without even asking a question. I remember one time I saw unskilled man who was guilty of something very bad I then wrote him to understand me or ready for worst. He really thought was from Secret Service and some told me he later ran. About EQ, MQ and BQs have suffered from EQ which goes as far as nothing else but sometimes some of those are there but they can only function after IQ approves. If one hurts and the hurts hurt lot EQ can't work untill heeling happens. If me wrong and am gestured normally I don't jump until I make sure how far the person proves. it is only after that I make decisions because I can't be enough fool to pour my heart with first phrase. There is need that the subject details because he or she may think am not understood but also sometimes I see many things people talk and I don't understand. EQ is just a matter of activating because some disliked actions deactivated.I believe I can survive but am not very perfect. I must thank this writer 1million for letting me know my shortcomings and offering advice. I have to add what everyone would benefit.
[Hide Full Comment]Thanks for this very simple and understanding talk about brains.
Great article in a world where scoring more marks is treated as the No.1 aspect of success..
Thank You so much for sharing...)
Is the spelling error in the title to see who notices? (Relly)....just wondering.
Great points, Keld! This shows, in part, the value of balance. It takes a little of this and a little of that to reach our goals. Your post also shows how much power people possess in reaching goals, because we can all increase our EQ, MQ and BQ. Thanks for making time to write your post!