Scott Levine was a chiropractor in Toronto who thought he had life figured out — until a bicycle accident, a crumbling marriage, and the sudden loss of his clinic he'd built over twenty-two years forced him to start over from scratch. But instead of those losses breaking him, they cracked him open. He discovered something surprising: that the most powerful thing any of us can offer another person isn't money, talent, or even time — it's our full, undivided attention. He called it presence, and he realized it's the one gift every single person on Earth is born with in equal measure.
Along the way, Scott began experimenting with a simple but unusual idea: what if you could hold a wish for someone else — truly picture them already living their dream — better than they could hold it for themselves? He noticed that when we want something deeply, we carry the weight of the wanting, the worry, the fear it won't happen. But a friend who loves us can hold the vision of our happiness without any of that baggage. He built an app called WishWell around this idea, and watched extraordinary things happen — a waitress in Mexico whose dream of owning a restaurant came true, a nonprofit that suddenly received enough funding to feed two million families — all sparked by someone simply holding another person in their heart for a moment.
Scott's journey taught him that we give our attention away all day long to social media feeds that leave us anxious and exhausted. But that same minute of attention, turned toward another person with warmth and intention, actually makes both people feel more connected and alive. Science backs this up — within about forty seconds of genuinely giving to someone, your brain releases the chemicals that make you feel like you belong. Presence, Scott says, is free, it's equal, and it's the most valuable thing any of us will ever own.
Let's Talk About It
1. Scott says presence — your full attention — is the one gift everyone is born with equally, no matter how rich or poor they are. Do you agree? Can you think of a time when someone's full attention meant more to you than any gift they could have bought?
2. Scott learned that a friend can hold the vision of your dream coming true better than you can, because they don't carry the fear and worry you do. Has anyone in your family ever believed in you more than you believed in yourself? What did that feel like?
3. We give our attention to our phones and screens all day long — and big companies actually make money from that attention. If your attention is that valuable, where do you most want to be placing it? Where do you feel like you're giving it away without really choosing to?
4. Scott says his biggest losses — his clinic, his marriage, his sense of security — ended up being the very things that taught him what mattered most. Can anyone think of a hard time that turned out to teach you something important? What did you learn?
After-Dinner Experiment
Before you leave the table tonight, try this together as a family. Have one person think of something they are hoping for — a goal, a worry they want to resolve, or a dream, big or small. They don't have to say it out loud if they don't want to. Everyone else at the table closes their eyes for one full minute and simply pictures that person already happy, already there, already okay — with no doubts, just warmth. When the minute is up, the person holding the wish shares how it felt to be on the receiving end. Then, if there's time, switch and try it for someone else. Notice what happens in your own chest when you spend sixty seconds genuinely wishing good things for another person. That feeling is what Scott spent nine years trying to bottle.
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Intention, Attention, Connection, Presence, all making a difference! Gives me hope.
PS. My wish is to provide Kintsugi wrapped in Narrative Therapy workshops once again and in a way that sustains me and those participating 🙏