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九十六句爱的箴言

我们在讨论任何与感受相关的话题时遇到的第一个困难,就是缺乏足够的词汇来表达。没有相应的术语,就没有意识。词汇的匮乏直接承认了该主题在社会中处于低人一等或被贬低的地位。

梵语中有九十六个词表示“爱”;古波斯语有八十个;希腊语有三个;而英语只有一个。这表明我们对这种极其重要的情感领域缺乏足够的认识或重视。爱斯基摩人有三十个词来描述雪,因为对他们来说,准确了解这种与他们生活息息相关的元素是生死攸关的大事。如果我们也有三十个词来描述“爱”……我们立刻就能更深刻、更明智地理解这种与我们内心如此紧密相连的情感。如果一个爱斯基摩人只有一个词来描述雪,他很可能会笨手笨脚地死去;而我们却因为只有一个词来描述“爱”而濒临孤独的深渊。在所有西方语言中,英语在表达情感方面或许是最匮乏的。

想象一下,如果我们拥有专门的词汇来表达对父亲的爱,另一个词来表达对母亲的爱,还有一个词来表达对骆驼的爱(波斯人就有这种奢侈),还有一个词来表达对配偶的爱,甚至还有一个词专门用来表达日落的爱,那该是多么丰富的表达方式啊!如果我们拥有这样的工具,我们的世界将会无限扩展,变得更加清晰。

无论对个人还是对文化而言,总是劣势功能遭受这种匮乏。一个人最伟大的财富是由优势功能赢得的,但总是以劣势功能的衰弱为代价。一个人最伟大的成就总是伴随着他最严重的弱点。因为在英语世界,思考是我们的优势功能,所以情感自然而然地成为我们的劣势功能。这两种能力往往相互制约。如果一个人情感丰富,那么他的思考能力可能较弱——反之亦然。我们的优势功能赋予了我们科学和更高的生活水平——但代价是情感功能的匮乏。

我们表达情感的词汇量匮乏,这生动地证明了这一点。如果我们拥有像描述科学技术那样丰富而精准的情感词汇,我们就能更好地体会到人际关系的温暖和情感的慷慨。

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Teerath Bheel Aug 25, 2024
If a language has ninety six words for love, the thinking power will make more imagination of emotions.So ,it is inspiration.
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martinrael May 24, 2018

Ninety-six words and all pure and clear. Very inspiring

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Saz Feb 5, 2018

Writing about love in English is more about 'showing' rather than 'telling'. If you look at love poetry, it often describes what makes up the loving feelings rather than giving them a single name. In this way, English is an incredibly rich language when expressing love.

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Patrick Watters Feb 4, 2018

T.S. Eliot also wrote in Little Gidding that we would "arrive where we started and know it for the first time". LOVE (God by any other name), Creator and Lover of all souls, beautiful Mystery. Perhaps Robert Johnson's Journey is not unlike my own? The "object" of all my own searching, the Divine LOVE I desperately needed to know was finally revealed to me. By grace alone and in my vulnerable, humble longing, I saw that LOVE has a face and a name. I am now content and at peace amidst the brokenness and violence, able to simply be the Presence of LOVE with others. }:- ❤️ anonemoose monk

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Dr Tanis Day Feb 4, 2018

I think all the following are words of Love: kindness, generosity, compassion, tenderness, loyalty, devotion, grace, hope, trust, sincerity, honouring, respect, etc etc etc... It isn't that we lack the words. It's that our culture is so ignorant of love that it collapses it all into one idea. Love is the energy of the universe, it sings from every blade of grass and every feeling. We do have words for it if we have eyes and hearts that see it and resonate with it and celebrate it!