Rick Hanson提醒我们,要用喜悦、敬畏、感恩和惊叹的眼光看待存在!
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昨晚,我为未完成的任务而焦虑,瞥了一眼镜子,看到我的 T 恤上印着一个星系图案,星系外围的漩涡中伸出一个小牌子,上面写着“你在这里”。
这是我妻子送我的玩笑礼物,这件衬衫我穿过很多次——但这一次,它却让我驻足凝视。用威廉·布莱克的话来说,感知之门突然打开,我恍然大悟:没错,我们真的就在这里,在浩瀚星河漩涡的边缘,鲜活而有意识,行走在一颗围绕着更大燃烧的气体球旋转的巨石上,说话。就在此时此刻,距离宇宙从虚无中诞生已经过去了近140亿年。这到底是怎么回事?!
我的思绪停止了纷乱,我感受到了一种孩童般的喜悦和敬畏,就像第一次见到蝴蝶、第一次尝到冰淇淋、或者第一次意识到天上的星星是多么遥远一样。感激、惊叹,以及某种近乎神圣的感觉,如潮水般涌上心头。
总之,我感到惊叹——这意味着“充满惊奇和惊喜”,甚至是“惊叹不已”。
除了这种体验带来的纯粹快乐之外,它还让我摆脱了那些像粘蝇纸上的虫子一样缠身的重重压力和忧虑。惊叹能瞬间缓解压力。它还能打开心扉:我再也无法对妻子感到丝毫恼火。或许更深层次的是,惊叹能让你领悟事物的真相,让你与生命固有的奥秘和无尽的馈赠建立联系,从生命的分子机制到人心中的爱与宽恕,再到维系宇宙的暗物质,无所不包。
哇。真的。哇。
如何?
惊奇的事物无处不在。我常常想起儿子和女儿出生时,他们眨着眼睛,在房间的灯光下,对周围的一切形状和色彩感到惊奇,仿佛进入了一个全新的世界。在孩子眼中,最简单的事物都令人惊叹:一根小草,被小狗舔舐的感觉,肉桂的味道,骑在爸爸背上,或者目光扫过黑色线条时,脑海中浮现出龙、英雄和仙女教母的故事。

环顾四周。今天早上我坐在电脑前,点击鼠标,房间里竟然响起了录制于俄罗斯教堂的吟唱声。太不可思议了!想象一下,如果你是一个石器时代的人,突然穿越到五万年后的今天,坐在你的椅子上。玻璃窗、铅笔、扁平的木头、咖啡的香气、织物、金属勺子……这一切都会多么奇妙。
试着用这种方式去看待你的世界,就像第一次看到它一样,或许是用孩童甚至原始人的眼睛。保持一颗赤子之心,一颗禅意之心。如果你没有感到惊奇,说明你没有用心观察。
探索“未知之心”——不是那种“理所当然”的思维,而是一种不急于将事物归类的开放心态,它能带来新鲜感和好奇心。思维对事物进行分类和贴标签是为了帮助我们生存。这固然很好,但在这层覆盖在现实沸腾牛奶之上的意义之下,我们其实并不真正了解任何事物的本质。我们使用“原子”、“夸克”和“光子”这样的词汇,但没有人真正知道夸克或光子究竟是什么。
我们也不知道爱究竟是什么,但它无处不在。令我惊叹的是,人们爱我,人们能够彼此宽恕,曾经兵戎相见的人最终能够和平共处。想想你认识的人,他们在疲惫时如何坚持,如何在痛苦中挣扎,如何一次又一次地起身去抱起哭闹的婴儿,如何在争吵中冷静下来承认错误并继续前行。对我而言,一位母亲能够拥抱杀害她儿子的年轻人,这比超新星爆发还要令人惊叹。正如别人让你惊叹一样,你也让他们惊叹。
如果我们有足够的勇气去更多地感受惊奇和惊喜,我们就会更加温柔地对待自己、他人和我们脆弱的世界。
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yes! Here's to being amazed at all the wonder around us. Here's to opening our eyes and seeing things again for the first time; the world truly is a miracle!
I wish everyone could find the amazement of a child in those non tangible things such as love, forgiveness, grace, and even in the bad. After all it is amazing that we are able to feel the good alongside the bad...it's so neat to think about. That these things that we will never be able to hold can fill us with so much joy. I hope that I can find amazement in every part of my day as I see so much good that I will never be able to capture in more than just a memory.
I love that photo of the child. It says it all, doesn't it? Look at the world the way he is!
I am most certainly amazed at my son A. who at 29 decided to join the US Army. It's been a long road for him, as he lacked oxygen when he was born and this affected certain areas of his brain. He had a hard childhood in relationships as a child, struggling to pass the grade and having been misdiagnosed into meds that -thank God- I refused to give him. As time went by I continued to build his self-esteem and faith helped pull him through rough spots. Today he is so well-centered, with an excellent disposition and fortitude, mental, physical, spiritual and giving to this country and the world the best by facing many more challenges to come. During boot camp he won an Excellence coin reflecting all this.I am very proud of him and thank God for giving me A. to be amazed at how lovely, strong, and great a human being can be!