Dear Friend,
I read this story last night and couldn't stop thinking about you — about that conversation we had where you said you weren't sure if the life you'd built was actually the life you wanted. I kept wanting to reach through the screen and hand you these words.
It's about a man named Andreas Nussbaumer, who spent twenty-five years as one of Austria's most successful sales trainers — two books, packed seminar rooms, five flights a week. By every measure, he had made it. And then three things cracked him open.
The first was his wife Elisabeth, who had already quietly walked away from her consulting company to live with animals at a sanctuary called Hof-Sonnenweide in Austria. While he flew around Europe, she was building something real. The second was a phone call. He was a thousand kilometers away in Germany when she called to say water had gotten into the oven. He said, frustrated, "Why does this always happen when I'm not here?" And she said simply: "Because you are always not here." He wrote that it touched him very deeply. Because, of course, it was the truth.
The third thing wrecked me completely. He attended a wisdom conference where a man named Lobsang spoke about caring for parentless children in the Himalayas — children whose nearest X-ray was a two-day journey away. Andreas had just come from a training where he'd helped a mineral water company get its sixtieth bottle onto a supermarket shelf. After Lobsang's talk, Andreas offered him money for the children. Lobsang said he'd take it — but not for his children. Why? Because the children had already decided to skip one evening's meal and give the savings to hungrier neighbors nearby. Andreas said: "My whole world crashed down in that moment."
What surprised me most wasn't the dramatic career change, or even the 150 rescued farm animals they now steward together. It was the snails. They grew organic vegetables for years, and instead of using poison, they just focused on growing strong, healthy plants. And here's the thing — dozens of snails would shelter under the lettuce leaves and leave them completely untouched. But any plant already weakened? Gone within twenty-four hours. "They are not evil," Andreas writes. "They are a kind of garden police. They take what is already failing."
He turned that into a philosophy for everything. The wars, the injustice, the bad news — he can't make them disappear. But he can make sure he stays healthy, present, surrounded by what nourishes him. "The snails don't disappear," he says. "But they no longer get to define my life."
What I'm still sitting with is something quieter. He describes how the animals at the sanctuary will come toward him when he's truly present — and move away when he's still carrying tension from the outside world. "The horses will tell you the truth about yourself that you were too busy to hear," he writes. "All you have to do is stop being somewhere else."
I keep thinking: what in your life is already trying to tell you the truth? And are you somewhere else when it speaks?
With so much love,
Your friend
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