Dyw hi ddim wedi bod yn hawdd i Safaa Bokhari ymarfer ei ffydd fel menyw Fwslimaidd yn America. Dywedodd y fam, sy'n byw yn Oakland, Pennsylvania, ei bod wedi cael ei haflonyddu ar lafar am wisgo sgarff pen.
Ond mae Bokhari yn gobeithio pan ddaw’n amser i’w merch, Salma Bokhari, benderfynu a yw am wisgo’r sgarff ai peidio, y bydd yn fyd mwy diogel i fenywod Mwslimaidd.
Dyna pam mae'r fam Fwslimaidd 30 oed yn ymuno â sefydliad cymunedol yn Pittsburgh i lansio Hello Hijab , sgarff pen bach y gellir ei ddefnyddio ar Barbies a theganau plant eraill.
MARANIE STAAB
Mae Grace Fetterman (chwith) a Salma Bokhari yn chwarae gyda'i gilydd gyda doliau.
Dywedodd Bokhari wrth The Huffington Post ei bod yn gobeithio y bydd Hello Hijab yn cael ei ddefnyddio gan Fwslimiaid a phobl nad ydynt yn Fwslimiaid, fel bod plant yn dod i arfer â golwg merched yn gwisgo'r sgarff pen.
“Mae’r syniad o blant a merched yn chwarae gyda’r hijab a’r hijab yn dod yn rhywbeth arferol, rwy’n meddwl y bydd yn gwneud gwahaniaeth yn y dyfodol,” meddai Bokhari. “Ni fydd yn broblem i fy merch, os yw hi eisiau gwisgo hijab, ni fyddai’n cael ei ystyried yn rhywbeth rhyfedd.”
Ymunodd Gisele Fetterman â Safaaa Bokhari, y ddau yn byw yn Pittsburgh, i gynnig hijabs wedi'u gwneud â llaw fel ategolion ar gyfer doliau.
Mae gan Bokhari a'i ffrind, Gisele Fetterman, ferched 5 oed sy'n hoffi chwarae gyda doliau.
Creodd Fetterman y syniad i greu sgarff pen maint dol y gall plant ei ddefnyddio yn ystod amser chwarae, gyda'r elw o'r gwerthiant yn mynd i elusen.
Dywedodd Bokhari ei bod yn rhan o'r prosiect.
“Roeddwn i’n hapus iawn oherwydd, wyddoch chi, allwch chi ddim bod yn greadigol os ydych chi’n ofnus,” meddai wrth The Huffington Post.
Daeth Bokhari a Fetterman o hyd i wniadwraig Fwslimaidd yn Pittsburgh a allai greu’r sgarffiau. Lluniodd y ddwy fam gerdyn addysgol sy'n esbonio beth mae'r hijab yn ei olygu i'r menywod Mwslimaidd sy'n ei wisgo --- a pham ei bod yn bwysig dathlu amrywiaeth.
Gan ddechrau ar Ebrill 1, bydd Hello Hijab ar gael i'w archebu am $6 ar wefan For Good PGH . Bydd yr hijabs yn dod mewn lliwiau a phatrymau lluosog. Bydd rhai yn cael eu gwneud o hijabs rhoddedig a wisgir gan fenywod Mwslimaidd.
Yn ôl Fetterman, bydd 100 y cant o'r elw yn cael ei roi i sefydliadau fel Canolfan Islamaidd Pittsburgh ac Undeb Rhyddid Sifil America.
Mae Fetterman yn gobeithio y bydd y cynnyrch yn cyrraedd plant o lawer o gefndiroedd. Ei breuddwyd yw i bob ysgol a gofal dydd sydd â doliau gael un ddol sy'n edrych fel menyw Fwslimaidd.
"Rwyf am i ferched bach weld eu mamau yn y doliau hyn, i blant ledled y byd eu chwarae. Rwyf am i blant America ddod yn gyfarwydd â hijabs," meddai Fetterman.
KRISTEN MICHAELS/ AM PGH DA
Sampl o'r cerdyn addysgol a fydd yn dod gyda hijab pob dol.
Pan ddaeth Bokhari i America o Saudi Arabia am y tro cyntaf yn 2013, roedd hi'n gwisgo abaya (dilledyn corff llawn rhydd), sgarff pen, a gorchudd a oedd yn gorchuddio ei hwyneb. Dywedodd fod ei gwisg grefyddol wedi denu syllu a sylwadau negyddol gan ddieithriaid.
Dewisodd Bokhari roi’r gorau i wisgo abaya yn 2016, yn lle hynny gwisgo sgarff pen dros ddillad fel crys llewys hir a jîns. Ond nid yw ofn gwahaniaethu wedi diflannu.
“Mae hyd yn oed y sgarff yn dod yn broblem nawr,” meddai Bokhari. “Rwy’n teimlo’n ofnus drwy’r amser, a dweud y gwir.”
Cyfarfu Safaa Bokhari (chwith) a Gisele Fetterman yng nghartref y Fetterman ddydd Llun, Mawrth 6ed, 2017 i drafod cynlluniau ar gyfer eu menter ar y cyd, Hello Hijab.
Mae'r hijab yn llawer mwy nag affeithiwr - mae hefyd yn gysyniad ysbrydol, un sy'n cwmpasu sut mae Mwslimiaid yn rhyngweithio â'r byd. Er ei bod yn anodd cynrychioli hyn i gyd gyda Hello Hijab, dywedodd Bokhari nad oedd ots ganddi.
“Os yw'n cyrraedd y nod rydw i eisiau i'm merch, mae'n iawn gyda mi,” meddai. “Syniad y prosiect yw bod pobl yn dod i arfer â’r hijab fel y gall ddod yn haws i fenywod ei wisgo.”
KRISTEN MICHAELS/ AM PGH DA
Sampl o sgarff Helo Hijab.
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I am surprised this article is being featured in this platform. Promoting the wearing of hijab as a spiritual practice is stupefying. This seems to be a tacit attempt to indoctrinate next generation of women born in a free country, using the thin veil of modesty. Strange..
If the hijab has spiritual or sacred meaning, why turn it into a toy? Scenarios where children trying to be creative or funny would put hijabs on other dolls, stuffed animals etc or use them for other play purposes are inevitable. Kids can learn to be respectful of the symbol or can also mock it with or without intention if it's given to them as a toy.
Can someone please let me know why women wear the hijab ? In what way does it contribute to spiritual development ? Why women in particular have the dress code ?
Educating others about your culture is a good thing and hopefully when your daughter grows up, society will be less judgemental. What I find hypocritical is how you want to change society in the western world yet I don't see much said about changing the lives of women in the Middle East. It is well known how badly the expatriate women who work as maids in Saudi Arabia and Kuwait are treated. They have no voice when they are beaten and raped, made to work long hours and paid so poorly. No one has tried to change that society. How about raising your voice about that? That would make you a hero in my eyes... most definitely.
Everyone should have the freedom to practice their own beliefs. If wearing a headscarf is the outward display of that belief, then it should be acceptable to all. However I think the explanation could be more explicit on the card (given with the dolls headscarf) for better understanding. It doesn't make it clear why the headscarf is an integral part of the belief or practice.
Also any display of a belief should be universal. If a headscarf is acceptable then wearing a cross and chain should also be acceptable, which sadly is not always the case. It has been said that wearing a cross and chain is not acceptable as it may offend those of a different faith. You cannot have double standards if we are to be truly accepting of each other and others beliefs.
Isn't it really an insult against Allah to cover up the beauty of a woman's hair? I suggest not more hijabs in our USA and less hijabs in Saudi Arabia
I feel sad and heavy reading this. Sensing such a deep and long time conditioning imposed upon women they can not even aware of themselves in prison of oppression and trying to feel some meaning in life justifing little decoration inside of jail - all the while without realizing they are actually in the jail. I wonder what I can do to help them to be aware of their own jail and break out of it and stop dragging their daughters into same jail. If they feel some sense of belonging and safety by staying in jail, maybe there is other ways they can meet that needs without submitting to the unwholesome demand on women. If she needs something that will help her feel like that she is seen and matter among Americans, she can find so many ways she can shine.
I am continually saddened by how a religion with so many beautiful and peaceful tenets has been hijacked by a militant public face, and I applaud this homegrown effort to promote Religious acceptance. I believe that positive creativity echos the Spirit of the Creator, and I think God smiles when two good women try in a small but powerful way to represent the spiritual practice of their faith to the general public in a way that promotes understanding. Aren't mothers everywhere motivated by the love of their children to make the world a better place? And here we see two mothers doing what all loving mothers do.
I am speaking out against all religions and cultures that require women to swaddle themselves. The roots of this so-called "modesty" is shame of women's bodies and blaming women for men's sexual predatory thoughts and behaviors. No! I do not want to see Hijabs, Berkas, Habits, Jewish Headscarfs or other oppressive and required clothing for women normalized. Where does such a dress code exist on earth for men? Let's see some men try to functon wrapped up in mandatory body-cover/shaming clothing when it is 100 degress outside, or when swimming, or running, or biking, or just living! Spare me the "discrimination" claim. Where the discrimination lies is in oppressive patriarchal cultures and religions! Destroy the Patriarchy!
Islam, not www.thereligionofpeace.com
Not sue what "Daily Good" came out of this article. :(
Islam is a violent political ideology with a thin veil of religiosity for protection.
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