Reprinted with permission. Rachel Macy Stafford is a certified special education teacher with a decade of experience working with parents and children. You can join her journey to grasp what matters through "The Hands Free Revolution" on her blog.
Thanks for a great story. We hurry in life worrying that we may miss something if we don't. But I wonder how much have we missed by hurrying. Distance without quality is not a journey worth awhile. Thanks again.
This was so beautiful! I find myself in a hurry most of the day between school and work then homework and preparing for the next day. I too would like to commit some of my time to slow down and enjoy all the little things in life. There is such beauty in everything that is often looked over but for 2015 I would like to enjoy these beautiful things even more!
This was so interesting to read. I have always been a "Noticer" because I just love knowing my surroundings. It really helps with understanding a lot more of the world around you. It's great that you learned such a powerful lesson.
Oh my -- I've been a "Noticer" all my life but had to ramp it down when I got older. Think I'll let go of the control and go back to being a "Noticer". Thank you for inspiring that!!
Simply a beautiful and inspiring piece. A lesson for all of us.
Thanks for your post! Your story is very instructive and interesting. Many people need to stop and think: "Where do I hurry? And why?.."
Lovely post, and a good reminder. My only concern is that you seem to be rather hard on yourself, taking every worry and concern of your child so deeply to heart you feel like a "bully" every time you need to rush a bit. Believe me, I know this feeling! But the reality of life is that, sometimes, we really DO need to be somewhere on time. Living life like this on a daily basis is, indeed, very stressful on our kids and on ourselves. Once in awhile, however, it is OKAY to have to rush out the door, to have to miss a few extra minutes of playtime. It really is okay to not always be able to stop and smell the roses. What's truly important is to try and keep a balance. Get moving when you really need to, but make plenty of time for noticing, too. It's so easy, in this day and age of sky-scraper parenting standards, to always feel like we're damaging our children with every little decision we make. But none of us are perfect. As long as we don't expect perfection from our children, they won't come to expect it from us, either. If we constantly affirm for our kids that we think they are wonderful just as they are, if we embrace and nurture the things that make them unique, they will carry that with them much more than the times we had to rush them to get to work on time.
A Noticer with a Noticer child
What a beautiful reminder to live in the moment. This story brought me to tears! I have a 3 year old who was born when I was about to turn 41. After a frantic 20 years of adult life, experiencing 'as much as possible' in my own life, I was blessed to have the most wonderful experience of all- being a parent. I remind myself constantly how these early years of my daughters life are so short and so precious, that I must stop and enjoy this time with her, at her pace. It is often difficult with the pressures of life and work but perhaps being an older parent gives me a heightened appreciation of these few short years. Life has slowed down immeasurable because of my daughter and what a gift that has been. There is SO much more to life than work!
a great opportunity for grandparents to make a difference in a child's life- especially if they are retired and not under time-stress. Both child and granddparent can appreciate the spacious present without fear of missing something else or being pushed or coaxed.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! This nearly brought tears to my eyes. A friend of mine shared this with me as I am constantly conflicted over my Type A personality. It controls my parenting style that consequently has me up as front runner for mother of the year, annually. :-( Your entry was just perfect and reminds me just how unfair my demanding, hurried ways is to my beautiful daughter. I, too, have heard words stream from my older daughter's mouth that sound so harsh and demanding, only to realize it's me who has provided such repulsive modeling for such. I MUST slow down! Thank you again for sharing your story and inspiring me to be a better mom!
Beautiful. I had a 'hurry up' dad in my life and trust me even after 27 years if my life, I have never really be able to connect with him.
'Thank you so so much' for living in the moment. Bless Your children.
Boy can I relate to this! I was a moseying child like that. And now I'm the rushing parent of moseying children. Thanks for the reminder!!!
This is an awesome story. When I was in the Novitiate for my religious order, we spent a fair amount of time talking about "agendas". Some of it took, some of it didn't. Even today I often find myself rushing around, trying to get to my destination and not paying attention to my journey. The lady in this story apparently had the same tendency. Fortunately for her, she had a daughter who could teach her to slow down and smell the roses. How many gifts to the people and the world have we lost because the people who were supposed to show them to us never had the chance to be born?
Rachel: I'm an Emotional Freedom Coach for Women Entrepreneurs and I just shared your story with everyone I know, whether they have little ones or not. What a very powerful message! WHEW! My little ones are now 30, 31 & 32 and I have a big blended family with 9 grandchildren. Your words brought it home to me like a brick in the forehead! THANK YOU!!!
Make it a wonderful day!!
Wow! This was a lovely post. I'm glad to say that I have all the time in the world and am relishing the same.
Love and light, always :)
Thank you for the reminder.
And enjoy those precious children while you can. Mine are now 18 and 21 and they don't need me leisurely hanging around with them anymore. Treasure those times while you can.
Absolutely beautiful, thank you for helping me in my training.
Wow! This was a much needed read. It brought to me big smiles but also regretful tears. I can relate so easily to this. I also vow to stop and give presence to each and every valuable moment as much that I can. It's so deafening to realize I've so selfishly taken the beauty of life from my child's very own rainbow. I can relate to seeing myself as a bully. I clearly see the lack of respect I've shown my little one in so many ways. Today is a new day and what a blessing it is to have another chance to start over fresh with my sparkling little darling. I pray she forgives me and continues her patience with me.
a great reminder for us all to Stop, smell the roses, connect to one another and value living in the moment. Thank you so much for sharing the wisdom of a child. And indeed, we are all Tall children, some are simply taller than others.