Carolyn Gregoire is the Associate Lifestyle Editor of the Huffington Post where this article originally appeared. It is reprinted here with permission. More from the Huffington Post Good News Channel:
In my line of work I have to look for the bad things people do,hier I am reminded that people are actually good circumstance make them sometimes do bad things!
DailyGood helps me to be creative, innovative and stimulus to my thought process.
Be curious and Act on your insights have helped me a lot in my work-teaching
and interacting with people.
As a patient and student of deep psychotherapy it is my opinion that before it is possible to gain true value from these tips, before a brain can be trained to see the things others miss, a person must first become wholly aware of themselves, their part in the world and relationships, their impact on people and things around them. I believe that if you are not wholly aware of yourself you will always see the world through a filter.
In your article: "Train Your Brain To See What Others Don't See" you give the advises:
"Be curious, - Let your mind wander, - Pay attention to coincidences, - Look closely at contradictions, - Act on your insights."
I have some doubts that there are people who can follow this realizing and practicing what you say, in their daily life. From my experience with people over the last eighty years, I must say, that when people are told this, then it might be like saying to a person who has been blind all ones life: "Open your eyes and see!"
There was a man in humans history, who tried this two thousand years ago. It doesn't seem like he had succeeded, at least not with people in the years after, - up to our days...
So I would suggest, before telling an audience something like this, to find out first the basic condition of those people you are directing your advice and check if they are really capable to realize these advises in their daily life.
More clear and direct it would be, when you give the title: "How to *grow* within your daily life, so that your *Awareness* can expend in the most effective way, so that you see, what others don't see!" And then you can give practical advises people can easily follow. Then to those few between your audience, who are a step ahead of others and have started to have some doubts about their existence and their surrounding, you could give information about their condition in that they are stuck, telling them, that this is part of their survival need, keeping with what they are identified: Their established mindset, with all concepts, beliefs, knowledge and of course their precious self image. You can tell them, that they are trapped in an illusion and that their established mindset is the result of centuries of misinterpretation and manipulation and so they are trying to live a fake reality. You can tell them, that they are
unconsciously reacting out of their programs received during their life time from all influences. To all this they might not listen, but when you tell them, that all their suffering is the result of the dilemma, that what they want in life because of their programmed expectation and then they can't fulfill this in their daily life, - then they might listen. As every body is suffering more or less. But probably only those will really listen, who have suffered to such an extend, that they are at the end of their possibilities, - after they have used all available tricks to survive... Then you can freely give essential and creative advice, how to get out of this condition, to free oneself from the straitjacket of ones mindset and then indeed *see* what others can't!
By the way: I have been writing about this subject since many years and recently also at Face Book and Answers Yahoo, but nobody is interested. The same as with the place I have created here in the middle of the island Ibiza, in beautiful nature, for a group of people living
together, who might be interested in their *growing*. But now after forty years of struggling to find such people, I'm at the point to give up. People are just interested to be confirmed in their established mindset and not to go beyond this, using their 'brain' to *see*!...
I find another way to increase the mental process of connections is to share ideas out with others, sometimes discussions had just describing a protracted path of thought - what I'm realising over a series of months - can turn into a learning experience just listening to myself and feeding off the other person's thoughts and reactions. links and connections can suddenly appear from new perspectives.
thank you for writing and sharing. This is part of the being mindful as experience leads to seeing the interrelated aspect of everything. Which leads to more need "to share." I find these are strange days for messengers. As old media sources are called out, as trust is evaporating -many are feeling the "what the?" of cognitive dissonance and in the confusion will often "attack said messenger. i am working on ways to turn this from a fight model to a learning model . Any ideas appreciated!
Seeing differently has been a threat to "authority" a hellishly long time. Going forward is exciting, frustrating and full of "ahas" - almost daily these days...so worth it!! However, please, just be prepared. and Please share the insights gained. Our children, everyone's, all species, Life, the whole of consciousness, the whole of possibilities, wants us to show up, evolution depends on it (devolution is EZ) "do, be, do, be, do" (Amit Goswami) The more the merrier, the faster the better.[Hide Full Comment]