Vil du rette op på økonomien?
Næste gang du køber kaffe, så køb en kop til personen bag dig. Eller mens du kværner dig vej gennem morgenpendlen, kan du hente bompengeafgiften til chaufføren bag dig, draperet over hans rat og buldre over den lange forsinkelse.
Du har hørt det berømte Gandhian-citat om at være forandringen, ja, det er gode foranstaltninger til at starte med, der giver mere kraft, end du måske forestiller dig.
Denne tilgang til livet starter med følgende præmis: Hvad præcist gjorde jeg (eller du) for at fortjene at være i live? Hvis du kan behandle det spørgsmål og komme ud og tro, at det var en gave, som du aldrig kan betale tilbage, så er det at begynde et liv med større givne gaver den eneste logiske og fjernt gensidige vej at gå. Hvis det mest værdifulde, du har, ikke er noget, du har tjent, hvorfor så være nærig med alle de mindre ting. Du kan starte den praksis med større generøsitet med større taknemmelighed. Og hvor er det bedre at starte end med din mor, men stop ikke der. Familie, venner og den endelige grænse, fremmede, er alle værdige emner.
Lad os gennemgå, hvad der plager os. Vores finansielle system brød næsten sammen for et par år siden. Vi støttede det tilbage med det, der var tilbage af vores fælles ressourcer, og lidt scotch tape her og der for at rette op på systemmanglerne. Og nu befinder vi os i en bedring, så anæmisk, at kun de velhavende kan mærke det. Der må være en bedre måde.
Byttehandel er en god måde at overleve en elendig økonomi på. Jeg kan ordne toiletter; du kan rense karburatorer. Lyst til at danse?
At lære at fungere i noget som en "gaveøkonomi" er dog langt mere subversivt og værd at tænke over.
For et par år siden, efter det nære økonomiske kollaps, blev Steamin' Bean i Blue Springs, Missouri fanget af gaveøkonomien. En kvinde, der hentede kaffe gennem vinduet, besluttede at købe endnu en kop anonymt til personen i bilen bag hende. Kæden fortsatte for tæt på 1.000 kunder. Det skete på grund af generøsitetens virale påvirkning.
Som Steamin' Bean-ejer Garin Bledsoe forklarede i en UPI.com-rapport den 15. juli 2009: "Det er hårde tider, men folk ønsker at være en del af noget, idet de ved, at deres 5 cents, deres dollar, går til et større gode."
Litteraturen om gaveøkonomien er rig. Kan du huske de der antropologiske klasser om potlatch? Primitive samfund vidt og bredt brugte "gaver" som et middel til at skabe sammenhæng og forbindelse, så meget desto bedre for at overleve strabadserne ved at leve af jorden og truslen fra andre mindre end venlige stammer. Denne praksis, i forskellige former, var ret udbredt og går forud for moderne opfindelse af valuta. Som historien går, er denne æra med kapital, de ting, vi har i vores pung og lommebøger, en blændende ny opfindelse. Hvordan går det for dig? Vædder på, at du er som det store flertal af verden. Uanset hvor meget du har, er der aldrig nok.
Her er noget at tænke over. Var disse førmoderne vaner med at "give gave" rene overlevelsesteknikker? Det moderne menneske er måske mindre tilbøjelig til denne form for grundlæggende gaver, deling og gensidighed. Men vi er gode til at studere ting, og forskningen bliver ved med at komme ind, så det føles godt at give. Rigtig god.
Hvad sker der præcist, når du køber den kop kaffe til personen bag dig?
Du får nogle gode ting til at ske i din krop. I hjernen faktisk, ifølge en række nyere medicinske undersøgelser, der har identificeret et neuralt kick fra at være generøs. Dacher Keltner, forfatter til Born to Be Good , opsummerer sit eget arbejde såvel som anden nyere forskning på dette område i denne artikel i magasinet Greater Good.
Men har vi virkelig brug for videnskaben til at fortælle os dette? Ræk hånden op, hvis sidste gang du gjorde noget godt for nogen -- noget ikke af vane, men en virkelig spontan handling af generøsitet uden forventet udbytte -- havde du det bedre end godt. Du følte dig faktisk på en måde ændret, som en form for skift fra en knaphedsmentalitet til en mere rigelig følelse af dig selv og livet. Okay, jeg projicerer her. Men du forstår pointen.
Jeg har undersøgt aktiviteter, der kan falde ind under en bred overskrift af "gaveøkonomien". Dette er i tjeneste for en eventuel bog om CharityFocus.org , en non-profit, der i løbet af det sidste årti har fungeret som en slags inkubator for gaveøkonomiske projekter.
En af de grundlæggende sandheder om aktiviteter så tilsyneladende trivielle som at købe kaffe til personen bag dig eller åbne døre for andre er, at de slet ikke er trivielle. Hvis du køber forslaget om, at det at ændre verden til det bedre starter med dig selv, vil disse små generøsitetshandlinger, når de gøres med fuld intention, gøre noget ganske kraftfuldt. De skifter din verden fra en "mig" orientering til en "vi" orientering. Den forstørrede og forbundne følelse af selv kan virkelig ændre alt, fra den måde du tænker på, til den måde du handler på.
Første gang, jeg stødte på denne tilgang, var ved at skrive en lille artikel om CharityFocus.org til The Christian Science Monitor , da jeg var avisens San Francisco-kontorchef. Og jeg husker så tydeligt som en ringende klokke, den gryende erkendelse af, at generøsitet ikke handlede om at løse et eller andet ydre problem. Det handlede om mig. Om at skabe et internt skift, om at etablere en anden tankegang.
Lewis Hyde skrev en bog kaldet The Gift i 1983. Den er både genial og fuldstændig modstandsdygtig over for at opsummere. Men den dykker ned i spørgsmål om værdien af skabende kunst, og det lidt eksistentielle spørgsmål om, hvordan kunstnere overhovedet kan forene deres "gave" med markedsøkonomiens kommercialiseringstendenser. Bogen er virkelig en grubling om forestillinger om værdi, gensidighed og forbindelserne og afbrydelserne mellem det moderne økonomiske landskab og ældre kulturers "gaveøkonomi". Det er nævnt her for at antyde, at forestillingen om en gaveøkonomi ikke er et venstreorienteret alternativ til kapitalismen. Faktum er, at vi formentlig alle er kablet, både fysiologisk og socialt, til at søge samarbejde og samarbejde på trods af et uddannelsessystem og en social kontekst, der arbejder fra vugge til grav for at indprente os et nulsumssyn på verden. Ressourcer er begrænsede, livet er kort, få hvad du kan - og hvis du har et lille overskud, så skriv måske en check til din yndlingsvelgørenhed.
I min bogforskning læste jeg bogstaveligt talt snesevis af vidnesbyrd hver eneste dag fra mennesker, der i den mindste gavmildhed har opdaget en meget stor følelse af glæde. Og et flertal beslutter at "betale det videre" på en eller anden måde. Og så disse handlinger aldrig selvstændige. De genlyder indadtil og replikerer udadtil.
Så køb den kop kaffe til personen bag dig. Du vil føle dig fantastisk. Du har videnskaben bag dig. Men du har ikke rigtig brug for den bekræftelse. Det, du vil bemærke mest, er, hvad der sker indeni.
Og tag ikke fejl, økonomien, som du har vidst, bliver den aldrig den samme.
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I completely get the point Paul is making. I also get the contrarian's points. It seems to me that most of contrarians are using the "logic" to counter Paul's argument. Paul's point can't be debated with only logical arguments alone. His points are more about being good, altruistic, spiritual and completely different from Market Based Economy. I think, there are pointers all around us - the market based economy, the self sufficient society isn't making us happier as individuals and prosperous as society. Reasons are that we are gone too far away from valuing happiness, satisfaction, friendships, goodwill as much as we value the money and hoarding what we may not need.
I had a similar feeling few years ago, and started working on an idea -- it's called "Goodsq", "Good Square", "Good to the power 2" -- call it what easy for you. My goal when I started with was to make people think more meaningfully about their relations. My realization has been humble and a bit saddening - people are more selfish and would do anything when they are made guilty, greedy and when they want to brag. My experiment is still on and I am determined. Please check this out at - www.goodsq.com.
[Hide Full Comment]Paul:
I like to think that I have a healthy contempt for
political correctness; I do not overly romanticize communities that enjoy long,
traditional social systems; and I am largely skeptical of the way the
epithet "wisdom" is so facilely applied to ancient cultures. But
I'd have to choke a little hard to apply the phrase
"primitive societies" to the Coast Salish, Haida, Kwakwaka'wakw, Nuu-chah-nulth, Gitxsan, and
Tsimshian First Nations who practice the potlatch. Quite aside the pejorative aspect of
the description, it obscures the fact that the potlatch remains a vibrant,
contemporary practice. While the
potlatch was banned in Canada between 1855 and 1951 – and for a similar period
within the United States, I believe – it did not disappear and retains a social
and economic relevance in those First Nations communities for whom it is
customary.
Still your basic point is a
good one: potlatching is a superb example of a gift economy practice.
Yvonne Wilson of Kwakwaka'wakw First Nations has written an interesting
explanatory comment on potlatching in the context of a discussion on the gift
economy, here.
MBJ
[Hide Full Comment]As we were taught in High School Driver's Ed, back in the olden days, :-), Courtesy is contagious!! Get the fever!!!!
My exhusband gave me many gifts, his love for 25 years, two fantastic children and a horse that changed the course of both our lives, the result of which is I am daily able to gift my new energy, soulfulness and conscious living to my family and friends, the process of divorce has enabled me to gift a mortgage repayment for a friend in trouble, rent for a girl friend beginning to live alone and to fly a beloved horse, Oscar, to Australia for a friend who had been supported by his love whilst undergoing cancer treatment and upon recovery had moved to Oz and missed Oscars love so much it was wonderful getting a picture of their reunion at 4 am in Perth. I have in return been supported by so many people each time I have need something, from a contact to help me with information processing or gathering to some one willing to listen on the phone at 3 am when the journey looks black and hopeless. Small or large paying forward in terms of financial or spiritual connects and transforms us.
[Hide Full Comment]I strongly disagree with your 2nd paragraph. Compassion and kindness and help in anyway is an expression of your vunerability in this day and age. If you do what you say the receiver will exploit you again and again.
My philosophy is to help anyone who is physically challenged.
In this country there are not too many opportunities for them.
And by the way for a driver ranting at the long slow lines a SMILE does wonders !
I do agree that when we are in a full-blown gift economy, money will be unnecessary. However, in the meantime, while we are bridging the gap, most gifts will cost someone financially.
Progressivepam’s definition of “gift” in her reply below
(…giving something without expectation of return (either in money or demands or
manipulation) shines light on a dilemma I often experience. I find myself
reluctant to use “Smile Cards” because I feel like I’m asking people to do
something in response to my act of kindness - i.e. pay it forward. That does
seem like a dilemma: we want to freely give a gift, yet we also want to raise
awareness around the concept by describing and demonstrating how it works.
Promoting an idea, however good, sort of implies that you’d like people to
embrace the idea.
Maybe the resolution simply lies in the spirit with which you deliver
the card. If you can maintain a playful, non-attached attitude, then it’s most
likely to succeed.
Does anyone else experience this?
I ran to the store for some additional ingredients for a dinner party, but left my purse at home. Darn, I'd have to go all the way back and I was running out of time. I asked the checker to hold onto my groceries, when the man next to me (big, black, comfortable, cheerful) said he would cover the almost $10. I was surprised, and thanked him, but said no. He insisted, saying "You never know what life has in mind for you." I understood him to mean God, so of course I accepted. I thanked him with gratitude, and gifted him the good feeling associated with unconditional giving.
a new yoga studio just opened in my town, Asheville, NC. It is totally free. beautiful space, all teachers teach as a gift, everyone is welcome. and it's taking over the yoga scene! the classes are always full, the teachers are blossoming when they are free to teach as a gift and not worry about being the best so the classes will fill up. And people are being exposed to yoga!. The community of folks who practice here volunteer their time to make the studio happen in every way. A new parking lot was needed and in under three weeks the community raised 12,000 dollars to make it happen. Its' an amazing place. Asheville Community Yoga.
In between rains I go out and plant a few saplings. In this weather they have a good chance of surviving and thriving. Is this an act of kindness or what? I don't know.
Yesterday I presented a few saplings as a birth day gift. Is this part of the gift economy? I don't know.
I have been doing things like these all my life.
This is a great article and I love the message behind it: "Give unconditionally". I can relate to this because of what I am currently facing with my country, Egypt. There are various plans similar to this that focus on simply giving without expecting. I also deeply believe that if such an economy existed, money itself wouldn't find its place in life but rather at heart. Growth, contribution, and even significance would become ego-less since the attachment to "getting back something" would perish. The reason many people find it difficult to believe such an economy would exist is because we're conditioned to think that the ultimate superior to money is a bank; never the people. If we thought beyond physically and corporate entities in such cases, the world's currency would be a smile.
One of the opportunities I believe we are changed when we can do something for someone else and they not find out about it. Another way is to be in gratitude. Both seem to change me internally and therefore I respond to others differently.
There's such a special feeling that goes along with giving or receiving a gift that just purely given. It feels like, well, love.
I think this article misrepresents the gift economy - or at the very least, it presents a mixed money/gift economy with a very heavy stress on the "money" parts. In the pure gift economy, you are supposed to make what you gift, or add value to previously received gifts and pass them on. Money does not work this way at all.