Wrth ruthro drwy faes awyr, stopiais i brynu dŵr. Wrth oergell y siop, roedd dyn wedi plygu drosodd, yn llwytho poteli i mewn iddi. Estynnais heibio iddo a thynnu un allan yr oedd wedi'i roi ynddi. Edrychodd i fyny, stopiodd weithio, cymerodd botel o silff arall, a'i chynnig i mi, gan ddweud “Mae'r un hon yn oer.” Dywedais ddiolch a chymerais yr un a gynigiodd.
Doedd e ddim yn fy adnabod i ac ni fyddai byth yn fy ngweld eto. Stocio oedd ei swydd, nid gwasanaeth cwsmeriaid. Roedd e’n brysur ac yn edrych yn flinedig. Ond fe gymerodd yr amser i sylwi fy mod i wedi cael potel gynnes, ac roedd e’n ddigon gofalgar i newid gêr a chael un oer i mi. Dymunodd yn dda i mi.
Gallaf weld ei lygaid cyfeillgar wrth i mi ysgrifennu nawr, wythnos yn ddiweddarach. Dim ond potel o ddŵr oedd hi. Ond rwy'n teimlo'n gynnes gan ei garedigrwydd ac yn cael fy nghefnogi gan ei fwriadau da.
Drwy gydnabod y bwriadau cadarnhaol mewn eraill, rydym yn teimlo'n fwy diogel, yn cael mwy o gefnogaeth, ac yn hapusach. A phan fydd eraill yn teimlo eich bod yn cael eu bwriadau da, maent yn teimlo eu bod yn cael eu gweld, eu gwerthfawrogi, ac yn fwy tueddol o'ch trin yn dda.
Ond gall fod yn anodd adnabod yr ewyllys da mewn eraill. Rydym yn brysur ac wedi ein tynnu sylw ac dan straen. Yn aml, mae nodau cadarnhaol wedi'u claddu o dan ymddygiadau negyddol. Mae tuedd negyddol gynhenid yr ymennydd yn sganio'n barhaus am newyddion drwg, bwriadau drwg. Mae'r ymennydd hefyd yn ymateb i newydd-deb, felly mae'n tueddu i anwybyddu'r nifer o fwriadau cadarnhaol sy'n treiddio'r rhan fwyaf o fywyd bob dydd wrth amlygu'r rhai negyddol achlysurol.
Felly mae'n rhaid i chi chwilio'n weithredol am fwriadau da. Yna fe welwch chi nhw o'ch cwmpas—ffenestr i'r daioni dwfn ym mhob bod, ni waeth pa mor gudd ydyn nhw.
Sut?
Cymerwch funud i gydnabod y nifer o fwriadau da—nodau, dibenion, dyheadau—sydd gennych mewn diwrnod nodweddiadol.
Nid oes rhaid i fwriadau da fod yn sanctaidd. Mae'r bwriadau da i gyd yn fwriadol. Eisiau mwynhau paned o goffi, bwyta brecwast gweddus, cloi'r drws y tu ôl i chi, cyrraedd y gwaith ar amser, bod yn gydwybodol, teimlo'n ddiogel, gofalu am deulu, bod yn berson gweddus, osgoi trafferth, brifo llai, mwynhau rhywbeth melys, peidio â ffraeo, byw i weld yr haul yn codi—mae'r rhain i gyd yn fwriadau da.
Bydd y rhan fwyaf o fwriadau da yn fach. Ond maen nhw'n dal i fod yn bwysig. Dychmygwch y trychinebau pe baech chi'n disodli eich bwriadau da gyda rhai drwg! Yn sicr, nid yw rhai bwriadau mor dda, fel awydd i ddominyddu, gweithredu allan chwantau caethiwus, neu daflu teimladau negyddol ar eraill. Ond i bron pawb, mae'r mwyafrif helaeth o fwriadau yn rhai da. Gadewch iddo ddod yn deimlad, yn ymdeimlad cryf yn eich corff, eich bod chi'n rhywun â bwriadau da.
Wrth siarad â ffrind, byddwch yn ymwybodol o'i fwriadau cadarnhaol. Sut mae'n teimlo i'w gweld? Rhowch gynnig ar hyn yn rheolaidd gyda phobl rydych chi'n gofalu amdanyn nhw. Dw i'n gweld bod gwneud hyn yn fy helpu i ddeall eraill yn well ac yn agor fy nghalon. Yn ôl yr angen, dywedwch wrth y person arall beth rydych chi wedi'i ddysgu; gall clywed cydnabyddiaeth o fwriadau da rhywun fod yn brofiad pwerus.
Ceisiwch weld bwriadau da mewn dieithriaid yn cerdded i lawr y stryd—neu faes awyr. Fe welwch lawer o gwrteisi, ymdrechion i wneud gwaith da, awydd i ddeall neu gael eich deall, teyrngarwch i ffrindiau ac achosion, chwarae teg, a charedigrwydd. Mae'r arfer hwn yn fy ngwneud yn hapus, ac yn rhoi ymdeimlad cryfach i mi o'n dynoliaeth gyffredin.
Rhowch gynnig ar hyn hefyd gyda phobl sy'n anodd i chi. Nid yw hyn i'w hesgusodi. Ond gall gweld bwriadau da yng nghanol ymddygiadau drwg, yn eironig, eich helpu i deimlo llai o effaith—llai o straen, llid, neu bryder—gan bobl eraill. Gallech hefyd ofyn i eraill gydnabod y bwriadau da ynoch chi.
Mae marwor o sancteiddrwydd ym mhob un ohonom, gan gynnwys yr un sy'n edrych yn ôl yn y drych. Mae cydnabod bwriadau da yn chwythu ar y marwor hwnnw, yn ychwanegu tanwydd ato, ac yn ei helpu i dyfu'n fflam gynnes a hardd.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!