Steidzīgi traucoties cauri lidostai, es apstājos, lai nopirktu ūdeni. Pie veikala ledusskapja kāds vīrietis bija noliecies un krāva tajā pudeles. Es pastiepu roku viņam garām un izvilku vienu, ko viņš bija ielicis. Viņš pacēla acis, pārtrauca darbu, paņēma pudeli no cita plaukta un pasniedza to man, sakot: "Šī ir auksta." Es pateicos un paņēmu piedāvāto.
Viņš mani nepazina un nekad vairs mani neredzēs. Viņa darbs bija preču piegāde, nevis klientu apkalpošana. Viņš bija aizņemts un izskatījās noguris. Bet viņš atvēlēja laiku, lai atzīmētu, ka esmu saņēmusi siltu pudeli, un viņam rūpēja pietiekami, lai mainītu virzienu un atnestu man aukstu. Viņš man novēlēja visu to labāko.
Es redzu viņa draudzīgās acis, rakstot tagad, nedēļu vēlāk. Tā bija tikai ūdens pudele. Bet mani silda viņa laipnība un iedrošina viņa labie nodomi.
Atpazīstot citos pozitīvos nodomus, mēs jūtamies drošāk, atbalstītāk un laimīgāki. Un, kad citi jūt, ka mēs saprotam viņu labos nodomus, viņi jūtas pamanīti, novērtēti un vairāk tieksmi pret jums izturēties labi.
Taču var būt grūti atpazīt labo gribu citos. Mēs esam aizņemti, izklaidīgi un stresaini. Pozitīvi mērķi bieži vien ir aprakti zem negatīvas uzvedības. Smadzeņu iedzimtā negatīvisma tendence nepārtraukti meklēt sliktas ziņas, sliktus nodomus. Smadzenes reaģē arī uz jaunumu, tāpēc tās mēdz ignorēt daudzos pozitīvos nodomus, kas caurstrāvo lielāko daļu ikdienas dzīves, vienlaikus izceļot neregulāri negatīvos.
Tāpēc tev aktīvi jāmeklē labi nodomi. Tad tu tos atradīsi visapkārt sev — logu uz dziļo labestību katrā būtnē, lai cik aptumšota tā būtu.
Kā?
Veltiet minūti, lai atpazītu daudzos labos nodomus — mērķus, nolūkus, vēlmes —, kas jums ir tipiskā dienā.
Labiem nodomiem nav jābūt svētulīgiem. Vēlme baudīt tasi kafijas, paēst kārtīgas brokastis, aizslēgt aiz sevis durvis, nokļūt darbā laikā, būt apzinīgam, justies droši, rūpēties par ģimeni, būt pieklājīgam cilvēkam, izvairīties no nepatikšanām, mazāk sāpināt, baudīt kaut ko saldu, nestrīdēties, nodzīvot līdz saullēktam — tie visi ir labi nodomi.
Lielākā daļa labo nodomu būs mazi. Taču tiem joprojām ir nozīme. Tikai iedomājieties, kādas katastrofas notiktu, ja jūs savus labos nodomus aizstātu ar sliktiem! Protams, daži nodomi nav tik labi, piemēram, vēlme dominēt, īstenot atkarību izraisošas tieksmes vai izgāzt negatīvas sajūtas uz citiem. Taču gandrīz ikvienam lielākā daļa nodomu ir labi. Ļaujiet tai kļūt par sajūtu, spēcīgu apziņu jūsu ķermenī, ka esat kāds ar labiem nodomiem.
Runājot ar draugu, pievērsiet uzmanību viņa vai viņas pozitīvajiem nodomiem. Kāda ir sajūta tos redzēt? Mēģiniet to darīt regulāri ar cilvēkiem, kas jums rūp. Esmu atklājis, ka tas man palīdz labāk izprast citus un atver manu sirdi. Ja nepieciešams, pastāstiet otram cilvēkam, ko esat iemācījies; dzirdēt atzinību par kāda labajiem nodomiem var būt spēcīga pieredze.
Pamēģiniet saskatīt labus nodomus svešiniekos, kas iet pa ielu vai lidostu. Jūs redzēsiet daudz pieklājības, centienus paveikt labu darbu, vēlmi saprast vai tikt saprastam, lojalitāti draugiem un mērķiem, godīgu spēli un laipnību. Šī prakse mani dara laimīgu un dod man spēcīgāku izpratni par mūsu kopīgo cilvēcību.
Izmēģiniet to arī ar cilvēkiem, ar kuriem jums ir grūti. Tas nav domāts, lai viņus attaisnotu. Taču labu nodomu saskatīšana sliktas uzvedības fonā var ironiskā kārtā palīdzēt justies mazāk ietekmētam — mazāk stresam, aizkaitinājumam vai raizēm — no citu cilvēku puses. Varat arī lūgt citiem atpazīt jūsos esošos labos nodomus.
Katrā no mums, arī tajā, kas skatās spogulī, mīt svētuma ogle. Labu nodomu atpazīšana uzpūš šo ogli, pievieno tai degvielu un palīdz tai izaugt par siltu un skaistu liesmu.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!