Nikiwa bize kupitia uwanja wa ndege, nilisimama ili kununua maji. Katika jokofu la duka hilo, mtu mmoja alikuwa ameinama, akipakia chupa ndani yake. Nilimfikia na kumchomoa moja aliyokuwa ameiweka. Alitazama juu, akaacha kufanya kazi, akachukua chupa kutoka kwenye rafu nyingine, na kuninyooshea, akisema “Hii ni baridi.” Nikasema asante na kuchukua ile aliyotoa.
Hakunijua na hangeniona tena. Kazi yake ilikuwa kuhifadhi, sio huduma kwa wateja. Alikuwa na shughuli nyingi na alionekana kuchoka. Lakini alichukua muda kujiandikisha kuwa nimepata chupa ya joto, na alijali vya kutosha kuhamisha gia na kuniletea baridi. Alinitakia heri.
Ninaweza kuona macho yake ya kirafiki ninapoandika sasa, wiki moja baadaye. Ilikuwa chupa ya maji tu. Lakini ninahisi kufurahishwa na fadhili zake na kuchochewa na nia yake nzuri.
Kwa kutambua nia chanya kwa wengine, tunajisikia salama zaidi, tunaungwa mkono zaidi na wenye furaha zaidi. Na wengine wanapohisi kwamba unapata nia zao nzuri, wanahisi kuonekana, kuthaminiwa, na kupendezwa zaidi kukutendea vizuri.
Lakini inaweza kuwa vigumu kutambua nia njema kwa wengine. Tuko busy na tumekengeushwa na kusisitiza. Malengo chanya mara nyingi huzikwa chini ya tabia mbaya. Upendeleo wa asili wa uhasi wa ubongo unaendelea kutafuta habari mbaya, nia mbaya. Ubongo pia huguswa na mambo mapya, kwa hivyo huwa na kupuuza nia nyingi chanya zinazoenea katika maisha ya kila siku huku ikiangazia zile mbaya za mara kwa mara.
Kwa hivyo unapaswa kutafuta kikamilifu nia nzuri. Kisha utawapata pande zote - dirisha ndani ya wema wa kina katika kila kiumbe, haijalishi ni siri jinsi gani.
Jinsi gani?
Chukua dakika moja kutambua nia nyingi nzuri—malengo, makusudi, matamanio—ambazo unakuwa nazo kwa siku ya kawaida.
Nia njema haihitaji kuwa mtakatifu. Kutaka kufurahia kikombe cha kahawa, kula kifungua kinywa kizuri, kufunga mlango nyuma yako, kufika kazini kwa wakati, kuwa mwangalifu, kujisikia salama, kutunza familia, kuwa mtu mwenye adabu, kuepuka matatizo, kuumia kidogo, kufurahia kitu kitamu, kutogombana, kuishi kuona mawio ya jua—haya yote ni nia njema.
Nia nzuri zaidi itakuwa ndogo. Lakini bado ni muhimu. Hebu fikiria misiba ikiwa utabadilisha nia yako nzuri na mbaya! Hakika, nia fulani si nzuri sana, kama vile tamaa ya kutawala, kutenda matamanio ya kulevya, au kuwapa wengine hisia hasi. Lakini kwa karibu kila mtu, idadi kubwa ya nia ni nzuri. Hebu iwe hisia, hisia kali katika mwili wako, kwamba wewe ni mtu mwenye nia nzuri.
Kuzungumza na rafiki, fahamu nia yake nzuri. Je, unajisikiaje kuwaona? Jaribu hili mara kwa mara na watu unaowajali. Ninaona kuwa kufanya hivi hunisaidia kuelewa wengine vizuri zaidi na hufungua moyo wangu. Inafaa, mwambie mtu mwingine kile umejifunza; kusikia utambuzi wa nia nzuri ya mtu inaweza kuwa uzoefu wenye nguvu.
Jaribu kuona nia njema kwa wageni wanaotembea barabarani-au uwanja wa ndege. Utaona adabu nyingi, juhudi za kufanya kazi nzuri, hamu ya kuelewa au kueleweka, uaminifu kwa marafiki na sababu, mchezo wa haki na fadhili. Mazoezi haya hunifurahisha, na hunipa hisia kali zaidi ya ubinadamu wetu wa kawaida.
Pia jaribu hili na watu ambao ni wagumu kwako. Huku si kuwapa udhuru. Lakini kuona nia njema kati ya tabia mbaya kunaweza, kwa kushangaza, kukusaidia kuhisi kuathiriwa kidogo-msisitizo mdogo, kuudhika, au wasiwasi-na watu wengine. Unaweza pia kuwauliza wengine kutambua nia njema ndani yako.
Kuna hali ya utakatifu ndani ya kila mmoja wetu, ikiwa ni pamoja na yule anayetazama nyuma kwenye kioo. Kutambua nia njema hupuliza makaa hayo, huiongezea mafuta, na huisaidia kukua na kuwa mwali wa joto na mzuri.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!