Пробијајући се кроз аеродром, свратио сам да купим воду. Код фрижидера у продавници, човек се сагнуо и стављао флаше у њега. Пружио сам се поред њега и извукао једну коју је он ставио унутра. Подигао је поглед, престао да ради, узео флашу са друге полице и пружио ми је, говорећи: „Ова је хладна.“ Захвалио сам се и узео ону коју ми је понудио.
Није ме познавао и никада ме више неће видети. Његов посао је био снабдевање, а не услуживање купаца. Био је заузет и изгледао је уморно. Али је одвојио време да примети да сам добила топлу флашицу и довољно му је било стало да промени брзину и донесе ми хладну. Пожелео ми је све најбоље.
Видим његове пријатељске очи док сада пишем, недељу дана касније. Била је то само флаша воде. Али осећам топлину његове љубазности и охрабрење његовим добрим намерама.
Препознајући позитивне намере код других, осећамо се сигурније, подржаније и срећније. А када други осете да разумемо њихове добре намере, осећају се виђеним, цењеним и склонијим да се добро опходе према вама.
Али може бити тешко препознати добру вољу код других. Заузети смо, расејани и под стресом. Позитивни циљеви су често закопани испод негативног понашања. Урођена склоност мозга ка негативности стално тражи лоше вести, лоше намере. Мозак такође реагује на новине, па тежи да игнорише многе позитивне намере које прожимају већи део свакодневног живота, док повремено истиче негативне.
Зато морате активно тражити добре намере. Тада ћете их пронаћи свуда око себе – прозор у дубоку доброту у сваком бићу, без обзира колико је замагљена.
Како?
Одвојите минут да препознате многе добре намере - циљеве, сврхе, жеље - које имате у типичном дану.
Добре намере не морају бити свете. Желети да уживате у шољици кафе, да поједете пристојан доручак, да закључате врата за собом, да стигнете на посао на време, да будете савесни, да се осећате безбедно, да бринете о породици, да будете пристојна особа, да избегнете невоље, да мање повређујете, да уживате у нечему слатком, да се не свађате, да доживите излазак сунца - све су то добре намере.
Већина добрих намера биће мале. Али оне су и даље важне. Само замислите какве би катастрофе биле ако бисте своје добре намере заменили лошим! Наравно, неке намере нису тако добре, као што су жеље за доминацијом, испољавање зависности или исказивање негативних осећања на друге. Али за скоро свакога, велика већина намера су добре. Нека то постане осећај, снажан осећај у вашем телу, да сте неко са добрим намерама.
Разговарајући са пријатељем, будите свесни његових или њених позитивних намера. Какав је осећај видети их? Покушајте ово редовно са људима до којих вам је стало. Сматрам да ми ово помаже да боље разумем друге и да ми отвара срце. Када је прикладно, реците другој особи шта сте научили; чути признање нечијих добрих намера може бити снажно искуство.
Покушајте да видите добре намере код странаца који ходају улицом — или аеродромом. Видећете много љубазности, напора да се добро обави посао, жеље да се разуме или да се буде схваћен, лојалности пријатељима и циљевима, фер-плеја и љубазности. Ова пракса ме чини срећном и даје ми јачи осећај наше заједничке човечности.
Такође покушајте ово са људима који су вам тешки. Ово није да бисте их оправдали. Али, виђење добрих намера усред лошег понашања може, иронично, помоћи да се осећате мање погођено - мање под стресом, иритирано или забринуто - због других људи. Такође можете замолити друге да препознају добре намере у вама.
У свакоме од нас постоји жар светости, укључујући и оног ко се гледа у огледало. Препознавање добрих намера распламсава тај жар, додаје му гориво и помаже му да прерасте у топао и леп пламен.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
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--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!