Aireportu batean presaka nindoala, ura erostera gelditu nintzen. Dendako hozkailuan, gizon bat makurtuta zegoen, botilak sartzen. Haren ondotik eskua luzatu eta sartu zuen bat atera nuen. Gora begiratu zuen, lanari utzi zion, beste apal batetik botila bat hartu eta niri luzatu zidan, esanez: "Hau hotz dago". Eskerrak eman eta eskaini zidana hartu nuen.
Ez ninduen ezagutzen eta ez ninduen gehiago ikusiko. Bere lana hornigaiak erostea zen, ez bezeroarentzako arreta. Lanpetuta zegoen eta nekatuta zirudien. Baina denbora hartu zuen botila bero bat hartu nuela konturatzeko, eta nahikoa arduratu zen martxa aldatzeko eta bat hotz ekartzeko. Onena opa zidan.
Bere begi atseginak ikus ditzaket idazten ari naizen bitartean, astebete geroago. Ur botila bat besterik ez zen. Baina bere adeitasunak berotu nau eta bere asmo onek animatu naute.
Besteengan asmo positiboak antzematean, seguruago, babestuago eta zoriontsuago sentitzen gara. Eta besteek beren asmo onak lortzen dituzula sentitzen dutenean, ikusita, estimatuta eta ondo tratatzeko joera handiagoa dutela sentitzen dute.
Baina zaila izan daiteke besteen borondate ona antzematea. Lanpetuta, arreta galduta eta estresatuta gaude. Helburu positiboak askotan portaera negatiboen azpian ezkutatzen dira. Garunaren berezko negatibotasun-joera etengabe ari da berri txarrak eta asmo txarrak bilatzen. Garunak berritasunei ere erreakzionatzen die, beraz, eguneroko bizitza gehienetan nagusi diren asmo positibo asko alde batera uzten ditu, noizbehinkako asmo negatiboak nabarmenduz.
Beraz, asmo onak aktiboki bilatu behar dituzu. Orduan, inguruan aurkituko dituzu: izaki ororen baitan dagoen ontasun sakonaren leiho bat, zenbateraino ilunduta egon arren.
Nola?
Hartu minutu bat egun tipiko batean dituzun asmo on asko —helburuak, xedeak, nahiak— ezagutzeko.
Asmo onek ez dute zertan santuak izan behar. Kafe bat hartu nahi izatea, gosari duin bat jatea, atea atzean ixtea, lanera garaiz iristea, kontzientziatsua izatea, seguru sentitzea, familia zaintzea, pertsona duina izatea, arazoak saihestea, gutxiago min hartzea, zerbait gozoaz gozatzea, ez liskarra izatea, egunsentia ikusteko bizitzea — horiek guztiak asmo onak dira.
Asmo on gehienak txikiak izango dira. Baina hala ere garrantzitsuak dira. Imajinatu hondamendiak zure asmo onak txarrekin ordezkatuko bazenitu! Noski, asmo batzuk ez dira hain onak, hala nola, menderatzeko, mendekotasun-irrika batzuk gauzatzeko edo sentimendu negatiboak besteengan botatzeko nahiak. Baina ia guztiontzat, asmo gehienak onak dira. Utzi sentimendu bihur dadila, zure gorputzean sentsazio sendo bat, asmo onak dituen norbait zarela.
Lagun batekin hitz egiten duzunean, izan zaitez jabetu haren asmo positiboez. Nola sentitzen da haiek ikustean? Saiatu hau maiz maite dituzun pertsonekin. Uste dut horrek besteak hobeto ulertzen laguntzen didala eta bihotza irekitzen didala. Dagokionean, esan beste pertsonari ikasi duzuna; norberaren asmo onen aitortza entzutea esperientzia indartsua izan daiteke.
Saiatu kaletik edo aireportutik dabiltzan ezezagunengan asmo onak ikusten. Kortesia asko, lan ona egiteko ahaleginak, ulertzeko edo ulertua izateko nahia, lagunekiko eta kausekiko leialtasuna, joko garbia eta adeitasunak ikusiko dituzu. Praktika honek zoriontsu egiten nau, eta gure gizatasun komunaren sentimendu sendoagoa ematen dit.
Saiatu hau zuretzat zailak diren pertsonekin ere. Ez da haiek barkatzeko. Baina portaera txarren artean asmo onak ikusteak, ironikoki, beste pertsonek gutxiago eraginda sentitzen lagun zaitzake —estresatu, haserretu edo kezkatuta gutxiago—. Beste batzuei ere eska diezaiekezu zuregan dauden asmo onak antzemateko.
Santutasun txingar bat dago gutako bakoitzarengan, ispiluan atzera begira dagoenarengan barne. Asmo onak aitortzeak txingar horri erretzen dio, erregaia gehitzen dio eta sugar bero eta eder bihurtzen laguntzen dio.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!