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Samo Jedna stvar: Vidi Dobre Namjere

Probijajući se kroz zračnu luku, stao sam kupiti vode. Kod hladnjaka u trgovini, čovjek se sagnuo i u njega utovarivao boce. Pružio sam ruku pored njega i izvukao jednu koju je on stavio unutra. Podigao je pogled, prestao raditi, uzeo bocu s druge police i pružio mi je, rekavši: „Ova je hladna.“ Zahvalio sam se i uzeo onu koju mi ​​je ponudio.

Nije me poznavao i više me nikada neće vidjeti. Njegov je posao bio opskrba, a ne usluga korisnicima. Bio je zauzet i izgledao je umorno. Ali odvojio je vrijeme da primijeti da sam dobila toplu bočicu i bilo mu je dovoljno stalo da promijeni brzinu i donese mi hladnu. Poželio mi je sve najbolje.

Vidim njegove prijateljske oči dok ovo pišem sada, tjedan dana kasnije. Bila je to samo boca vode. Ali osjećam se grijano njegovom ljubaznošću i ohrabreno njegovim dobrim namjerama.

Prepoznajući pozitivne namjere kod drugih, osjećamo se sigurnije, podržanije i sretnije. A kada drugi osjete da razumijemo njihove dobre namjere, osjećaju se viđeno, cijenjeno i sklonije su dobro se ponašati prema nama.

Ali može biti teško prepoznati dobru volju u drugima. Zauzeti smo, rastreseni i pod stresom. Pozitivni ciljevi često su zakopani ispod negativnog ponašanja. Urođena sklonost negativnosti mozga neprestano traži loše vijesti, loše namjere. Mozak također reagira na novosti, pa ima tendenciju ignorirati mnoge pozitivne namjere koje prožimaju većinu svakodnevnog života, dok povremeno ističe negativne.

Dakle, morate aktivno tražiti dobre namjere. Tada ćete ih pronaći posvuda oko sebe - prozor u duboku dobrotu u svakom biću, bez obzira koliko je prikrivena.

Kako?

Odvojite minutu da prepoznate mnoge dobre namjere - ciljeve, svrhe, želje - koje imate u tipičnom danu.

Dobre namjere ne moraju biti svetačke. Želja uživati ​​u šalici kave, pojesti pristojan doručak, zaključati vrata za sobom, doći na posao na vrijeme, biti savjestan, osjećati se sigurno, brinuti se za obitelj, biti pristojna osoba, izbjegavati probleme, manje patiti, uživati ​​u nečemu slatkom, ne svađati se, doživjeti izlazak sunca - sve su to dobre namjere.

Većina dobrih namjera bit će male. Ali i dalje su važne. Zamislite samo katastrofe ako biste svoje dobre namjere zamijenili lošima! Naravno, neke namjere nisu tako dobre, poput želje za dominacijom, ispoljavanja ovisničke žudnje ili iskaljivanja negativnih osjećaja na druge. Ali za gotovo sve, velika većina namjera su dobre. Neka to postane osjećaj, snažan osjećaj u vašem tijelu, da ste netko s dobrim namjerama.

Razgovarajući s prijateljem, budite svjesni njegovih ili njezinih pozitivnih namjera. Kakav je osjećaj vidjeti ga? Pokušajte ovo redovito s ljudima do kojih vam je stalo. Smatram da mi to pomaže da bolje razumijem druge i otvara mi srce. Po potrebi, recite drugoj osobi što ste naučili; čuti priznanje nečijih dobrih namjera može biti snažno iskustvo.

Pokušajte vidjeti dobre namjere kod stranaca koji hodaju ulicom - ili aerodromom. Vidjet ćete mnogo uljudnosti, napora da se obavi dobar posao, želje da se razumije ili da se bude shvaćen, odanosti prijateljima i ciljevima, poštene igre i ljubaznosti. Ova praksa me čini sretnom i daje mi jači osjećaj naše zajedničke humanosti.

Pokušajte ovo i s ljudima koji su vam teški. Ovo nije opravdanje za njih. Ali, ironično, prepoznavanje dobrih namjera usred lošeg ponašanja može vam pomoći da se osjećate manje pogođeni - manje pod stresom, iritirano ili zabrinuto - zbog drugih ljudi. Također možete zamoliti druge da prepoznaju dobre namjere u vama.

U svakome od nas postoji žar svetosti, uključujući i onoga tko se gleda u ogledalo. Prepoznavanje dobrih namjera rasplamsava taj žar, dodaje mu gorivo i pomaže mu da preraste u topao i lijep plamen.

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kk Dec 1, 2012

This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/

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Dov Nov 30, 2012

Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."

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the monster of blogness Nov 27, 2012
nicearticle (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by thereply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's notentirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the firstsentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? whatis the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are twoseparate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' andthe values that this contains and that intention is a thing we lethappen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see thingsthis way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneselffrom his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with thisintention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like goodor intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images ofgood behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do everymoment. And the fact that there are bil... [View Full Comment]
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Marc Roth Nov 26, 2012

Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!

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Guest Nov 26, 2012
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction o... [View Full Comment]
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idBeiYin Nov 26, 2012
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article) --- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction ... [View Full Comment]
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poornima Nov 26, 2012

Thanks for the article!

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IamBullyproofMusic Nov 26, 2012

Love this! Thank you.

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Kristin Pedemonti Nov 25, 2012

So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.

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Heather Villa Nov 25, 2012

The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!