Skubėdamas per oro uostą sustojau nusipirkti vandens. Prie parduotuvės šaldytuvo pasilenkęs vyras krovė į jį butelius. Pasiekiau jį ir ištraukiau vieną, kurį jis buvo įdėjęs. Jis pakėlė akis, nustojo dirbti, paėmė butelį iš kitos lentynos ir ištiesė jį man sakydamas: „Šis šaltas.“ Padėkojau ir paėmiau jo pasiūlytą.
Jis manęs nepažinojo ir daugiau niekada manęs nematys. Jo darbas buvo prekiauti prekėmis, o ne aptarnauti klientus. Jis buvo užsiėmęs ir atrodė pavargęs. Tačiau jis rado laiko pastebėti, kad gavau šiltą buteliuką, ir jam tiek rūpėjo, kad jis pakeitė kryptį ir atnešė man šaltą. Jis palinkėjo man viso ko geriausio.
Rašydamas dabar, po savaitės, matau jo draugiškas akis. Tai buvo tik vandens butelis. Bet mane šildo jo gerumas ir padrąsina geri ketinimai.
Atpažindami teigiamus kitų ketinimus, jaučiamės saugesni, labiau palaikomi ir laimingesni. O kai kiti jaučia, kad suprantame jų gerus ketinimus, jie jaučiasi matomi, vertinami ir labiau linkę su jumis elgtis gerai.
Tačiau gali būti sunku atpažinti geranoriškumą kituose. Esame užsiėmę, išsiblaškę ir patiriame stresą. Teigiami tikslai dažnai slypi po neigiamu elgesiu. Įgimtas smegenų negatyvumo polinkis nuolat ieško blogų naujienų, blogų ketinimų. Smegenys taip pat reaguoja į naujoves, todėl linkusios ignoruoti daugybę teigiamų ketinimų, kurie persmelkia didžiąją dalį kasdienio gyvenimo, o kartais atkreipia dėmesį į neigiamus.
Taigi, turite aktyviai ieškoti gerų ketinimų. Tada juos rasite visur aplink save – langą į gilų gėrį kiekvienoje būtybėje, kad ir koks jis būtų užgožtas.
Kaip?
Skirkite minutę atpažinti daugybę gerų ketinimų – tikslų, siekių, troškimų – kuriuos turite įprastą dieną.
Geri ketinimai nebūtinai turi būti šventi. Noras mėgautis puodeliu kavos, sočiai papusryčiauti, užrakinti duris, laiku atvykti į darbą, būti sąžiningas, jaustis saugiai, rūpintis šeima, būti padoriu žmogumi, vengti bėdų, mažiau skaudėti, mėgautis kažkuo saldžiu, nesiginčyti, gyventi iki saulėtekio – visa tai yra geri ketinimai.
Dauguma gerų ketinimų bus maži. Bet jie vis tiek svarbūs. Tik įsivaizduokite, kokios nelaimės kiltų, jei gerus ketinimus pakeistumėte blogais! Žinoma, kai kurie ketinimai nėra tokie geri, pavyzdžiui, noras dominuoti, patenkinti priklausomybę sukeliančius potraukius ar išlieti neigiamus jausmus kitiems. Tačiau beveik visiems didžioji dauguma ketinimų yra geri. Tegul tai tampa jausmu, stipriu pojūčiu jūsų kūne, kad esate žmogus su gerais ketinimais.
Kalbėdamiesi su draugu, atkreipkite dėmesį į jo ar jos teigiamus ketinimus. Koks jausmas juos matyti? Stenkitės tai daryti reguliariai su jums brangiais žmonėmis. Pastebėjau, kad tai padeda man geriau suprasti kitus ir atveria mano širdį. Kai tinka, papasakokite kitam žmogui, ko išmokote; girdėti, kad pripažįstami geri kito žmogaus ketinimai, gali būti stipri patirtis.
Pabandykite įžvelgti gerus ketinimus nepažįstamuosiuose, einančiuose gatve – ar oro uoste. Pamatysite daug mandagumo, pastangų gerai atlikti savo darbą, noro suprasti arba būti suprastam, ištikimybės draugams ir tikslams, sąžiningumo ir gerumo. Ši praktika mane džiugina ir suteikia stipresnį bendro žmogiškumo jausmą.
Taip pat pabandykite tai daryti su žmonėmis, su kuriais jums sunku susidoroti. Tai nereiškia, kad jie būtų pateisinami. Tačiau ironiška, bet matydami gerus ketinimus blogo elgesio fone, galite jaustis mažiau paveikti kitų žmonių – mažiau stresuoti, susierzinti ar nerimauti. Taip pat galite paprašyti kitų atpažinti jumyse gerus ketinimus.
Kiekviename iš mūsų, įskaitant ir tą, kuris žvelgia į veidrodį, slypi šventumo žarija. Gerų ketinimų atpažinimas įpučia tą žariją, įpila jai kuro ir padeda jai išaugti į šiltą ir gražią liepsną.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!