Nagmamadali sa isang airport, huminto ako para bumili ng tubig. Sa refrigerator ng tindahan, nakayuko ang isang lalaki, naglalagay ng mga bote dito. Lumapit ako sa kanya at inilabas ang isa na ilalagay niya. Tumingala siya, huminto sa pagtatrabaho, kumuha ng bote mula sa isa pang istante, at inabot ito sa akin, at sinabing "Ang lamig nito." Nagpasalamat ako at kinuha yung inalok niya.
Hindi niya ako kilala at hindi na niya ako makikita pa. Ang kanyang trabaho ay medyas, hindi serbisyo sa customer. Busy siya at mukhang pagod. Ngunit naglaan siya ng oras upang irehistro na nakakuha ako ng isang mainit na bote, at siya ay may sapat na pag-aalaga upang ilipat ang mga gears at palamigin ako. Binati niya ako ng maayos.
Nakikita ko ang magiliw niyang mga mata habang nagsusulat ako ngayon, makalipas ang isang linggo. Isa lang itong bote ng tubig. Ngunit nakaramdam ako ng init sa kanyang kabaitan at nasasabik sa kanyang mabuting hangarin.
Ang pagkilala sa mga positibong intensyon sa iba, pakiramdam namin ay mas ligtas, mas suportado, at mas masaya. At kapag naramdaman ng iba na nakukuha mo ang kanilang mabubuting intensyon, pakiramdam nila ay nakikita, pinahahalagahan, at mas gusto nilang tratuhin ka nang maayos.
Ngunit maaaring mahirap kilalanin ang mabuting kalooban sa iba. Kami ay abala at nadidistract at stressed. Ang mga positibong layunin ay madalas na nakabaon sa ilalim ng mga negatibong pag-uugali. Ang likas na negatibiti bias ng utak ay patuloy na naghahanap ng masamang balita, masamang intensyon. Ang utak ay tumutugon din sa bago, kaya malamang na balewalain ang maraming positibong intensyon na lumaganap sa karamihan ng pang-araw-araw na buhay habang binibigyang pansin ang paminsan-minsang mga negatibo.
Kaya kailangan mong aktibong maghanap ng mabubuting hangarin. Pagkatapos ay makikita mo silang lahat sa paligid mo—isang bintana sa malalim na kabutihan sa bawat nilalang, gaano man ito nakakubli.
Paano?
Maglaan ng isang minuto upang makilala ang maraming mabubuting intensyon—mga layunin, layunin, hangarin—na mayroon ka sa isang karaniwang araw.
Ang mabuting hangarin ay hindi kailangang maging banal. Gustong mag-enjoy sa isang tasa ng kape, kumain ng disenteng almusal, i-lock ang pinto sa likod mo, pumasok sa trabaho sa oras, maging matapat, pakiramdam na ligtas, alagaan ang isang pamilya, maging isang disenteng tao, maiwasan ang gulo, hindi masaktan, tamasahin ang matamis, hindi makipag-away, mabuhay upang makita ang pagsikat ng araw—lahat ito ay mabuting hangarin.
Karamihan sa mga mabuting hangarin ay magiging maliit. Ngunit mahalaga pa rin sila. Isipin mo na lang ang mga sakuna kung papalitan mo ng masama ang iyong mabuting hangarin! Oo naman, ang ilang intensyon ay hindi masyadong maganda, tulad ng pagnanais na mangibabaw, kumilos ng nakakahumaling na pagnanasa, o magtapon ng negatibong damdamin sa iba. Ngunit para sa halos lahat, ang karamihan sa mga intensyon ay mabuti. Hayaan itong maging isang pakiramdam, isang malakas na pakiramdam sa iyong katawan, na ikaw ay isang taong may mabuting hangarin.
Pakikipag-usap sa isang kaibigan, magkaroon ng kamalayan sa kanyang mga positibong intensyon. Ano ang pakiramdam na makita sila? Subukan ito nang regular sa mga taong pinapahalagahan mo. Nalaman ko na ang paggawa nito ay nakakatulong sa akin na mas maunawaan ang iba at nagbubukas ng aking puso. Kung naaangkop, sabihin sa ibang tao kung ano ang iyong natutunan; ang pagdinig ng pagkilala sa mabubuting hangarin ng isang tao ay maaaring maging isang makapangyarihang karanasan.
Subukang makakita ng magandang intensyon sa mga estranghero na naglalakad sa kalye—o sa isang airport. Makakakita ka ng maraming kagandahang-loob, pagsisikap na gumawa ng magandang trabaho, pagnanais na maunawaan o maunawaan, katapatan sa mga kaibigan at layunin, patas na laro, at kabaitan. Ang pagsasanay na ito ay nagpapasaya sa akin, at nagbibigay sa akin ng mas malakas na pakiramdam ng ating karaniwang sangkatauhan.
Subukan din ito sa mga taong mahirap para sa iyo. Ito ay hindi upang patawarin sila. Ngunit ang nakikitang mabubuting intensyon sa gitna ng masasamang pag-uugali ay maaaring, kabalintunaan, ay makakatulong sa iyong pakiramdam na hindi gaanong apektado—hindi gaanong na-stress, naiirita, o nag-aalala—ng ibang tao. Maaari mo ring hilingin sa iba na kilalanin ang mabuting hangarin sa iyo.
May isang baga ng kabanalan sa bawat isa sa atin, kasama na ang pagbabalik tanaw sa salamin. Ang pagkilala sa mabubuting intensyon ay pumutok sa baga na iyon, nagdaragdag ng panggatong dito, at tinutulungan itong maging mainit at magandang apoy.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!