Läbi lennujaama kihutades peatusin, et vett osta. Poe külmkapi juures oli küürus mees, kes laadis sinna pudeleid. Sirutasin käe temast mööda ja tõmbasin välja ühe, mille ta oli sinna pannud. Ta vaatas üles, lõpetas töö, võttis teiselt riiulilt pudeli, ulatas selle mulle ja ütles: "See on külm." Tänasin ja võtsin pakutud pudeli vastu.
Ta ei tundnud mind ja ei näeks mind enam kunagi. Tema töö oli varude varumine, mitte klienditeenindus. Ta oli hõivatud ja nägi väsinud välja. Aga ta võttis aega, et märkida, et olin saanud sooja pudeli, ja ta hoolis piisavalt, et vahetada suunda ja tuua mulle külm. Ta soovis mulle edu.
Näen tema sõbralikke silmi ka praegu, nädal hiljem, kirjutades. See oli kõigest veepudel. Aga tema lahkus soojendab mind ja head kavatsused julgustavad mind.
Teiste positiivsete kavatsuste äratundmine annab meile turvalisema, toetatuma ja õnnelikuma tunde. Ja kui teised tunnevad, et saame nende head kavatsused teoks, tunnevad nad end nähtuna ja hinnatuna ning on altimad sind hästi kohtlema.
Kuid teistes head tahet võib olla raske märgata. Me oleme hõivatud, hajameelsed ja stressis. Positiivsed eesmärgid on sageli maetud negatiivse käitumise taha. Aju kaasasündinud negatiivsuse eelarvamus otsib pidevalt halbu uudiseid ja halbu kavatsusi. Aju reageerib ka uudsusele, seega kipub see ignoreerima paljusid positiivseid kavatsusi, mis läbivad suurema osa igapäevaelust, tuues samal ajal esile aeg-ajalt esinevaid negatiivseid.
Seega pead aktiivselt otsima häid kavatsusi. Siis leiad need kõikjalt enda ümbert – akna iga olendi sügavasse headusse, ükskõik kui varjatud see ka poleks.
Kuidas?
Võta minut aega, et märgata paljusid häid kavatsusi – eesmärke, sihte, soove –, mis sul tüüpilises päevas on.
Head kavatsused ei pea olema pühakulikud. Soov nautida tassi kohvi, süüa korralikku hommikusööki, lukustada uks enda järel, jõuda õigel ajal tööle, olla kohusetundlik, tunda end turvaliselt, hoolitseda perekonna eest, olla korralik inimene, vältida probleeme, vähem haiget saada, nautida midagi magusat, mitte tülitseda, elada päikesetõusuni – need kõik on head kavatsused.
Enamik häid kavatsusi on väikesed. Aga need on ikkagi olulised. Kujutage vaid ette katastroofe, kui asendaksite oma head kavatsused halbadega! Muidugi, mõned kavatsused pole nii head, näiteks soov domineerida, sõltuvust tekitavaid ihasid ellu viia või negatiivseid tundeid teistele külvata. Aga peaaegu igaühe jaoks on valdav enamus kavatsustest head. Laske sel muutuda tundeks, tugevaks mõistuseks oma kehas, et olete keegi heade kavatsustega.
Sõbraga vesteldes ole teadlik tema positiivsetest kavatsustest. Mis tunne on neid näha? Proovi seda regulaarselt inimestega, kellest hoolid. Leian, et see aitab mul teisi paremini mõista ja avab mu südame. Vajadusel räägi teisele inimesele, mida oled õppinud; kellegi heade kavatsuste tunnustamine võib olla võimas kogemus.
Proovige näha tänaval või lennujaamas kõndivates võõrastes häid kavatsusi. Näete palju viisakusi, pingutusi head tööd teha, soovi mõista või olla mõistetud, lojaalsust sõpradele ja eesmärkidele, ausat mängu ja lahkust. See praktika teeb mind õnnelikuks ja annab mulle tugevama tunde meie ühisest inimlikkusest.
Proovi seda ka inimestega, kellega sul on raskusi. See ei ole mõeldud nende vabandamiseks. Aga heade kavatsuste nägemine halva käitumise keskel võib iroonilisel kombel aidata sul tunda end teiste inimeste poolt vähem mõjutatuna – vähem stressis, ärritununa või murelikuna. Võid ka paluda teistel sinus häid kavatsusi ära tunda.
Igas meis on pühaduse hõõg, kaasa arvatud selles, kes peeglisse vaatab. Heade kavatsuste äratundmine puhub sellele hõõgõgle, lisab sellele kütust ja aitab sel kasvada soojaks ja ilusaks leegiks.
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This is a great article and it is true that so many things we do in a day, or automatically are just to look after ourselves/others and we are all filled with good intentions/
Rabbi Moses Cordovero: "Remember all human beings always in the innocence of their infancy."
nice
article (technically)..but I surely see also the danger as pointed out by the
reply of Bei Yin. To ad also a critical but appreciating comment. It's not
entirely about the article but about it's base/ foundation. actually the first
sentence,, .'let our intentions be good.' What is good? what is intention? what
is the action (of letting be)? We write about it if intention and good are two
separate things. If there is a commonsense or common-consensus of 'good' and
the values that this contains and that intention is a thing we let
happen. Maybe it’s just me, and that is certainly the case, but I see things
this way; If one doesn’t dissociate oneself
from his or her intention and trains oneself to walk in line with this
intention we won’t have to spend energy in forging ourselves on terms like good
or intention. We wouldn’t have to spend any energy in creating world images of
good behavior and their fruits. Instead we would just create, we do every
moment. And the fact that there are billions of people around just means you
are not alone, make use of that instead of convicting it.
Thank you, Rick
Hanson for the article, Grenville Kleisser for the quote, Bei Yin for drawing
my attention to it, ‘dailygood’ for placing and distributing it on internet,
internet for the world wide context, and the world for creating this medium….special
thanks to creation (the action and the result….)
Just one
[Hide Full Comment]thing: If my intention is commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention? If my intention is not commonsense than what is it that makes it ‘my’
intention?
Napoleon Hill wrote about how the tipping point of economic failure to economic recovery post great depression was based on the shift from a sense of service. Much like the man who handed you the cold bottle of water. It's that subtle a difference in giving consciousness that can change the world. Great post!
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones."
[Hide Full Comment](Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset. - But at least it might trigger some thoughts that are not just influenced by ones need for confirmation...
--- Or is this too much and so unwanted by the moderator?
--- "It can be hard to recognize the goodwill in others. We’re busy and distracted and stressed. Positive aims are often buried beneath negative behaviors. The brain’s innate negativity bias is
[Hide Full Comment]continually scanning for bad news, bad intentions. The brain also reacts to novelty, so it tends to ignore the many positive intentions that pervade most daily life while spotlighting the occasional negative ones." (Quote from Rick Hanson's article)
--- My comment: The obvious fact is, that we are all manipulated and programmed from a
society that has its base on a materialistic world view. This was upgraded during centuries with religious and spiritual beliefs and confirmed in our times by intellectual scientific views and concepts. Lifestyle or behavior of people hardly have changed to a better one, in contrary: the ways and tricks to survive with ones established personality are developing with the same speed as the level of stress is rising up, with the result of disease and destruction on all levels of existence. It's easy to understand, that out of our misery and suffering, we are looking for a new way to survive...
--- Now you have the 'good intention' to manipulate the brain by 'seeing the good intention in others!' Do you really think that you can cover up the daily reality every body is facing, by using a 'positive scam' on oneself? Do you think this will change anything about the *cause*?
Wouldn't it be a better intention to find out about the real reason why we are not finding real satisfaction in our existence? Using another trick can't be a creative way to help in our growing process!
--- Since nearly forty years my (good) intention is to point to a way to go beyond ones limited view, but part of the condition of people is, that they cling on their state of being and only want to be confirmed in it, so not being open for any thing else. It seems that people must suffer much more, before they ask some critical questions about not only their surrounding, but also about themselves. At the moment all questions are answered by the established mindset from society, anything else is ignored and rejected. As long this behavior is not questioned, there is no way out. So what might be your *question*? That for sure I will answer, with the 'good intention' to have an exchange from that every body around can benefit...
--- What I have written here comes out of my 'best intention' to share what is the result from my life long experience and has helped me to grow beyond my limited personality, freeing myself in a creative and healthy way... Realizing something for myself, that can't be described by words, - only can be *lived* and so expressed through my *energy*! Then, when expressed in this writing, can easily be misunderstood, as it depends totally on the interpretation from the readers mindset.
Thanks for the article!
Love this! Thank you.
So true, we see what we focus upon! thank you for the reminder.
The following sentence really made me think. "Just imagine the disasters if you replaced your good intentions with bad ones!" Thank you!