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Dalai Lama Kwa Nini Nacheka

Nimekabiliwa na matatizo mengi katika kipindi chote cha maisha yangu, na nchi yangu inapitia kipindi kigumu. Lakini mimi hucheka mara nyingi, na kicheko changu kinaambukiza. Watu wanaponiuliza ninapataje nguvu ya kucheka sasa, mimi hujibu kwamba mimi ni mtaalamu wa kicheko. [...]

Maisha ya uhamishoni ni maisha ya bahati mbaya, lakini siku zote nimejaribu kukuza hali ya furaha ya akili, nikithamini fursa hii ya kuwepo bila makazi, mbali na itifaki yote, imenipa. Kwa njia hii nimeweza kuhifadhi amani yangu ya ndani.

Ikiwa tunatosheka tu kufikiri kwamba huruma, busara, na subira ni nzuri, hiyo haitoshi kwa kweli kusitawisha sifa hizi. Ugumu hutoa fursa ya kuziweka katika vitendo. Ni nani anayeweza kufanya matukio kama haya kutokea? Hakika si marafiki zetu, bali ni maadui zetu, kwani wao ndio wanaoleta matatizo zaidi. Ili kweli tunataka kuendelea kwenye njia, ni lazima tuwachukulie adui zetu kama walimu wetu bora.

Kwa yeyote anayeshikilia upendo na huruma kwa heshima kubwa, mazoezi ya uvumilivu ni muhimu, na inahitaji adui. Ni lazima tuwe na shukrani kwa adui zetu, basi, kwa sababu hutusaidia zaidi kukuza akili tulivu! Hasira na chuki ni maadui wa kweli ambao tunapaswa kukabiliana nao na kuwashinda, sio "maadui" ambao huonekana mara kwa mara katika maisha yetu.

Bila shaka ni kawaida na sawa kwamba sisi sote tunataka kuwa na marafiki. Mara nyingi mimi husema kwa utani kwamba mtu mwenye ubinafsi kweli lazima awe mfadhili! Unapaswa kuwajali wengine, ustawi wao, kwa kuwasaidia na kuwahudumia, kuwa na marafiki wengi zaidi na kufanya tabasamu kuchanua zaidi. Matokeo? Wakati wewe mwenyewe unahitaji msaada, utapata yote unayohitaji! Kwa upande mwingine, ukipuuza furaha ya wengine, utakuwa mtu wa hasara baada ya muda mrefu. Je, urafiki hutokana na mabishano, hasira, wivu, na ushindani usiozuilika? Sidhani hivyo. Mapenzi pekee ndio yanazalisha marafiki wa kweli. […]

Kama mimi, siku zote nataka marafiki zaidi. Ninapenda tabasamu, na nia yangu ni kuona tabasamu nyingi zaidi, tabasamu za kweli, kwa kuwa kuna aina nyingi—za kejeli, za bandia, au za kidiplomasia. Baadhi ya tabasamu hazichochei uradhi wowote, na nyingine hata husababisha mashaka au woga. Tabasamu la kweli, hata hivyo, huamsha hisia halisi ya upya, na nadhani tabasamu ni la wanadamu pekee. Ikiwa tunataka tabasamu hizo, lazima tutengeneze sababu zinazofanya zionekane.

-- Dalai Lama, katika sehemu ya kitabu chake "Safari Yangu ya Kiroho".

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tenzin Dec 30, 2025
Thank you for this gentle reminder not to give in to pessimism. And cultivate a good heart and a reason to smile. Kundun, you have been through so much, from being handed the fate of a country during adolescence to receiving endless news of the suffering and loss of our people in occupied Tibet. Yet instead of being reclusive or embittered, you chose responsibility, not just for 7 million Tibetans, but for all beings on this planet. Tashi Delek.
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Brion Weintzweig Jul 12, 2014

I once heard "if you want to predict the future look at the past". Someday in the future, enemies will be friends. Hope they look far enough now.

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WhitelotusJan Jun 27, 2014

This is the eastern way and we can gain a lot from this advice...we learn much more from our troubles than we do from our pleasures. The knee-jerk reaction is to be negative in one way or another when something goes wrong or someone offends you. It takes good soul qualities to turn a negative reaction around and exude light instead. When you think about it, it's only natural to be grateful for your best teachers. If you don't understand the entire teaching behind the Dalai Lama's sage advice, it might seem odd. There are many places to learn about it.

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Kami Jun 27, 2014

This (the quote from Dalai Lama) is the worst advice ever!!! It's just like the doctors, giving you advice on how to treat the symptoms instead of the real CAUSE of those symptoms. Which, to any person of even average intellignece, will be more of harm than of use in the long run. A lot, if not most of this is explained in this book: http://www.carnism.org/2012...

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Kristin Pedemonti Jun 27, 2014

Yes! Laughter, kindness and joy are infectious in a good way. Here's to showing we care by sharing. Hugs from my heart to.yours! Kristin