我一生中经历过许多困难，我的国家也正处于一个关键时期。但我经常开怀大笑，而且我的笑声很有感染力。当人们问我现在哪来的勇气笑的时候，我会回答说，我是个职业笑匠。[...]
流亡的生活固然不幸，但我始终努力保持乐观的心态，珍惜这种居无定所、远离尘嚣的生活带给我的种种机遇。正因如此，我才能保持内心的平静。
如果我们仅仅满足于认为同情心、理性思维和耐心是好的品质，那实际上并不足以培养这些品质。困难为我们提供了实践这些品质的机会。谁能制造这样的机会呢？当然不是我们的朋友，而是我们的敌人，因为他们才是制造最多麻烦的人。因此，如果我们真心想在修行道路上进步，就必须把敌人视为我们最好的老师。
对于珍视爱与慈悲的人来说，宽容的修行至关重要，而宽容需要一个敌人。因此，我们应该感谢我们的敌人，因为他们能帮助我们更好地培养内心的平静！愤怒和仇恨才是我们必须面对和战胜的真正敌人，而不是生活中不时出现的那些“敌人”。
当然，我们都渴望拥有朋友，这是人之常情，也是理所应当的。我常开玩笑说，真正自私的人一定是无私的！你必须关心他人，关心他们的福祉，帮助他们，为他们服务，这样才能结交更多朋友，让更多笑容绽放。结果呢？当你自己需要帮助时，你就能找到所需的一切！反之，如果你忽视他人的幸福，长远来看，你终将成为输家。友谊难道是建立在争吵、愤怒、嫉妒和无休止的竞争之上的吗？我不这么认为。只有真挚的感情才能孕育真正的友谊。[…]
至于我，我总是渴望拥有更多的朋友。我喜欢笑容，也希望看到更多真诚的笑容，因为笑容有很多种——讽刺的、虚假的、外交辞令式的。有些笑容并不能带来任何愉悦，有些甚至会引发怀疑或恐惧。然而，一个发自内心的笑容，却能唤起一种清新自然的感受，我认为笑容只属于人类。如果我们想要拥有这样的笑容，就必须创造让它们出现的理由。
——摘自达赖喇嘛的著作《我的精神之旅》。
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I once heard "if you want to predict the future look at the past". Someday in the future, enemies will be friends. Hope they look far enough now.
This is the eastern way and we can gain a lot from this advice...we learn much more from our troubles than we do from our pleasures. The knee-jerk reaction is to be negative in one way or another when something goes wrong or someone offends you. It takes good soul qualities to turn a negative reaction around and exude light instead. When you think about it, it's only natural to be grateful for your best teachers. If you don't understand the entire teaching behind the Dalai Lama's sage advice, it might seem odd. There are many places to learn about it.
This (the quote from Dalai Lama) is the worst advice ever!!! It's just like the doctors, giving you advice on how to treat the symptoms instead of the real CAUSE of those symptoms. Which, to any person of even average intellignece, will be more of harm than of use in the long run. A lot, if not most of this is explained in this book: http://www.carnism.org/2012...
Yes! Laughter, kindness and joy are infectious in a good way. Here's to showing we care by sharing. Hugs from my heart to.yours! Kristin