是时候提升我们对爱情的看法了。首先，爱情是一种情感，一种短暂的状态，它会同时渗透到你的身心。
爱，如同所有情感，如同清晰而快速变化的天气模式，一种微妙而变幻莫测的力量。如同所有积极的情感一样，爱带给你的内在感受是与生俱来且无比愉悦的——它感觉格外美好，就像在炎热的夏日里畅饮一杯清凉甘甜的水。然而，爱带来的远不止于此，如同其他积极的情感一样，哪怕只是短暂的一瞬，也能真正改变你的心智。它拓展你对周围环境的感知，甚至拓展你对自我的认知。你与“非我”之间的界限——超越你皮肤之外的事物——变得模糊，更加通透。当爱浸润其中时，你不再那么在意自己与他人之间的差异。事实上，你真正地、全心全意地看待他人的能力会豁然开朗。爱甚至可以赋予你一种真切的合一感和联结感，一种超越自我的体验，让你觉得自己是远比自身更宏大的事物的一部分。爱，如同所有情感，如同清晰而快速变化的天气模式，一种微妙而变幻莫测的力量。我想与你们分享的关于爱的新观点是：只要两个人或两个人以上——甚至是陌生人——因为共同的积极情感（无论这种情感是轻微的还是强烈的）而联系在一起，爱就会萌芽。
如果你在西方文化中长大，你很可能认为情感在很大程度上是私人的。你将它们局限于个人的边界之内，局限于他们的思想和皮肤之内。在谈论情感时，你使用单数所有格形容词恰恰暴露了这种观点。你会说“我的焦虑”、“他的愤怒”或“她的兴趣”。按照这种逻辑，爱似乎只属于感受到它的人。然而，将爱定义为积极共鸣则挑战了这种观点。爱在人与人之间——在人际交往中——展开和回响，因此它属于所有相关方，也属于将他们联系在一起的隐喻性纽带，尽管这种联系是暂时的。因此，与其他任何积极情感相比，爱更不属于一个人，而是属于两个人或一群人。它存在于各种联系之中。
或许最具挑战性的一点是，爱既非永恒，也非无条件。我们需要做出的根本性转变是：爱，就你的身体体验而言，是与他人共享的短暂联结。数十年的研究表明，爱，如果被视为这些积极联结的短暂瞬间，就能强化大脑与心脏之间的连接，使你更健康。[...] 仅仅持续短暂的体验竟能对你的健康和寿命产生持久的影响，这或许令人惊讶。然而，这里存在一个重要的反馈循环，一种在你社交健康和身体健康之间良性循环的良性发展。也就是说，你感受到的爱的短暂瞬间不仅让你更健康，而更健康的身体也增强了你爱的能力。爱通过改善你的健康，一点一滴地孕育爱；而健康又通过增强你爱的能力，滋养健康。
——芭芭拉·弗雷德里克森，《爱情2.0》
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True Story! And this is one of many reasons why I never leave home without my FREE HUGS sign. Even those micro moments of love shared lead to larger moments of conversation and connection. Thank you for sharing a lovely post.
Really great stuff, and I couldn't agree more.
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I like what she says, and I recognize it. The flashes of mutual appreciation and affection that are possible on the street, or when buying coffee, or among co-workers - these are very real forms of love. And like the long-term love spoken of in the post above, they give life.
This is an interesting concept and i agree with it at the level of the article. However love can be lasting and unconditional, once one escapes the cultural stories and recognizes the male journey construct that has prefaced our knowledge for quite some time. When more of us realize that quantum physics when applied, changes everything our viewpoints will shift. What this has to do with love, is that love is the feeling attached to evolution, consciousness and as i suspect how they interact. Love is an emotion and a verb, a noun and a link. Love via our western culture has been shaped to be something very, well shallow. Romance, bonding mechanism, happy ever after, the rush, lust divided into terms..really how quaint, no? The stories we inherit affect the beliefs we actualize. So moving into a co creative paradigm, past the procreative (make more humans) we will start to embrace the whole of our emotional states and the full psyche of free will. That story is part of the new narrative. Any others working on this big picture change? Please let me know!!
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