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časťou tohto príbehu je, že som tomu veril. Počas nasledujúcich 15 rokov som tento záver nikdy nespochybnil. Myslím si, že prílišná vedecká objektivita vás môže oslepiť.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Čo si o tom myslíte teraz?</p><p> DR. REMEN: Myslím si, že to bolo jedno z najčistejších stretnutí s tajomstvom, aké som kedy v živote zažil. Núti ma to premýšľať o tom, kto sme, čo je pre nás možné, ako tento svet v skutočnosti funguje. Nemám odpovede, ale mám veľa otázok a tieto otázky mi pomohli žiť lepšie ako akékoľvek odpovede, ktoré by som mohol nájsť.</p><p> [ <em>hudba: „Hem“ od Tvärvägen</em> ]</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Volám sa Krista Tippettová a toto je <em>relácia O bytí</em> . Dnes s Dr. Rachel Naomi Remenovou.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Zaujalo ma, keď píšete o práci s lekármi – snažíte sa im pomôcť zmieriť sa so stratou a pochopiť ju ako súčasť ich práce, ich života, ich pracovného života. Ale opäť hovoríte o lekároch, ale nakoniec uvádzate zaujímavé postrehy, ktoré sa týkajú nás všetkých ostatných, o strate. Povedzte mi, čo ste sa o strate naučili.</p><p> DR. REMEN: No, teraz spustíme päťhodinový… [ <em>smiech</em> ] Menší, Krista, urob to menšie. [ <em>smiech</em> ]</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Dobre teda. Tu je veta, ktorú som si napísala: „Spôsob, akým sa vyrovnávame so stratou, formuje našu schopnosť byť prítomní v živote viac ako čokoľvek iné. Spôsob, akým sa chránime pred stratou, môže byť spôsobom, akým sa od života dištancujeme.“</p><p> DR. REMEN: Myslím si, že je to úplná pravda.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: To je naozaj šokujúca myšlienka.</p><p> DR. REMEN: Myslím si, že je to správne. Tiež si myslím, že nikto sa necíti pohodlne so stratou. Keďže sme technologická kultúra, naším želaním alebo našou prvou reakciou na stratu je pokúsiť sa ju napraviť. Keď sme v prítomnosti straty, ktorú nemožno napraviť, čo je veľmi veľa strát, cítime sa bezmocní a nepríjemne a máme tendenciu utekať, buď emocionálne, alebo sa skutočne dištancovať. A náprava je príliš malá stratégia na to, aby sme sa so stratou vyrovnali. To, čo učíme študentov, je niečo veľmi jednoduché.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Študenti medicíny?</p><p> DR. REMEN: Áno. Učíme ich silu ich prítomnosti, jednoducho byť tam, počúvať a byť svedkami inej osoby a starať sa o stratu inej osoby, nechať ju brať do úvahy. Máme šesť hodín venovaných strate, dve trojhodinové sedenia, a študenti majú veľmi jednoduchý pokyn, a to, že sú požiadaní, aby si spomenuli na príbeh o strate zo svojho vlastného života a o strate – povedzme to inak – o čase, keď sa veci nevyvíjali podľa ich predstáv, keď boli sklamaní, keď stratili sen, vzťah alebo dokonca člena rodiny, smrť.</p><p> Môžu si to vybrať a potom strávia šesť hodín v malých skupinách rozprávaním o svojej strate. A skupina má jeden pokyn: Veľkoryso počúvať. Teraz, pred týmto cvičením, s nimi urobíme ďalšie cvičenie, v ktorom ich požiadame, aby si spomenuli na čas sklamania a straty a aby si spomenuli na niekoho, kto im pomohol. Čo táto osoba urobila? Čo povedala? Aké posolstvo odovzdala, ktoré im pomohlo v ťažkom období ich života? A tieto veci si veľmi konkrétne zapíšu. Potom ich požiadame, aby si spomenuli na čas straty vo svojom živote a spomenuli si na niekoho, kto im chcel pomôcť, ale nepomohol im. Čo táto osoba urobila a povedala, aké posolstvo odovzdala a ako ho odovzdala? A to si zapíšu.</p><p> A potom si urobíme veľký zoznam. „Čo všetko pomohlo?“ „Počúvali ma tak dlho, ako som potreboval.“ „Rozprávali sa so mnou rovnakým spôsobom po mojej strate ako pred mojou stratou.“ „Sedeli so mnou.“ „Dotýkali sa ma.“ „Priniesli mi jedlo.“ Čo nepomohlo? „Dali mi radu bez toho, aby poznali celý príbeh.“ „Prinútili ma cítiť sa, že strata bola moja chyba.“ Takže sme od skupiny asi sto študentov a fakulty zhromaždili múdrosť o tom, čo pomáha zotaviť sa zo straty, a všetko je to veľmi jednoduché. A jediný pokyn je: Počúvajte štedro.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Opäť ma to privádza späť k tomu, ako sme začali hovoriť o sile príbehov v ľudských životoch, a k vašej analógii, že príbehy sú mäsom, ktoré dávame na kosti faktov o našich životoch. Myslím si, že je veľmi silné len premýšľať o tomto zjavnom fakte, ale opäť jeden z týchto zjavných faktov, ktoré veľmi často nemenujeme, je, že strata nie je len katastrofálna smrť. V našich životoch existuje neustále veľa rôznych druhov strát a potom táto úžasná myšlienka, ktorú prinášate, že spôsob, akým sa s týmito stratami vyrovnávame, veľkými aj malými, môže skutočne pomôcť alebo prekážať spôsobu, akým sa vyrovnávame so zvyškom nášho života, s tým, čo máme. Nielen s tým, čo sme stratili.</p><p> DR. REMENOVÁ: Myslím si, že je to tak. Naozaj. Ako by som to mala povedať? Väčšina ľudí sa snaží držať veci, ktorá už nie je súčasťou ich života, a týmto spôsobom sa vo svojom živote zastavia. Začala som vnímať stratu ako fázu procesu. Nie je to podstata. Nie je to koniec príbehu. To, čo sa stane potom, je veľmi, veľmi dôležité. A ľudia reagujú na straty rôznymi spôsobmi. Keď som prvýkrát ochorela, bola som zúrivá. Nenávidela som všetkých zdravých ľudí. Cítila som sa ako obeť a to bolo nespravodlivé. Hnevala som sa asi 10 rokov. Myslím si, že všetok ten hnev bola moja vôľa žiť vyjadrená veľmi negatívnym spôsobom.</p><p> Ľudia sa často hnevajú v situácii strašnej straty. Často závidia iným ľuďom a toto je východiskový bod. Ale časom sa veci vyvíjajú a menia. A prinajmenšom si ľudia, ktorí veľa stratili, dokážu uvedomiť, že nie sú obeťami, ale pozostalými. Sú to ľudia, ktorí našli silu prekonať niečo, čo si v minulosti možno dokázali predstaviť. A stačí sa ľudí opýtať: „Utrpeli ste naozaj hlbokú stratu. Na čo ste sa odvolávali, aby ste získali svoju silu?“ Väčšina ľudí si svoju silu ani nevšimla. Sú úplne sústredení na svoju bolesť.</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Kvôli ich prehre.</p><p> DR. REMEN: Na ich bolesť. A nie je to prirodzené, Krista?</p><p> PANI TIPPETTOVÁ: Vo vašom písaní je cítiť niečo veľmi nádejné, aj keď ide o stratu a ťažkú, temnú stránku ľudskej bytosti. 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