Mary Pipher is a clinical psychologist in Lincoln, Neb., and the author of the #1 New York Times’ bestseller, Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, in addition to 9 other books. Her most recent book is Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age.
Who is this Bonnie telling people to unsubscribe? I love reading these comments. I am a 57 year old who is struggling with what to do with my life and where I am going. Knowing that others are in their happy place gives me hope. Denise Gillen and Osel lhamo give me hope that there is a good future in store. Osel, your words are almost lyrical. I loved reading them. To Bonnie, stop trying to silence people. None have been offensive or off- topic.
At the ripe 'old age' of 66, I quit my job, moved my son's family into my house in Southern California and moved to Costa Rica to volunteer at a wildlife rehab facility. One and a half years later, I'm still here, knowing that I'm living my life to the fullest extent and making a difference in the world as well. I plan to continue this work for many more years. I encourage everyone to keep going and definitely live your passion!
I have reached the ripe age of 87. I am happily married to my best friend Joe, and we both wake up every morning with a smile on our face.We are both active and are avid readers. I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't have this, but I know a happy life does not depend entirely on having a partner. I was happy before I met Joe 12 years ago. As one of the people quoted in the author's book said, "you have everything you need between your ears."
Yes, but we also have a huge population of older orphan formerly free female caregivers who do not have the same level of care and advocacy they gave to others...orphan elder female former caregivers die fast in ursing homes for lack of visitors and advocates...We counted on "if I help you then you will help me when I need it....." It works less and less. We didn't start chosen family faster enough because we thought the families we were caring for would help us as needed later. Many of us were born too soon and stayed too poor for all these vast choices we are al sopposed to have now....We either lived too long or we were born too late...
Mary Pipher, a beautiful piece of writing. so good to read today
I became teary as I read this beautiful article. It described me to a t! I don't feel old, although 69 is no spring chicken. I have enthusiasm about so many things and ideas. It is too late to find a best friend I can unload on. (moved too many times) but I don't know, maybe today I will bump into her somewhere. Thank you for this wonderful start to my day. xxx
Love reading this. I started writing at 60 and decided in my book series to make an older woman's invisibility into a power. My books are about older women.
i stoppped counting the years when i turned fifty
in spanish its a joke SIN-CUENTAS!
and i started to celebrate my dreams while i am alive
particularly recommendable is yoga troniks!
AIKICHIDO Y OMETEOYOGA are my sources of eternal renewable youth
which is health which is wealth which is wisdom!
A beautiful and well written piece dripping with sage wisdom and sweet, unfettered joy. Thank you Mary for inspiring this 27 year old. I look forward to the richness life will bring.
'There is an amazing calculus in old age. As much is taken away, we find more to love and appreciate. We experience bliss on a regular basis. As one friend said: “When I was young I needed sexual ecstasy or a hike to the top of a mountain to experience bliss. Now I can feel it when I look at a caterpillar on my garden path.” That's funny - I have always found bliss in nature - caterpillars or trees- regardless of my age..
IT is not just in USA !! IT is quite global and it is very much present in Urban populations in India..Ageism takes different shapes.. From employment scene to social, people even within the same gender tend to discriminate.
It's too bad the short bio at the end of the article didn't mention her latest book, Women Rowing North, since it is all about women growing older. For this Boomer woman with only 3 years to go until I reach 70, the book was comforting and encouraging.
Excellent, thank you! Would love to read more.
Mary - thank you for this wonderful tribute to women of age. I'm 68 and relate to your outlook quite well. Yes, we tend to be more comfortable with who we are and what we want. Friendships are very important. Acting on your own behalf is the basis of well-being.